Hi:
When I was single I only got a shepherding call if I asked for one
or if the CO visit was near. It was always about increase your time.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years now and we have only received shepherding calls when the Elders wanted to tell us what to do or think they should.
I always set the conditions on our shepherding calls. The elders did not like it, but I did not care. If you come to my house to do a shepherding call, only elders I felt comfortable with could come. And I did not get dressed up in a dress or skirt. I dressed casually and wore my house slippers or sneakers. (As far as I was concerned, they were on my "turf", so therefore they were going to "do as the Romans do", or do not bother coming by.
Also, if they could not prove anything from the Bible, I let them know do not talk to me.
Very rarely did I ever have a good feeling when they came or left. They just talked a lot of Watchtower JW jargon.
I had to set them straight with the Bible almost on each occasion. It's amazing how the elders do not know their Bible, just Watchtower
magazines (mind controlled) jargon.
They need to shepherd themselves.
That's my story,
Ronin 1