Posts by safe4kids

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Mother Troubles

by joelbear in

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my mother called tuesday night.

as many of you know, i have chosen to stop communication with my family as of the beginning of this year.. my mother has called 4 or 5 times to talk, but i have not called her, my father or my brother or anyone in his family.

all of them are witnesses of varying degrees.. i tend to go into a deep depression each time my mother calls.

safe4kids

((((((Joel))))))),

I understand that whole guilt and manipulation thing...one of my favorite sayings is: "If it's not one thing, it's my mother". Please don't think that I am making light of your feelings but I get the feeling from your posts that you often use humor as well to help cope with painful feelings.

I echo what Skimmer said about Wayne Dyer's book...actually, he has another one that I found very beneficial called "Your Erroneous Zones" which focuses more on our own negative thoughts and feelings and how to eradicate them. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone and that I'm glad you shared your feelings with us.

Sisterly ((((hugs)))),
Dana

"Someday we'll find it...the rainbow connection...the lovers, the dreamers and me"

Kermit the Frog
"Rainbow Connection"

12

When Death Leaves You All Alone.

by Englishman in

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friends

i've just had a really interesting chat with my nearest and dearest.. .

we were talking about the fact that when one of us dies the other will be left alone.

we agreed that the surviving one should be able to talk about the deceased one without adopting a holy sepulchral voice and that both our spoken and remembered memories of each other will be full of fun and laughter.. we also agreed that the surviving mate would want to build a new life, take on fresh interests and travel the world as much as possible.

safe4kids

(((((((Tina)))))))... LOLOL...There MUST be some family connection somewhere, just has to be!!

Anyway, as always, thanks for the support!

Luv you too,
Dana

"Someday we'll find it...the rainbow connection...the lovers, the dreamers and me"

Kermit the Frog
"Rainbow Connection"

12

When Death Leaves You All Alone.

by Englishman in

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friends

i've just had a really interesting chat with my nearest and dearest.. .

we were talking about the fact that when one of us dies the other will be left alone.

we agreed that the surviving one should be able to talk about the deceased one without adopting a holy sepulchral voice and that both our spoken and remembered memories of each other will be full of fun and laughter.. we also agreed that the surviving mate would want to build a new life, take on fresh interests and travel the world as much as possible.

safe4kids

Eman,

That's great! You and your wife sound like you have the kind of relationship I would like to have. (Sigh) Some day, eh?

(((Tina)))I agree...life is for the living and we hold the memories of loved ones in our hearts. I've lost loved ones to death...and I've lost loved ones to the death of the WTS shunning policies. In many ways, the second one is more painful and yet I hold them close in my memories of them and in the love I feel for them in my heart. And personally, I want a party (Tracy, you paying attention??) and my ashes scattered at my favorite place in the world...the waters of the Gulf of Mexico off the island of Captiva in south Florida...

Dana

"Someday we'll find it...the rainbow connection...the lovers, the dreamers and me"

Kermit the Frog
"Rainbow Connection"

42

Hey Women! Faithful Slave Sez You're Dumb!

by metatron in

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friends

oh, this is gonna be fun!.

the august 22, 1967 awake has an article entitled.

"i do not permit a woman to exercise authority.

safe4kids

(((((((Logical))))))),

Hiya sweetie...I'm actually a pretty intelligent woman and I don't stay away from you! Too bad you live so far away though...we really need to work on your self-esteem issues.

Hawkaw,

I know exactly who is going to see this - someone who thinks the WTS does not discriminate against women (believe it or not).

I understand how frustrating it is to try to reason with people who, for whatever reasons, can't see or don't want to. A thought struck me while I was reading your post and Lindy's reply (btw Lindy...always enjoy what you have to say!). Remember that for some women in the WTS, it is much safer and much easier for them to not have to think for themselves. They have it easy in the sense that they do not have to make any hard decisions for themselves, all they have to do is follow the lead of the men and they can feel that they are being 'righteous' in doing so. I can say this as I used to be one of those women...and my mother still is. It was terrifyng to me at first to have to make major decisions on my own as I had never learned how to do that, having been raised as a JW but hey, I love it now!! LOL Anyway, your friend may also be fighting a bit of this type thinking as well....

Just my .02

Dana

"Someday we'll find it...the rainbow connection...the lovers, the dreamers and me"

Kermit the Frog
"Rainbow Connection"

41

Read God's Word the Holy Bible Daily

by Nicodemus in

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for decades now, those words have appeared atop one of the watchtower societys buildings in new york city.. that exhortation may never have been more needed by jehovahs people themselves than it is today.

recent posts have asked good questions regarding what can or will sustain individual jehovahs witnesses who do truly love god, but who may be disheartened by various things they have seen in the organization.. it is clear to me that many witnesses spend far more time reading the societys publications than gods word itself.

one reason sometimes given is that the preparation and research has already been done for you, thus making it easier.

safe4kids

Tina, I'm with you on this one...I think ALL parties involved bore responsibility for the incestuous acts. "Lot was drunk", puhleeezzee... that does not excuse his actions. Why was he drunk in the first place?? If he hadn't been inebriated, would it have happened?? Who knows? But it certainly doesn't excuse his part. After all, if he was sober enough to get it up, I have to believe he had some idea of who he was getting it on with.

BTW...in modern society, being drunk doesn't excuse a person's behaviour and actions...if you're drunk and driving a car that kills someone, you are guilty. If you're drunk and you rape someone, you are guilty. If you are drunk and you have sex with your child, you are guilty.

Dana

"A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born."
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

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Inhouse Limericks

by philo in

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please give generously your inhouse limericks, our staff are on hand 24 hours to take your contributions for good causes.

thanks for your time, and remember, your limerick can make many smiles.

ahh.

safe4kids

There once was a monkey named Expat,
His banana so long he was stared at,
One day he met a waif,
Who said: "My name is safe,
Oh my god, what the devil is that??"

"A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born."
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

6

Will You Dare to Believe in Yourself?

by FreePeace in

by doug kelley, csl - april 2001. .

"nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.

bruce barton, congressman & advertising executive.

safe4kids

((((Ana)))),

I'm glad that you found the strength to share some of your pain and circumstances...that in itself can be healing somewhat.

I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking of you and care about how you are...

And Doug, as usual, I agree wholeheartedly with what you have said. Not allowing life circumstances to control us and drag us down, but recognizing our own inner strength is truly powerful. Thanks for the lift!

Dana

"A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born."
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

77

SAW A PEDOPHILE TODAY

by TR in

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today, while in a hardware store, i saw a guy that i know was a pedophile when i was a kid.

he was in a check out stand next to mine when i saw him.

i recognized him immediately, even after 30 years.

safe4kids

Eman,

Seems to me that this right to bear arms belief is way out of date

I agree with you, although I do support the right to BARE arms (and legs, torsos, etc!)

TR,

Just wanted you to know that I have been following this thread with interest and I have to stand up and be counted as one who also has had murderous thoughts towards child abusers...and remember folks, there is more than one way to abuse a child...

Just my two cents....
Dana

"A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born."
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

58

My god!

by mommy in

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i just posted a reply to shelby aka aguest on another thread.

i can say it was the most emotional post of my life here at jw.com.

i don't want it lost.

safe4kids

((((((((Wendy))))))))

Thank you for sharing such deep personal thoughts and feelings with us. I agree with your views on god in so many ways.

I just want you to know that I do NOT pity you in any way; I feel great admiration for the courage that you and your daughter must show on a daily basis. I do not know how you bear the unbearable Wendy...I doubt that I could do it and demonstrate the kindness and warmth that you exhibit here on a daily basis.

You and your family are in my thoughts and in my heart....

luv,
Dana

"A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born."
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

130

America Bashing

by TR in

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with all of the america bashing going on of late, i thought i'd mention the fact that america stands for freedom, as flawed as our system may be.

you're even free to be critical of the government and it's leaders.

the many men and women who have died defending this country did so to preserve the rights even of people who hate the u.s. there are many different cultures here, so there are many different attempts at creating laws for the land.

safe4kids

Hi Andee,

Just wanted to add my welcome to that of Rcat (Hiyas Rcat!! )

Also, I look forward to reading your story...I hope that you choose to share it with us.

Dana

P.S. Gee thanks Out...I believe this may be the first time I have EVER been nominated for public (or is that pubic?) office!!

"A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born."
Antoine de Saint-Exupery