Posts by joyfulfader

Mine went through the laundry about 4 years ago. I never got a new one. It's been 2.5 years since being in a kh and about 1.5 years ago I told my doctor to change all my records for me and my child. My doctor of 12 years actually did a happy dance :)

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Arrested by French authorities for wanting to perform Female Genital Mutilation

by Syme in

here's the story, from guardian:.

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/feb/10/france-tough-stance-female-genital-mutilation-fgm.

these are very interesting news.

joyfulfader

Male circumcision has very little to do with religion in many cases and has just recently become more of a matter of choice medically speaking at least here in the US. For years doctors performed male circumcision as standard procedure when one had a boy. The only time it was not routinely performed was at the special request of the parents. There is still some information out there that claims there are health benefits. That is neither here nor there but to make a statement that the minute potential decrease in pleasure that a male may experience as a result of having been circumcised in no way compares to the complete loss of the external female sex organs that are barbarically removed often later in a young girl's life using rudimentary tools. As a woman, to have someone even make a claim that a normal sex life for a circumcised man is not possible in the context of a discussion about FGM is insulting. There are millions of sexually satisfied circumcised males in the world and not one victim of FGM that is.

My issue with the statement has nothing to do with religion or the lack of choice, it has to do with context. Comments on the morality of making irreversible choices for infants is one thing but please make your "decrease in pleasure" claim on a different thread.

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Arrested by French authorities for wanting to perform Female Genital Mutilation

by Syme in

here's the story, from guardian:.

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/feb/10/france-tough-stance-female-genital-mutilation-fgm.

these are very interesting news.

joyfulfader

Anyone who tries to equate male circumcision with the mutilation of a young girl is obviously completely ignorant of the facts. Ridiculous and pure insanity.

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Dating

by d in

as a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.

do any of you still feel this way?

i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..

joyfulfader

I suppose we just haven't found the right person. A good relationship should feel liberating and secure not binding and restrictive. My viewpoint is that there are so many more fish in the sea now that I am not stuck with the few people placed in front of me with the proper jw "qualifications". While I am still nervous and single, I think there is hope. As my friends always tell me...it will happen when I least expect. Hopefully I won't have walls with the right person :)

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Dating

by d in

as a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.

do any of you still feel this way?

i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..

joyfulfader

I have been in the "worldly" dating scene for 2 years. I can't say the idea of marriage crosses my mind. I think it's more of fear of losing control of my life again. I dated a guy briefly and when he happened to accompany me to the tire store the salesman ignored me and addressed him regarding MY car. I have been successfully taking care of my cars for years...i found myself livid. I internally fumed as i had to do so often as a jw and that was the end of the relationship (there were many other contributing factors, that was just the final straw). For me, the scary part of dating is putting my walls down long enough to let someone in. Still trying though :)

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Are You Comfortable With Who You Now Are?

by minimus in

jw
friends

many jws are misfits and many that were raised as jws find it difficult to be "normal".

are you comfortable with yourself at this point in time?.

joyfulfader

I am a thousand times happier now, more than 2 years out, than I ever was in...though I still experience stress, I still like me and the self loathing and constant self deprication is virtually gone (hormones sometimes bring it to the surface but that is rare). I am comfortable with me and I like it :)

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Dating

by d in

as a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.

do any of you still feel this way?

i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..

joyfulfader

I have to say that I am finding it difficult to navigate the dating world. I find myself very hesitant to leave myself open to any more hurt so I can't let go and feel free to develop a healthy relationship. Perhaps I have not met the right person under the right circumstances but so far...I haven't felt any sparks or sense of sustainability. Hoping that will change since I finally like myself.

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Is This Current Governing Body As Bad As Previous Ones!

by minimus in

jw
friends

or are they all the same?

?.

joyfulfader

I think this GB has more to prove and will go to further lengths to keep the rank and file in line. Former GBs could just rely on the End being in a generation. Now they have to extricate themselves from the web of technicalities with "new lite" and more rules. While Freddie was a delusional, narcissitic man, the reg jw wasn't aware of his high level of influence. Most probably still aren't aware. I think with the age of the internet this GB is trying to crush individuality more than ever. Conformity or else...