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  Now Elders Are Making Elderly & Infirm Feel Guilty For "Being Hooked Up"!

  by minimus in

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  my mom as well as a few others are "hooked up by phone" to the meetings.

  lately, the elders are saying in their talks that if a brother or sister could be at the meetings but instead are "hooked up", then they are hurting jehovah by not having regular association with the "friends" at the kingdom hall.

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  Oh ... my ... Good ... Lord !!!

  ((((Gill and so many others with horror stories on this thread))))) !!!!

  Inconsiderate ignorami !!! (or is that ignoramuses?)

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  I just talked to my mom about my sexual abuse.

  by kwintestal in

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  2. child-abuse

  i have been having a really crappy day (except for the 2 hours i had coffee and chat with talesin .

  i can't believe how understanding and co-operative they were.

  my mom did say, "i bet you don't think we handled it correctly.

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  YAY for you, (((((Kwin))))!!!!

  How wonderful it must feel to get past that hurdle. I wish you courage and much success this weekend in TO. (It IS this weekend, isn't it?) Healing past hurts is so beneficial! Whatever it takes for YOU, is what is right!

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  Seeker4 - divorce final today

  by Seeker4 in

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  after 33 years of marriage, my divorce became final today.. my wife is still a jw, though i left a decade or so ago.

  we always thought we'd be the exception that would stay together despite one of us no longer believing.. a very bittersweet day.

  she was a terrific wife in so many ways.. s4

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  ((((Seeker4))))

  I was divorced this past week, too, after 26 years of marriage. It's an emotional roller coaster, but I'm fully committed to making these last years of my life count spending them in ways to make myself happy and the world a better place. Perhaps you could envision what a truly happy life would look like for you and then go for it? Good luck!

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  Constant updates

  by kwintestal in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  when you visit jw family, do you get bombarded by "updates" of what others are doing as jw's?.

  i do and it takes everything i have to say what's really on my mind.... my dad just got back from a vacation visiting family.

  i ask how so-and-so is doing ... "oh, they're great.

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  So in the end, we played chess.

  I had always heard that chess-playing was a warlike game and therefore unfit for "Christians"!!!!!!

  (I don't have any Witness family, so I'm not blessed with these sorts of updates.)

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  Last day I'm taking Dad to the KH - any suggestions

  by Bonnie_Clyde in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have a long, long story to tell.

  it could fill several pages.

  it looks like i'm being disinherited because i am fading.

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  B_C:

  Why aren't you speaking to your father directly about what your daughter did regarding the sale of his rental property and the gift of his home to her? Are your brother, sons, and nieces/nephews all Jehovah's Witnesses? What does your brother say? Do these sales impact on how the family (including you) is able to take care of your father?

  I don't know how you explain that you're stopping meeting attendance without it upsetting him in some way. Perhaps the offer to help him prepare for the book study, since you can't attend, would be helpful. It would take more than 15 minutes a week, though.

  Tough situation... I assume he would shun you completely were you to tell him of your doubts?

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  The book Crisis of Conscience

  by Jim Dee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've just finished reading this book

  i was brought up in the society, seen the elder arrangement brought in, seen changes and in fighting - and finally sttof down as a snr circuit elder in england because of the abuse issue and the society covering up.

  i have also the seen the society flee and cya because of the data protection act in the uk.

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  If I recall, JimDee has a bit of a reputation for not being entirely forthright. Didn't he and Maximus have a bit of a ruckus over said "insider info?"

  I am glad, however, that he brought up the subject of Ray Franz' excellent book which does, indeed, "deconstruct" the Organization. It's well worth a read.

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  Are JWs a cult? Well, just ask them ...

  by ljwtiamb in

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  w94 2/15 pp.

  5-7 are jehovah?s witnesses a cult?

  are jehovah?s witnesses a cult?.

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  D'ya know, ljwtiamb, every time recently when I begin to read quoted WT material, I cannot continue because I am actually nauseated! ??? So I cannot comment on the articles you posted.

  However, I remember being astounded when I was doing my own research at how much Russell railed against the hierarchy in the Roman Catholic church and realizing how the modern day organization resembles it to such an amazing extent! So I'm pretty sure the WT articles convict the WT Society of being a cult by their own definition. ;)

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  2000th Post, and All I Want Is A Smile...

  by FMZ in

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  2. friends

  the world can always use another smile.... when you're smilin'.

  when you're smilin'....keep on smilin' .

  cause when you're smilin'....keep on smilin' .

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  Life IS good, FMZ! Congrats!
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  Russia to repay $15 bln to West

  by arrowstar in

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  2. current

  http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/russia_debt_dc

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  Duly noted, Qcmbr!

  Thanks!
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  Once more, I ask for your help

  by outnfree in

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  2. medical

  as many of you know, i believe in remote healing and the power of prayer.

  so i am asking those of you who also believe in these things to pray for me this time.

  (lena is doing excellently well, thank you!

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  Thanks, lilbit, kls and ((((Dede))))!

  NEWS: There is no cancer on/in my brain! I am cleared for surgery after all these tests, feeling confident that we know pretty much what we are dealing with going in.

  My surgeon called me this morning and I will meet with her next Wednesday to review procedures and ask further questions before surgery next Friday morning, 20 May.

  I met with both my energy healer and my radiation oncologist yesterday and have not yet decided on what type of radiation therapy I will undergo, but I will take the 8% or so advantage it has over lumpectomy with hormone therapy alone having radiation therapy will offer me. I will also continue to thank you all and the Universe for what I can only say has been the speeded up version of "taking care of Brenda." You may recall that I was thinking I'd have to wait until the 24th to even see the surgeon, and yet, she called ME from the hospital this morning.

  My radiation therapy will be done using a relatively new kind of radiation therapy which is better-controlled as to intensity and field if I go with full radiation. If I go with limited, I will be part of a clinical trial. Insurance coverage, alas, may determine which route I take, but I am comfortable with either method. Anyway, the exact treatment cannot be decided upon until post-operative results are in.

  Please continue working with me in visualizing the cells being content to be released and sent on their way, knowing that their service to me is now done. The doctor will be performing a sentinel node biopsy to ascertain whether or not the cancer has spread into my lymph nodes (they did not seem to be involved from the MRI), and I am seeing that pathology coming back negative as well.

  Thanks and love,

  Brenda