Posts by Shimmer

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My Grandmother

by Billygoat in

andi no.

i hate it.

i do want your opinion, even if its about my hair!

Interesting subject and one that I deal with on a daily basis. It seems as though I am surrounded by negative people. From my mom, friend, son and a little boy I babysit. And since I am an armchair therapist. I am constantly trying to figure out why these people love to wallow in negativity and self-pity. And as Dr. Phil says they must be getting something out of it. Which I think is "attention". I call it the "feel sorry for me song and dance". Your Grandma sounds like she has that and also maybe a bit of a control issue. She probably didn't like your haircut because you didn't run it by her first and get her "glorious" opinion.

I think a lot of bad behaviour's like that are the end result of things that have happened in our life. And they are a sort of coping skill that continues with us even after the bad times are over and done with, but it's like a bad habit that we can't shake. It takes a very aware and open minded person to get to the point where we can get rid of negative coping skills and gain positive ones. I'm proud to say that after years of therapy and a lot of hard ass work both my husband and I are able to see that the glass "is" half full. And Andi you sound like the kind of person I like to surround myself with, I can't wait to meet you someday.

Cheers,

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

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my goal in life.........

by flower in

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friends

i dont know if this is good or bad and i'm intersted in opinion, comments ect.

my one and only real goal in life is to make sure my kid is happy all the time.

i dont mean literally every second cause thats not possible but i mean from now until hes an adult i want him to have everything that i didnt.

Shimmer

Flower,

I sounded exactly like you when my son was young. He's now 12 and boy, I wished I had done some things differently. I did spoil my son and it is coming back to bite me in the ass in a big way. My son is not very independent, because I did everything for him. He thinks the world revolves around him. He's very self absorbed. I wish I would have taught him to roll with the punches more. That life is not always fair. I wish I would have taught him to be a more giving and compassionate person.

Unfortunately it's so much easier to look back and recognize what we should have done. The best we can do is go with what feels right, it may not be perfect, but nothing in this world is.

I do think that getting him out of the critical, holier than thou attitude at the KH is a good thing. There's very much a "we're better than everyone else" vibe. And I think that thinking rubbed off on my son. We've only recently stopped attending, so my son still has alot of JW thinking. Especially the critical, look down your nose mentality.

It does sound like you're on the right track.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

137

What Is Your Favorite Overlooked Movie?

by gilwarrior in

what i am talking about a movie that you thought was great, but is mostly forgotten by most people today.. well, my favorite overlooked movie is "a perfect world.

" in it kevin costner is an escaped felon who escapes from prison with another felon.

they then break into a house and kidnap a boy who is a (gasp!

Shimmer

SO I MARRIED AN AXE MURDERER is one of my all time favs. Along with SAY ANYTHING, MEMENTO, and LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

135

SAVE ROE NOW!!!

by Valentine in

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friends

dear friends of reproductive freedom,.

george w bush and his right-wings friends are quietly pursuing their domestic agenda while the nations attention is focused on international terrorism.. bush's attacks on women's reproductive freedom continue.. examples;.

1. on his first day in the oval office,bush re-instated the global gag rule,which takes family planning funds from organizations that even mention the option of abortion to their patients,risking womens lives overseas.. 2. bush has promised to re-visit the food and drug administration's approval of ru-486.and anti-abortion forces in congress have already introduced a bill to limit it's availability.. 3. with the expected retirement of 3 supreme court justices ,including sandra day o'connor,who is often the critical swing vote on abortion rights issue,bush has made it clear that he will nominate the most adamant opponents of abortion and civil rights.. the bush administration is committed to strategies that limit life saving stem cell research,criminalize abortion providers,reduce the availability of birth control and deny funding of health reproduction education in the schools.. what better way to take on the christian coalition and ultra-right leaders and movements,than to use your voice to speak up now!!.

Shimmer

I do think that women should have the right to choose abortion. However, I think that with every "choice" of abortion, there should be given a tubal ligation. That way she won't find herself in that situation again and she will have to think long and hard as to whether she wants to give up her right to have a baby. I think that if you misuse your ability to procreate then that privelege should be taken away.

That way, if down the road, she finds herself in the position of caring for a child she could have the procedure reversed. Just a thought.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

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How many hours are falsely reported?

by badboy in

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in the january 1 issue of each year, they harp on about how many hours the jws did last year etc etc.. how many hours are possibly falsely reported?.

discuss,please

Shimmer

I feel so embarassingly honest. I never lied on my report. But I think the most hours I ever got in one month was 4. Most of the time it was 2. And for the last 7 years before I stopped going I didn't go out in service at all. What does that say about me? Maybe I never "really" was a witness. In name only.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

20

SAD!

by 2SYN in

well this isn't just another "boohoo, i'm so depressed, bwaaa!

" thread...this is a more detailed investigation into the reason behind my sadness.

i felt like i could share it with the people on this board, as you lot in general seem to be far more emotionally sensitive than a lot of people on the internet.. i've been listening to ok computer by radiohead, and i must say, it's by far some of the most emotional music i've ever listened to.

Shimmer

SYN,

No, I'm not really from Swaziland, I just thought the name sounded cool. I thought the United States was too boring to put down.

My mind is just the opposite of ya'lls, out of sight out of mind. I can't remember much of anything, especially my childhood. Maybe that's a good thing.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

20

SAD!

by 2SYN in

well this isn't just another "boohoo, i'm so depressed, bwaaa!

" thread...this is a more detailed investigation into the reason behind my sadness.

i felt like i could share it with the people on this board, as you lot in general seem to be far more emotionally sensitive than a lot of people on the internet.. i've been listening to ok computer by radiohead, and i must say, it's by far some of the most emotional music i've ever listened to.

Shimmer

SYN,

It almost sounds like you have been desensitized by all of the trauma that you have had to endure. Have you thought of therapy? I know that there is a stygma attached to it, but from personal experience it helped me immensely. I had therapy a couple of years ago and I found out things about myself that I didn't know existed. Sometimes just talking to someone about events in your past can help you dig down and find your emotions that you've locked up inside.

I hope you are able to find the reason to your sadness, you seem like a realy great guy who deserves to be happy. I always enjoy reading your posts.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

18

Thank You All!!

by teenyuck in

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friends

billygoat.

jt.

puzzled.

Shimmer

puffs,

My thoughts are with you. I lost my father 2 years ago. I hope you have a good support system.

shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

38

Gender discrimination?

by teejay in

sixty minutes covered this story a month ago and meet the press brought it up again this morning when rumsfeld was interviewed.... when stationing troops in foreign countries, the u.s. military tries to abide by the rules of the country.

in saudi arabia, the custom for women in public is that they wear an abaya, a floor-length, long-sleeve, loose-fitting garment that covers everything but the face.

air force lt. col. martha mcsally filed a lawsuit against the pentagon, arguing that the policy was discriminatory because men are not required to dress in traditional muslim garments.. when interviewed on sixty minutes, mcsally was so offended by the garment that she would not put it on just to demonstrate what it looked like.

Shimmer

I'm so angered by this story. Not only because it is happening, but because some of the people on this board think there is nothing wrong with it. By subjecting our female military personell to their barbaric views of women, in my opinion, is co-signing their bullshit!! By going along with making women second class citizens, our government is basically saying that it's "o.k." to treat women this way. AND IT IS NOT O.K.....EVER!!!!

It may just be a "loose scarf" to some people, but to the person wearing it, it is much more. It is a constant reminder that you are not as good as men. Which is a total crock!

Whew! I feel better after having that rant.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL

29

Attracted To What Types?

by gilwarrior in

i tend to find myself attracted to the extremes.

either woman who are very nice and sweet or woman who are wild and crazy.

however, i don't like woman who are rude and have a lot of attitude.. many guys like blonds, but i tend to like dark haired woman better.

Shimmer

For some reason I'm always attracted to the tortured souls. Musicians, artsy types, poets. Probably because it is my complete opposite. I am the class clown. Oddly enough I find short men attractive, even though I married someone 6' tall. But I did manage to marry a tortured soul,he does have a sense of humour though, which is nice.

Shimmer

Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL