@objectivetruth, if I'm reading between the lines correctly, your question could be viewed as you being at a crossroads. If that is true, I'm right there with you. I am still an active JW. Still going to meetings. Still participating in the field ministry. And the only reason I do it is because of family. If I were to boil it down the main things as to why I personally feel JWs are not the true religion, it would be these:
1. They say Jesus is only a mediator between God and the 144,000. That makes him not a mediator between me and God, and thus I could never come to the Father through him.
2. They say only the 144,000 are part of the New Covenant. This is similar to point #1. I completely disagree with this, and I have scriptural reasons for doing so.
3. Jesus said at Luke 21:8, "Look out that YOU are not misled; for many will come on the basis of my name, saying, ‘I am he,’ and, ‘The due time has approached.’ Do not go after them." The words, "the due time has approached," is almost word-for-word what JWs have said. Notice this quote:
"Another way we can "sleep on" is by ignoring the fact that Jehovah's time to destroy the ungodly has approached." - w12 3/15 p. 11 par. 4
It's too eerily similar. It's easy to detect when someone claims to be Christ. It's quite another when someone is saying, 'the due time has approached' in a variety of forms, as JWs have been doing for over 100 years. The Society rarely comments on this portion of Luke 21:8, which is why, until the past year or two, this was unknown to me.
I cannot ignore these things. Yet, I am stuck in at the moment, at a big crossroads. Am I prepared to possibly, and in all probability, lose my family? I am reminded of the words of the Christ:
He that has greater affection for father or mother than for me is not worthy of me; and he that has greater affection for son or daughter than for me is not worthy of me. And whoever does not accept his torture stake and follow after me is not worthy of me. - Matt 10:37,38
Not that I'm telling you or even advising you what to do. I cannot do that. I am simply pointing out where I am and what I am personally thinking about all of this. This is my crossroads, too.