Posts by PurpleV

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Semper Fi

by SheilaM in

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friends

twas the night.

marine version .

twas the night before christmas, he lived all alone,.

i've been out of the org in mind for three months (formally for only two weeks) but i find that i often feel that old familiar impulse to supress myself if i start to say something that could be construed as negative to the organizaton.

do you still feel that?

like, i might hesitate to tell my neighbor that i didn't associate with my dad for six years because of the df/da policy.

PurpleV

I was in therapy for FIVE YEARS and refused to talk about the religion because of that reproach thing.

What a waste of money! Had to do it all over again when I found out the 'truth about the truth.'

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My Mama

by Sentinel in

my brother is probably just now arriving in fl to be with our mother.

he is her youngest child and only son.

she has been a very firm and faithful jw since 1958, and is scheduled for open heart surgery this week and she requested that he fly down to be with her.

PurpleV

Dear Sentinel

My father had aneurysm diease (artery bulges) and was operated on SIX TIMES for this (including a full aorta replacement), and twice more for carotid artery cleanout, and he did this all without blood. He had a low blood count for one of them (11.5) but they had no choice but to go in and replace it because it was about to burst. He was in his 70's for two of these. He did get albumin though, which at the time had just been "allowed" by our ~~evil~~ spirit-directed leaders.

It's amazing how resilient the human body is. His will to live was strong... if your mom's is too that can really help the body deal with the blood loss.

I wish you all the best, and I respect your decision not to go a great deal. Hang on to those happy memories... they will really help.

Ironically, at the bitter end, when he was dying of cancer, his blood count dropped to 6 and the doctor said if it drops more you will "positively die." He took a transfusion then, and rallied but it was too late. He died a couple months later just weeks shy of 80.

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Thinking of the kids at Christmas

by Angharad in

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friends

our two kids were so excited this morning going to school.

this afternoon was the christmas party.

so they were all set with party clothes in a bag to change into and their assigned food/drink they had to bring.

PurpleV

I remember craning my neck to see the Christmas lights during the drive to the kh on meeting nights, wishing to hell I was going anywhere but where I was going.

The worst was Christmas Day itself, boring cold day off from school knowing what fun everyone else was having, nothing on TV but Christmas, Christmas, Christmas.

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seven006, you worthless dog

by onacruse in

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friends

a moderator, eh?.

may 10,000 fleas infest your private parts.... (as if they haven't already).

craig

PurpleV

You WIMP!!

You never heard of pop up stoppers? That pop up add is harmless. JUST SAY NO. Umm, wait, I forgot, you can't say.... umm... nyet, not, nitsch, non, noway, nofukcing way, nini, ninny, nonny, nanny, nobody. I appreciate that you have issues. We all do.

Forgive me. *cough* I know not what I do.

You got a MAC? *sigh*

I hope you still have your chiropractic skills. After a stint as a mod here, you may well need them.

HUGS to you, you, you, you... DAVE you!

*gives Dave a big sloppy wet kiss and embarrasses him because he likes it*

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Truly loving two people (KInd of a response to the Soul Mate thing)

by ADubsFriend in

i was reading the soul mate thread and wanted to ask: how many of you have truly loved and been in love with two people at the same time?.

i have been married 30 years to a wonderful man.

i do love him and he is crazy about me.

PurpleV

I met a JW man online and we had an online affair about 3 years ago

You have received most awesome advice here. I agree with everyone, that the one person here who will be hurt the most is your husband. I have a hard time having any empathy for you because of this.

That being said, I do however want to point out one thing: your new "soul mate" is a Jehovah's Witness. He is having a FANTASY with you. You may believe what you will, and have intuition up your wazoo, but I will guarantee you that if you left your husband for him in "two years time when the kids are gone," and he left his wife for you, that he will have a crisis of conscience within months and will go crawling back to his organization begging for forgiveness for "fornicating and adultering" with you, he will be reinstated and you will be left with NOTHING. How old are you? I'm 45 too. The prospect of being left alone with egg on my face, with a husband who is horribly and irretrievably hurt and a lover who made an absolute fool out of me makes me shudder. What would you do then? And he WILL make a fool out of you. I would consider betting my life savings on it. Double or nothing, that's not bad. Would help out my retirement fund A LOT.

For any JW, the organization is everything, no matter what they say. After the great lustful sex period is over, you will be crispy toast. After all, do you really think you can compete with Everlasting Life (TM) ?

If I were you I'd beg hubby for forgiveness and set about making him very, very happy.

Sincerely, PurpleV

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seven006, you worthless dog

by onacruse in

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friends

a moderator, eh?.

may 10,000 fleas infest your private parts.... (as if they haven't already).

craig

PurpleV

Hey Dave

Does this mean you can't say "k**f" any more?

Are you going to change the above word in quotes to "duck" or "pluck?"

OOOH looky here, a chance to edit out the profanity....

*ducking and running and laughing maniacally*

PurpleV of the "I love to tease Dave" class

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Lost Childhood -> PTSD -> Lost Adulthood

by one_ugly_time in

when i read the title of the thread ?was your growth stunted because you were a jehovah?s witness?, i posted a version of the following while extremely emotional.

not taut, very loosely, as if it feels like a necklace.

you see, i am growing and the cord is getting taut now.

PurpleV

It seems that I have lived my entire life attempting to validate externally ie rescuing, helping, etc. at my own expense. This is very frustrating

What, are you my twin separated at birth or what? It's more than frustrating, it's marginally masochistic in my own case. (My parents, my friends, I am always "the hero" and "what would we have done without you?" and it always costs me. What's up with that?)

Getting better all the time, though. I stood up for myself twice this last 2 weeks, might be a record!

Hugs, V

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WHOOPS!!!!!

by Dansk in

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friends

it was one of those mornings!

i don't know how it happened.

i woke up ok but on the way to the town to do some shopping i felt my persona change for the worse.

PurpleV

LOL

Hey Dansk, I live in NYC and I've been out for over 20 years, but I still delight in flipping the bird at bethel every time I cross the Brooklyn Bridge.

It's even better when someone else is driving cuz I get to use both hands!

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Lost Childhood -> PTSD -> Lost Adulthood

by one_ugly_time in

when i read the title of the thread ?was your growth stunted because you were a jehovah?s witness?, i posted a version of the following while extremely emotional.

not taut, very loosely, as if it feels like a necklace.

you see, i am growing and the cord is getting taut now.

PurpleV

I too have had a similar experience. I was raised with the noose too, and even though I'm out 20 years as well, I still feel the effects of what was done to me, experiencing bouts of low self-esteem and finding myself very judgmental of MYSELF, not others.

Counseling and therapy have helped immensely. What really helps me, though, is helping others get their own noose off. If I can prevent just one child from going through what I did, it will have been worth it.

Hugs, V

Edited to add Your story was very well written. Thanks for sharing.