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For Those Who Pray. My dad is very sick

by DJ in

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my dad is in very bad shape.

he has cns lymphoma.

he is sliding backwards rapidly.

Scarier still...this is your mind on JWism

by LovesDubs in

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another letter...to my sister in oct 1984, 5 months into jwism: oh god i cannot believe this.

"dear c:.

i knew exactly why we hadn't spoken before you left here.

I could identify with a lot of what you wrote. I was involved with the JWs for about 20 years. During that time, last surviving grandparent, father and most of my aunts and uncles died. I have one aunt left and my mother. I lost 20 years of family get-togethers(holiday). You can never get those times back. They are gone forever. Being a JW, it hurt going in, it hurt going out.

Sadie

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Over 7000 Served!!

by Scully in

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congratulations simon & angharad!.

when i joined this forum almost a year ago, membership was just cresting the 3000 mark.

i've found this place welcoming, helpful and informative, comforting, humourous, challenging and downright lovable.

Sadie5

Congratualtions and thank you for having this board.

Sadie

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When brothers don't reach out

by Sadie5 in

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all this talk about privileges being taken away, such as microphone duty, got me to thinking about how some brothers are viewed who aren't reaching out.. my husband would have fallen in this category.

i got involved with the jws first and looking back i think he just followed along to keep peace in our marriage.

he (gladly) followed me out too.. when we were jws, it wasn't a priority to him to become a ms or elder.

Sadie5

Thanks everyone for the comments. Looks like this was an issue that was everywhere.

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When brothers don't reach out

by Sadie5 in

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all this talk about privileges being taken away, such as microphone duty, got me to thinking about how some brothers are viewed who aren't reaching out.. my husband would have fallen in this category.

i got involved with the jws first and looking back i think he just followed along to keep peace in our marriage.

he (gladly) followed me out too.. when we were jws, it wasn't a priority to him to become a ms or elder.

Sadie5

All this talk about privileges being taken away, such as microphone duty, got me to thinking about how some brothers are viewed who aren't reaching out.

My husband would have fallen in this category. I got involved with the JWs first and looking back I think he just followed along to keep peace in our marriage. He (gladly) followed me out too.

When we were JWs, it wasn't a priority to him to become a MS or Elder. We had several young child and he would help me with them at the meetings. We didn't spank our children for not being able to sit through the meetings, he would take them out to the parking lot when it got too much for them and walk around with them for a few minutes. So he wasn't interested in handling the microphones.

He also did not have a lot of time to devote to preparing for talks. He had a very good paying job so that I could stay home with the kids. We weren't rich by any means. His job meant working long hours and being on call frequently, he was in the medical field. If his pager went off, we just quietly got up and left the meeting, he would drop the family off and head out to work. So he didn't want the stress of being on the platform and having his pager go off, so he didn't join the school.

Field service was kept simple too. We usually did tract work, or just encouraged people to read their Bible. Neither one of us had the time or resources to devote to a magazine route, return visits or a Bible study. We only had one car at the time so I didn't go out during the week. My husband had seen how often a bunch of sisters would go out through the week without having enough child seats for the children that were going along. He did not want the children put at risk like that, and he did not want someone else watching them while I went out.

At the time, my husband said that this time of our lives needs to go to raising our children. there would be time in the future when our children were grown when we could do more "in the truth".

Not everyone had his viewpoint and we were looked upon as spiritually weak or materialistic. there was a number of brothers that kept telling my husband to find some other kind of work so he would have more time for spiritual activities. He never tood their advice.

I'm thankful to be away from all of it. they laid such a guilt trip on us just because we wanted to take care of our family properly.

Sadie

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Welcome Lawrence !

by Simon in

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good to see you online bud .

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.aspx?id=37734&page=2&site=3#511186.

wish it was in happier circumstances

Sadie5

Just wanted to welcome you and say your situation touched out family very deeply. What the WT did to you and your loved ones was wrong, wrong, wrong. May you find true comfort and peace.

Sadie

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Sisters going after minor brothers

by nowaytess in

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i know when it comes to pedophiles we are young girls or teenage girls who have been molested by men.. i know of 2 cases where a teenage boy is being seduced by an older woman in the congregation.. .

i know of one when i was a jw in my congregation.

she was 24 and he was 15 1/2 - 16 when they meet.

Sadie5

I know of 2 situations like this. I met this one couple after they had been married a few years, she was 15 years older than him, they got married when he was 18. They were both miserable. He eventually committed adultery with a worldly workmate to get out of the marriage. A child resulted from this. The wife divorced him thinking he would marry the girl. He didn't, after being df and then reinstated, very shortly after that he married a young JW sister. About the only thing he did for the child was to pay child support, didn't care about having a relationship with her.

2nd situation was a 16 year old boy and a sister in her late thirties.(married) They were always going out in service together, often it would work out they were alone. Eventually it was discovered they were committing adultry. There wasn't to much done about it, they were publicly(sp?) reproved. She was good friends with the elders and their wives. Her husband decided to move the family to another congregation. The boy got into a lot of trouble and was df for several years. He eventually got reinstated and got married to a JW about his age.

Sadie

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Amazon.com a Pedophile's Paradise ???

by Xandria in

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this is what was found on amazon.com they sell this book freely and just read the ill reviews!!!!

this book openly invites pedophiles!

boycott amazon and make them take responsiblity for offering this book for sale.

Sadie5

This ad made me want to barf. SICK!

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Qualities To Acquire In Entrepreneurial Business

by Celtic in

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what qualities do you feel are important if you want to make a name for yourself in business?.

is it wise to be the nice guy, who does everything with fairness in mind or is it better to be a hardnosed, lying, manipulative bastard?.

if you were to consider going into business for yourself, which 'qualities' would you employ to gain maximum business profits?.

Sadie5

Ok I'll give this a try, we've been in business for 10 years. I think the qualities you need to have are flexibility, patience and endurance. Yes I think it is best to be honest and fair minded. People do talk, and a reputation can make or break you.

Qualities to employ to gain maximum business profits: this is a tough one, maybe having a unique product or service that everyone wants or needs. This will last for a time until someone else starts offering it too at a cheaper price.

As far as money, in the beginning of the business, it is good to see what do you need out of it. Take as little as possible so you have the funds to make the business grow. Try not to create a lot of debt to run your business. Usually if you break even the first year, you are doing ok. Eventually, your business will be doing better and you can pay yourself more. But there will be times when your busiess isn't doing so well and you have to take less. Be flexible. I have a saying I tell my family, "take care of the business, and the business will take care of you."

Hope this helps

Sadie

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Thoughts on the Columbine Tragedy

by SYN in

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hope the word "columbine" is spelled right in this post .

today i read an article on rense.com (an excellent website for all conspiracy theorists) where a parent was moaning about mtv, and the influence it was having on american children and other children.

apparently, mtv is bad for your morals or something.

Sadie5

I was just asking our 14yr old these type of questions yesterday. He likes to play those types of games and I was asking things like,did he ever put people he knew in the place of the game characters. How did he feel emotionally after playing the game. He passed the Mom test. I do notice the games are quite addictive and time consuming so we don't ban them but try to schedule times for other things too. Banning or making things forbidden only seem to entice people to crave that more.

I think it is possible that a combination of things could have caused the tragedy at Columbine. As a parent, I think the most important thing we can do is to talk to our children, and listen to them. Find out what problems they are having, what bugs them, how they view things, and aid them in solving problems.

That's all for now, I don't think my braid is functioning quite yet.

Sadie