Posts by Shimmer

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door to door tongue in cheek

by recoveringexjw in

id like to form a group of ex jw's to go door to door and tell perspective victims of the society why they shouldnt have a free home bible study.i magine the amount of ppl that wil really be saved.

only one thing i hated going door to door.i only went for the luncheon afterward.this kind of service work i would really enjoy.we could pass out anti- watchtower literature.i love it more and more as i write it as im making it up as i go along.what do yall think.

Shimmer

I'd rather go shopping.

Shimmer

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Release the dogs!

by dmouse in

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just imagine opening your door first thing on a saturday morning and seeing this!:.

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ain't this the most harrowing sight you ever saw!

Shimmer

LOL @ TR

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I feel so guilty

by Leander in

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these past few weeks i've spent a lot of time trying to decide how i want to proceed with the rest of my life.

one of my first decisions to carry out is to break free from the wts.

even though i've been a life long witness i feel no guilt or hesistation in leaving the only religion i've ever known.

Shimmer

Leander,

Wow!! You are where my husband was about 4 or 5 years ago. He went through what I called a midlife crises. He was about the same age as you and pretty much said all of those same things to me. It hit me like a ton of bricks, because for me it had come out of nowhere, although for him it was something that he had felt for a long time.

Of course I tried to talk him out of it and to just keep on keeping on, but he was determined. First, he made the decision to stop going to meetings. It was hard for me at first but as a friend told me "The more familiar something is, the more acceptable it becomes". So I got used to that.

Then he decided that we should separate so he could experience life on his own and find out who he was and all of that. So, because we have two kids together, I told him that he had one year to figure it out and if after one year he still wasn't sure I was going to divorce him and move back to our hometown, which is clear across the U.S. If we wouldn't have had kids, I don't know if I would have given him that time though.

Well, it was the worst year of my life, but I wouldn't change what happened for anything. During that year we stayed civil "for the kids". Which was really hard for me because I wanted to rip his eyes out. Also during that year I tried to see things from his perspective and understand how he was feeling. And just because I didn't feel the same way didn't mean that he was wrong for feeling the way he did.

I also got a taste of what life would be like without him and decided that I wanted to be with him more than anything. Oddly enough, my husband is a musician and wanted to be in a band also but I always made him feel stupid for wanting that. But while we were separated he formed a band and they've been together ever since. And I've since discovered that he is a much better husband and father when he is allowed to follow his dreams and passions. And I needed to find my own passion and stop trying to control him and his feelings and decisions.

We did have a lot of marriage counseling during our separation. And we both made a lot of changes in our personalities for the better. I became less controlling and he became more tolerant. Which helped a lot. And yesterday we celebrated our 14 year wedding anniversary. We have never been happier.

I don't know where your journey is going to take you but I just wanted to share my experience from the other side.

Shimmer

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What does everyone here DO anyway?

by In_between_days in

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hi everyone,.

i am a new poster who is putting off their own personal story of finding this site for a while..... i find alot of people here utterly fascinating, and would like to know..... exactly what is everyones professional field of work?.

i would like to be a full time poster on this forum, but alas, the $$$$ are quite light in that field of work.. apologies if this has been asked before.. just curious.

Shimmer

Amateur Sex Goddess. I'm in training right now.

Actually I am a kept woman.

o.k., no really. Let's see....housekeeper, teacher, chauffer, cook, childcare provider, mother and lover......Sheesh, i need a nap!!!

Shimmer

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How to say 'get lost'....

by ISP in

haha!.

new tactic in the dating game .

the phone call that says get lost.

Shimmer

How sad that people are such spineless creatures that they just can't be honest with other people.

But pretty soon, that number will be so well known that just giving it out pretty much lets the other person know that you are not interested.

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The history of --=[SYN]=--!

by SYN in

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after reaching jedi, i just wanted to extend a warm hug to everyone here on this board who's been here for me - here's to great friends!

for humour value, here's my first post:.

i hope my user name doesn't offend anyone - it actually stands for the [syn] command your computer uses to connect to other computers on the web, not what you were thinking!.

Shimmer

Congratulations SYN!!!

Shimmer

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well known proverbs--a twist

by VeniceIT in

a first grade teacher collected well known proverbs.

she gave each child in her class the first half of a proverb and asked them to come up with the remainder of the proverb.

their insight may surprise you.

Shimmer

Venice,

I almost pee-d myself from laughing so hard. My favorite was: None are so blind as Stevie Wonder. lol

Shimmer

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SERENITY PRAYER

by QUEENIE in

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god grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change --- courage to change that i can and the wisdom to know the difference....thought for the day is: _progress not perfection_ !!!

i hope the forgoing is coherant enough for all to understand !!!

queenie