I have been reading Stories of Hawaii by Jack London (a great writer and a great read). In one of the stories, he refers to the very young marriages of Chinese peasants because there is nothing else for them. Back in the days when education was not available, when life spans were shorter, when work was back breaking, things were different.
What a pity that young JW's are not encouraged to develop themselves, get an education, travel and meet new people, and find who they really are. Only then is one ready for a relationship to last a lifetime.
I was a young JW once. At age 22, I married a 31-year-old elder. When I realized that becoming a JW (at age 15, convert) had not made me a better person, it was necessary, for mental health and, possibly, survival, to leave my husband and the borg simultaneously.
Subsequently, I married a man (an ex-JW friend introduced us) I loved dearly and still do. He could not handle having my daughter and granddaughter around because he was, and (I believe) still is, an alcoholic. He is an intelligent, articulate, amazing person, but I cannot live with him. So sad.
Regards,
SandraC