I've had similar things happen to me, and I'm not DFd or DAd.
In the seven years since we stopped going to meetings, my mother has called me ONCE. Sometimes when I've visited them (it's extremely rare that they come to visit US, once in the past 3½ years) my mom will mention that someone has died, and when I express surprise and ask "when?" she'll say the most inane thing I've ever heard: "I thought you knew." Huh
When I've said things like "How would I know?? Nobody ever called me to tell me...," she'll lie to my face and say "Well I TRIED to call you, but you don't answer the phone when I call." Not true. If she EVER called, I have Call Display and would see the number. If I miss a call, I have an answering machine.
Oh, and get this: when an elderly JW that I had known all my life died, people contacted me afterward to find out why I didn't WANT to come to the Memorial Service. I would question the wording: "What do you mean 'Why did I not WANT to be there?' I didn't even KNOW about it!" I then found out that is what my mother would say when asked where I was.
It infuriates me that JWs can be so childish and ignorant. The mind games they play to make themselves look better than everyone else just make me want to puke.
Love, Scully
It is not persecution for an informed person
to expose a certain religion as being false. - WT 11/15/63
A religion that teaches lies cannot be true. - WT 12/1/91