I suppose we just haven't found the right person. A good relationship should feel liberating and secure not binding and restrictive. My viewpoint is that there are so many more fish in the sea now that I am not stuck with the few people placed in front of me with the proper jw "qualifications". While I am still nervous and single, I think there is hope. As my friends always tell me...it will happen when I least expect. Hopefully I won't have walls with the right person :)
joyfulfader
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Dating
by d inas a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.
do any of you still feel this way?
i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..
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Dating
by d inas a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.
do any of you still feel this way?
i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..
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joyfulfader
I have been in the "worldly" dating scene for 2 years. I can't say the idea of marriage crosses my mind. I think it's more of fear of losing control of my life again. I dated a guy briefly and when he happened to accompany me to the tire store the salesman ignored me and addressed him regarding MY car. I have been successfully taking care of my cars for years...i found myself livid. I internally fumed as i had to do so often as a jw and that was the end of the relationship (there were many other contributing factors, that was just the final straw). For me, the scary part of dating is putting my walls down long enough to let someone in. Still trying though :)
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Are You Comfortable With Who You Now Are?
by minimus inmany jws are misfits and many that were raised as jws find it difficult to be "normal".
are you comfortable with yourself at this point in time?.
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joyfulfader
I am a thousand times happier now, more than 2 years out, than I ever was in...though I still experience stress, I still like me and the self loathing and constant self deprication is virtually gone (hormones sometimes bring it to the surface but that is rare). I am comfortable with me and I like it :)
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Dating
by d inas a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.
do any of you still feel this way?
i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..
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joyfulfader
I have to say that I am finding it difficult to navigate the dating world. I find myself very hesitant to leave myself open to any more hurt so I can't let go and feel free to develop a healthy relationship. Perhaps I have not met the right person under the right circumstances but so far...I haven't felt any sparks or sense of sustainability. Hoping that will change since I finally like myself.
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Is This Current Governing Body As Bad As Previous Ones!
by minimus inor are they all the same?
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joyfulfader
I think this GB has more to prove and will go to further lengths to keep the rank and file in line. Former GBs could just rely on the End being in a generation. Now they have to extricate themselves from the web of technicalities with "new lite" and more rules. While Freddie was a delusional, narcissitic man, the reg jw wasn't aware of his high level of influence. Most probably still aren't aware. I think with the age of the internet this GB is trying to crush individuality more than ever. Conformity or else...
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Anybody catch "New Girl" with Prince
by wearewatchingyouman ini just caught the last few minutes and counted at least three disfellowshipping worthy actions portrayed.
he was alone in his room with a girl.
he practiced magic.
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joyfulfader
I thought the exact same thing...plus I would love to hear the "loving" counsel anyone but Prince would get walking into a kh with hair looking so "worldly".
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joyfulfader
I hope it goes well. I too am navigating the treacherous terrain of the dating world. Good luck and enjoy :)
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Jehovah's Witness couple and their young children found shot dead in two-story home after grim 'murder suicide'
by kneehighmiah inmurder suicide tragedy by jw couple.
very terrible.. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2540809/jehovahs-witness-couple-young-children-shot-dead-two-story-home-grandmother-grim-murder-suicide.html.
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joyfulfader
Wow...that will be on my local news tonight. So sad.
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Jehovah's Witness juror - The actions of this juror are a complete disgrace, said Prince Georges County States Attorney Angela Alsobrooks.
by Sol Reform inhttp://www.csnwashington.com/article/juror-email-leads-mistrial.
juror email leads to mistrial.
that juror now faces a possible contempt of court charge.the trial of a man involved in a high speed crash that killed a prince george's county police officer last year ended in a mistrial.. one of the jurors told the judge via email thursday morning that judging others was a violation of her religion as a jehovah's witness, news4's prince george's county bureau chief tracee wilkins reported.. kevon darnell neal, 23, was charged with vehicular manslaughter and fleeing and eluding following the death of officer adrian morris, 23.. morris and his partner were pursuing a stolen silver acura when their cruiser ran off interstate 95 near the powder mill road exit in august 2012. morris died after being ejected from the vehicle.
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joyfulfader
Ridiculous. I went to the district conventions in PG county growing up. That county needs as many cops as they can get. So sad about the officer. Witnesses feel no social or community responsibility.
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Head of the House?
by cofty ini often see comments by ex-jws that would suggest some men still view themselves as "head of the house".
sometimes comments from women appear to support the idea as well.. how many still see things this way or have you completely got over it?.
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joyfulfader
Headship was rammed down my throat for so many years that if I ever find Mr. Right it will have to be an equal partnership. Period.