Jwdaughter I'm really sorry you felt that way here and hope I didn't contribute to that too much. generally when we speak of Muslims here we are speaking of extreme Muslims and dont mean most Muslims that are moderate or even liberal. i definitely feel it too, my own brand of Christianity is quite liberal, we even allow same sex marriages within our church. But here people often say 'Christian' and mean born again extremist judgmental types, not considering the very large variety.
bu2b, my heart is completely aching for you. I know what you mean about the anxiety about your kids being indoctrinated. You feel stuck, in a miserable place. I wish there was something I could say.