hello folks.
thought this would be an important subject to discuss, got the idea for this based on reading from some posters the concern they have for the imbalanced views witnesses have of their marriages.
i have some experience in this, as i was married 19 years to a witness woman (staunch fanatical witness ) , whom i married at age 19 in 1979 as a witness myself.
Ignat:
Yes, but when I compare our 13 years to so many other couples together for 20, 30, 40, and 50 years- our 13 years pale in comparison.
The proof in the pudding will be when we reach 70 or 80 (smile) , right now we are 50 and 51 respectively.
Thanks,
Ronin1
i don't know if this has been posted yet but my mom told me that there was a letter from crooklyn that publishers can now attend international conventions.
before only the pioneers, elders, etc could attend.
she said that there was a tremendous amount of excitement among the publishers that they now have the "privilege" of attending.
Yes, I was a regular pioneer in 1989 when I attended the international convention in Haiti.
It's made a big deal like you are so special and the WT makes all the arrangements- hotel, air fare, sightseeing events, etc.
It was a nice experience, but looking back in hindsight one can see the WT control and cult ways.
Ronin1
anyone care to guess why?.
(a) she was concerned about the fires and if bd and i were ok.. (b) she called to tell me she was planning to attend the 2009 international convention in peru.. (c) she called to tell me my cousin's husband has brain cancer.. (d) (a) and (b).
pick a answer any answer, only one is the correct answer.. philip.
Ok, what's the answer?
hello folks.
thought this would be an important subject to discuss, got the idea for this based on reading from some posters the concern they have for the imbalanced views witnesses have of their marriages.
i have some experience in this, as i was married 19 years to a witness woman (staunch fanatical witness ) , whom i married at age 19 in 1979 as a witness myself.
My husband and I have been married now for 13 years. No, its not that long but it allows you to experience many issues that arise in life.
When we got engaged, we were both active JW's in good standing- aux pioneers and on the building construction team. We waited for weeks before we told anyone in the cong we were dating. Only two persons close to us knew. When we finally told members of the congregation they were shocked and surprised because we kept it such a secret.
Needless to say, the elders and everyone one wanted to get into our business, have talks with us about being moral, helping out with the wedding (so they could be invited), etc.
Fast forward to the wedding date getting closer. I let the bethelite elder (good friend of my husband) who was going to give our marriage talk know that once my husband and I got married, they (the elders) were not going to be in our personal maritial business. He was shocked that I, a sister, said that to him. But I meant it.
I also told him what I wanted the theme of our marriage talk to be centered on, that if he took more than 30 minutes on the KH stage giving our marriage talk that I was going to walk off the stage and go to the courthouse and get married. And he knew I was serious.
The point, my husband and I kept the elders and many others in the congregation out of our personal and maritial business.
I feel what keeps a marriage together are common interests and hobbies , respectful intimacy between both partners, working together financially, united front when raising children, understanding each other's need for "space", humor, tackling problems that arise and not tackling or fighting each other, and yes if both partners have the same spiritual interests-that helps. But that is not a panecea for a healthy and stable marriage. Respect for each partner's religious beliefs or non-beliefs are essential.
That being said, as partners get older, their interests and goals may change, which includes spiritual interests and goals. I stopped going to the meetings before my husband decided to stop going regularly. So we learned through dialog to respect each other's decision and not push our feelings or ideas on each other. We never stopped each other from going or not going, and we did compromise on attending the meetings, assemblies, etc. Marriage is day-to-day compromises by both partners. So adjustment is key to remaining married.
I firmly feel that a belief in even the basics of spirituality is essential in a marriage, but all the other factors are also necessary to make it work.
Note: There a many persons that are not affliliated with any organized religionm but their marriages have lasted for decades. It's how partners respect, treat one another , and grow personally that will determine in the end if their marriage lasts.
Ronin1
ok, here's the thing.... i have a 2004 ford taurus.
it's really nice with sun roof /power seats/heated side mirrors/the works and it's mine but with a payment of $310.
i was just offered to take a 1995 saturn (still runs decent) for the taurus but with the '95 i will not have a payment though there will be more maintenance on it.. i love my taurus, it makes me feel like i'm still human but i'm very much strapped with finances.
MeneMene is correct.
I have a 1990 Toyota Corrolla. I love my car and it has approx 260,000 miles.
The past two months I had to spend $2,500 because the transmission went, $700 on getting the brakes fixed, and a new battery- total: $3300.
We had a new engine put in about 2 years ago and that was a lot of money and we had other repairs done.- I cannot remember the amounts.
So think about the maintenance costs of an older car. Yes they last long, but with maintenance.
I cannot afford a new car and my husband & I do not want two (2) car payments. He already has a car note for his 2002 Ford Ranger. So we decided on spending the monies to keep my Toyota up-graded and maintained. But it was expensive.
And just because you have an older car, does not mean your insurance will be that much less than a new car. My annual insurance for Liability and PIP, UM on the Toyota is $1400 and the annual on my husband's Ford Ranger-liability, PIP, UM, Comp and Collision, rental reimbursement, towing & labor is $1700. ( State of Florida).
So think about all those things and the other posts comments before making a final decision.
Ronin1
well, i went on a job interview on monday and it seemed to go well.
however, i will have to wait until the persons that interviewed me discuss my bio/resume' with other team members to see if i meet their requirements.. i had a consultation meeting with an attorney today and she is going to take my case to see if she can get me more salary compensation.. ronin1.
Yes, it would be great.
I'm somewhat (but not totally) bored at home.
Thanks,
Ronin1
i'm still up early hours in the morning, because i'.
so upset with what my mum said to me on the phone today.
she told me she got the sack a week ago because her boss didn't agree with my mum being a jehovah's witness and that she lets 'children die' because of the no blood rules.
Chaz:
You mother needs to contact the local EEOC office immediately and an attorney.
She has case on the grounds of religous discrimination.
Ronin1
well, i went on a job interview on monday and it seemed to go well.
however, i will have to wait until the persons that interviewed me discuss my bio/resume' with other team members to see if i meet their requirements.. i had a consultation meeting with an attorney today and she is going to take my case to see if she can get me more salary compensation.. ronin1.
Well, I went on a job interview on Monday and it seemed to go well. However, I will have to wait until the persons that interviewed me discuss my bio/resume' with other team members to see if I meet their requirements.
I had a consultation meeting with an attorney today and she is going to take my case to see if she can get me more salary compensation.
Ronin1
my youngest son joshua had autistic tendencies and speech delay, he's four.
he can't start a conversation and he often does not respond when someone tries to talk to him.
but he's been repeating more words and he can read quite a few words too.
That is great news and so encouraging.
My 5 year old grandson has been showing signs of 'high functioning' autism now for about 1 1/2 years. My daughter and her boyfriend are close now to actually getting a diagnosis. She has had two (2) sessions with psychiatrists and next week will be the 3rd session and hopefully a final determination.
My grandson was born at 23 weeks gestation ( my daughter was in her 5th month of pregnancy) and he was 1 lb 3 oz when he was born. A miracle that he stayed alive. I fully applaud the neonatal hospital units we have available today-truly amazing.
The doctors had warned my daughter and her boyfriend that when he turned about 3 or 4 yrs old, to look out for signs of autism. Therefore, we were not surprised when he started showing and exhibiting the signs.
He is in a special school that is really great at helping him and very often he says statements that just blows their minds. His speech and social interaction are not the greatest, but we can understand him and he is making strides with his writing.
One of the main problems is his violent outbursts or his disappearing into his own world at times.
I talk with my daughter everyday on the phone because not only does she have the 5 year old but also a 2 year old..........so the both of them keep her busy along with her secular work schedule. Her boyfriend works sometimes 6 days a week- so many times she is dealing with the brunt of the problems at home by herself.
Autism is truly a work in progress of patience, love, understanding and endurance.
I take my 'hat' off to anyone handling this situation.
Ronin1
i have been pondering wether or not there is any value in gathering some of .
my more pointed thoughts into a letter to the governing body.
imagine these to be "questions from readers" style criticism, edited and.
I do not want to discourage you.
But it may end up like talking to a 'brick wall'.
Ronin1
