Two things came to my mind after reading this thread.
1. The ex-wife who sees the husband treat his second with more kindness who then gets angry because of his changes.
2 The Gospel story of Pharisees harshing on Jesus for not shunning sinners.
I'm sure some of you are simply noticing changes that surprise you and do not intend to sound negative about that; but if you really have a problem with the church becoming incrementally less controlling and judgmental, ask yourself why.