I never shunned df'd ones. I admit, I never went out of my way to acknowledge them. When my jw uncle died and my uber jw sister shunned our younger brother,who had come to the funeral, we got into an argument about it. My jw sister has always been so arroggant and self-righteous. I just could not ever shun my brother, even if I had gotten into trouble about. Shunning is just so heartless.
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Did you ever shun people when you were a dub? How did it feel?
by oldlightnewshite inokay, i don't know lots of people that were df'd, but of all the times i've encountered df people when i was a dub, they actually blanked me!
it was always something that i had fixed in my mind that the jws had dead wrong, even when i was an uber dub.
i remember several times when i used to arrive late at meetings, and i'd make a point of getting eye contact with the poor dub at the back sitting on the naughty step.
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Non-JW family members who are overly RESPECTFUL and PROTECTIVE of the JW's.
by nicolaou inin my immediate family only my dad was never a jw.
my brother was the first to leave when he was 15, i left some twenty years later.
my mum always was and still is the hardcore jw 'hub' of the family and she also brought in her sister and nephew.. now here's the thing.
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I hate to say it, but the best thing to do, if your cousins don't want to hear anything against JWs, is to let it go. You will be the one blamed for the break-up of the family if something happens. As long as you can stay out of the borg without being df'd, I say do it. I have always liked the saying "Discretion is the better part of valor." If they bring things up, you can comment or have your say but believe me, being ostracized from the family is not fun. In the end, you must do what you can live with, just remember there are consequences to being blunt about your beliefs. You, apparently love them and want to be able to continue your relationship with them, so be careful of rocking the boat so much you are thrown overboard.
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Dawkins' new documentary is now on Youtube
by oldlightnewshite inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhhsyyvi-5k.
i can't embed this but just copy and paste into the browser..
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Enjoyed the video. I guess the WTS is viewing those of us who have left the borg as "otherness," not part of them so we don't count. I know my jw cousin told a family relative that " I was not family, that I was nothing," even though we are first cousins. I guess at least I am considered "otherness" by my family.
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The Governing Body - their own worst enemy!
by cedars ini've been giving some thought recently to what's going on in the minds of the individual governing body members, and what makes them tick.
the process of listening to their talks for my "getting to know you" youtube video series, though draining, has been very enlightening.
i now feel i know some of their individual personalities a little better than i did previously.. then there has been the tumultuous events of 2012. it's been interesting to note the way the governing body has responded to some of these issues, and how in most cases their responses have been woefully inadequate or even counter-productive as regards their long-term interests.. for example:.
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DON"T underestimate the wtower's capacity of influence and tactics ...don't understimate the 'oath' that MANY have made to keep this entity stable at any cost...so that its piece of this world's puzzle is well in place...
Elephant, if the GB is the FDS "whom his lord has set over his household, to give them their food in due season...[and whose lord has] set him over all that he has" (Matt 24:45,47,The World English Bible) why would they have to resort to "influence and tactics" to keep the "household" in check, would the household not stay loyal without the use of "tactics" seeing that the FDS would be looking out for their interests and keeping them fed?
As a JW, I don't recall taking an "oath.. to keep this entity stable at any cost." Plus, if they have been appointed to that position by Jesus, is it not the responsibility of Jesus to "keep this entity stable at any cost" and not that of the "household" (whomever they may now be)?" Your comments don't hold water or make any sense to.
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I'm Extremely Sad
by JetSetter ini've never written on this site.
i've been inactive for about 6 years and glad i'm out.. i'm in my late 40's.
so about 2 years ago, i go on facebook and looked up this brother i use to like when i was in my 20's he was a bethelite.
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panhandlegirl
Welcome to JWN, JetSetter. I agree with others that you should cut your losses and run. The drugs he's on may change his personality and that's not safe for you.
Take care of yourself.
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Two more deaths.
by Decided ini went to see my good friend in a nursing home[he had been there about 3 weeks] and when i walked into his room his eyes were open and he had his glasses on.
he didn't answer so i shook his leg.
he didn't respond.
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So sorry for your losses. I know it can be very hard to lose someone close to you. I hope things improve for you.
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My brother died tonight
by poppers injust got word that my youngest brother died of pancreatic cancer.
he was diagnosed in early august.
this has been really tough for me and my family..
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Poppers, so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family.
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The Governing Body - their own worst enemy!
by cedars ini've been giving some thought recently to what's going on in the minds of the individual governing body members, and what makes them tick.
the process of listening to their talks for my "getting to know you" youtube video series, though draining, has been very enlightening.
i now feel i know some of their individual personalities a little better than i did previously.. then there has been the tumultuous events of 2012. it's been interesting to note the way the governing body has responded to some of these issues, and how in most cases their responses have been woefully inadequate or even counter-productive as regards their long-term interests.. for example:.
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Cedars, great article, thanks for your analysis of all these events. I was particularly struck by your comment about them "linking themselves to the First Century apostolic model, even though apostolic succession is not a biblical concept but, essentially a catholic one. They have become the papacy they spent decades mocking, and many of the more switched-on and cynical Witnessess will never forgive them for it." Does the GD actually realize what they have done, or are they so deluded about this affimation on their part that it's implications have escaped them. I think the answer to this question is answered by your next statement:
"I know many of you think the Governing Body members are cynical and are treating this as one big game, but the more I listen to their talks and observe their actions, the more I feel that, for the most part, they are serious. They have bought their own publicity, and are acting accordingly."
I hope their delusions of grandeur become their undoing.
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My Near Death Experience
by Dogpatch inhi y'all, just wanted to let you know i was out for a stroll on my bicycle for exercise last week and got hit by a car 100 yards from my house.
it was a hit and run.
i got up with only minor bruises but felt really dizzy and asked one of my roommates to take me to the hospital as i was dizzy and felt i was going to pass out on the spot in the middle of the street.
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Randy, I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with the medication perscribed by your doctor; all medications have side effects. I was once prescribed a drug to lower my cholesterol, I did not have the prescription filled because I hate drugs. A month later, I took care of a patient who had taken the drug that I was prescribed and she could not walk after taking the drug for a month. A few months later, the drug was recalled by the manufacture. It was a statin drug and it was a bad drug.
I would also like to add that when you enter the hospital for any reason, the doctor writes the orders and the nurse follows them. Some procedures require that a patient be, what we in the medical field call, NPO, that means "nothing by mouth (oral). It is for the protection of the patient; your body has to be dry during certain procedures and most certainly for surgery, so that you will not aspirate, that is, get any fluid into the lungs, which could cause aspiration pneumonia or maybe worse. That's one reason iv fluids are administered, to hydrate the patient. What may seem to the patient cruel, is really not bad patient care, it is accepted medical treatment. Because the doctor may not know for certain what procedures he needs to do, he will often not let the patient have anything by mouth until he is certain of what he needs to do.
As for the jamming of needles up your arm all day long, labs are very important for knowing what is going on in your body. The doctor needs to know your bleeding time, how fast you bleed,how well your body coagulates, he needs to know about your hemoglobin, your white blood cells, your potassium,and all the chemisty in your body. Blood draws, sticks, are really not done to torture the patient. They are very important for your proper care.
I am glad you only suffered minor injuries from the hit and run accident. You were wise to go to the hospital because one never knows what hidden injuries there may be, such as a concussion. I wish you a speedy recovery. I cannot believe you pay $1000/month for health insurance, although I pay $800, so I should not be surprised.
I hope you were not offended by what I had to say about your treatment at the hospital, but because I am a RN, I know how patients feel about what we have to do in our care for them. I myself had to do without a drop of water or food for 24 hours while waiting for a brain test and it was terrible. Yes, they did find that I had a brain plus a brain aneurysm. I am fine now, but you never know. I hope the next year is better for you.
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Why I appreciate this place
by mythreesons insomeone asked in another topic essentially what is your purpose in being here?
what do you plan to accomplish?
i thought i would start this topic as a result of that one.. i personally don't think i can 'change' anybody by being here...but the way i see it, this forum gives me a place to vent.
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mythreesons, I was going to start a similar thread. I'glad you started it. It seems like the right time to discuss the reasons why we are here, what drove us and keeps us coming to this place.For me, it is not wanting to change anyone to my way of thinking as much as being able to share my thoughts and feelings with those who have lived a similar experience as I have. It's listening to and learing from the feelings and experiences of others. Some of us have been wounded more than others but only those of us who have lived the life of a jw can understand what it is to have lived this life. A life without Christmas, celebrating birthdays; having to sit while our schoolmates pledged allegiance to the flag of our particular country; having to be conscientious objectors, some going to prison for this belief. What dread we felt when out in FS of meeting our schoolmates. The list goes on and on... Not only did we grow up with the threat of a Third World War, we also lived with the threat of God killing us at Armaggodon, if we did not do enough in the work of the LORD, I mean borg.
This site also provides some real intellectual, religious, Biblical and scientific discussions. There's discussions on literature, poetry and just plain life. I like knowing what the WBTS is up to and the dumb things they have taught and are teaching; their doctrinal changes, their stupid and nefarious antics. Sometime I feel like I am trapped in the Hotel California, "You can check out any time but you can never leave." I don't feel like I have to leave this place to get on with my life, this site has become a part of my life, but not my LIFE. There are some pretty cool people on here, some very smart and articulate ones, some with problems, some who like to stir things up, but it's no different than I find out in the real world. I take the good things and leave the ones that may not be to my liking, just like in life. Anyway, that a little of my reasons for why I appricate this place.