stillajwexelder,
Another instance where love and concern was not shown was when a disabled sister was moving house from one area to another, her husband at this point in time was disfellowshiped and he was committed to a full time job.
The sister couldn't even bend to pack her belongings. My wife and I helped her for a few days making this move.
A Ministerial Servant who by "chance" was passing the house, saw that we were helping and "shopped" us to the body of elders.
Instead of having their consciences pricked (helping "widows" etc.) they had words with me. I can assure you that my words were just as hard hitting back to them. I speak now for myself, I am utterley ashamed utterley, utterley ashamed of ever being in the JWs
KT