this is a very interesting test.
try it.. have a pen and paper handy before you read any further.. as soon as you read a question, write the answer right away.. make sure to answer questions 1-10 before moving on...no cheating!!
read the following questions, imagining the scenes in your mind, and write down the first thing that you visualize.
1. My husband
2. a bear
3. We look at each other and he runs away
4. Big, two story, with a wrap around porch and lots of windows
5. no fence
6. a bowl of lemons, chairs, china cabinet
7. metal
8. pick it up
9. babbling brook
10. hop across on stones
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
i just got a call from a very sweet sister from the kingdom hall, telling me that i am her householder for her talk tomorrow night.
i have not been to a meeting since november.
i have managed to avoid elder's calls.
Thank you all so much for your suggestions. I think I am going to take the route of not calling her back. It has seemed to work so far in avoiding the elders. I guess it is only a matter of time until they do force my hand, but until then I guess I will keep playing cat and mouse.
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
i just got a call from a very sweet sister from the kingdom hall, telling me that i am her householder for her talk tomorrow night.
i have not been to a meeting since november.
i have managed to avoid elder's calls.
I just got a call from a very sweet sister from the kingdom hall, telling me that I am her householder for her talk tomorrow night. I have not been to a meeting since November. I have managed to avoid elder's calls. I'm trying to fade away quitely. Only because I am opposition to the repurcussions of da'ing myself.
So what would you do? I would feel badly not returning her call. But if I did call her back I don't know what I would say. And do you think this stuff is going to continue unless I da myself? Am I going to be left no choice?
Please help me, especially if you've had a similar experience. Or even if you haven't.
Thanx
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
sometimes i think about all the time i waisted as a witness and it makes me shudder.. i don't want to dwell on negative things but , what the hell i'm happy today.
i'd thought i'd try and work out how much time i've lost.. i was brought on on the org and left at 27.. if i spent an average (even as a child in a pushchair) of 5 hours in meetings 1 hour either side getting ready travelling etc(so thats 3).1 hour studying for meetings and talks etc.2 hours on the minsistry.. that gives me a rought average of 11 hours a week.
( really it takes up more time than this).
Sleepy,
I agree with Pat and Englishman that there is two ways to look at a situation. You can dwell on the negative side or you can choose to focus on the positive.
Such as: You would not be the person you are today if you had a different past. You have many more years ahead of you to live your life in a much more positive way. And like Englishman said, you've learned a valuable lesson from this time in your life.
Find your passion or purpose in life and make a conscious effort to reach that goal everyday. I'm working on that one myself. A good friend of mine told me that if I make an effort to reach my goal, doors will be opened up that I never dreamed of. So instead of waiting for my purpose in life to find me, I'm going to go out and pursue that purpose.
Good luck on your journey in life, just because you've been held back for the first 27 years doesn't mean the journey is over yet.
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
it opened yesterday at alton towers.
anyone tried it yet?.
englishman.
C'mon ya wimps!! I'm thinking that by riding this thing I could live out all of my flying dreams that I have. I can't wait to try it!!
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
you all know what i'm talking about.
those horror stories that parents tell their children to keep them from doing something annoying or potentially dangerous (e.g.
"your face will stick that way).
If you eat watermelon seeds a watermelon will grow in your stomach.
If you don't clean your ears out potatoes will grow in them.
And my favorite of all. My grandmother told me that if I ate food in the bathroom the devil will come to visit me. She wasn't a JW, just a little psycho I think.
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
when i was an active jw, my closest friend was the wife of an elder who had been disfellowshipped because of an affair with a pioneer.
i loved her and we got along great together.
i considered her my very best friend.
Oddly enough it was my husband. Although at the time we weren't married. We were teenagers and hung out with the same group of witness kids. Well, we all were drinking one night and the next day he "felt bad" and told his mom, so we all got in trouble. He did that twice actually.
You wouldn't know he was the same person now. He's quite the partier and plays guitar in a band. He tried to be "good", it just didn't work for him too well.
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
at what age would you be happy with your kid's boyfriend and girlfriend 'sleeping over'?.
would the rules be different for boys vs. girls?.
personally, i think given a choice between 'it' happening anyway god-knows-where and giving a suitably mature kid some privacy, i go for the privacy option.. what do you think?
Kist,
I totally agree about the "playing house" idea. A child is not mature enough to make adult decisions. Choosing to have sex with someone is an adult decision. And having a sexual relationship is not just physical either, it brings on a whole range of emotions that I don't think a child is ready to handle.
A friend of mine told her daughter that she was not allowed to date until she was 16. When her aunt asked her how she felt about that she told her that it actually took a lot of pressure off her because she didn't have to start worrying about all of that added "stuff" that comes with dating. She could just focus on being a teenager with her friends and activities and schoolwork.
And I would hope that i have raised my daughter to respect herself enough that just because I won't let her have sex in my home that she would have sex in a slum somewhere. But even if she does, I'm not going to change my rules for fear of what she might do. I have a friend who did that and her daughter walked all over her. And still ended up pregnant and not married.
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
i'm in need of advice or just other opinions or experiences.
this is kinda directed to xjw's who have spent their whole lives in the org and had to leave lifelong friends and family behind when they left.
especially, single parents..if there are any others out there i'd like to hear from you.. my question has to do with what system you have in place to make sure of your childs future in the event of something happening to you.
flower,
My husband and I were just discussing that dilemna recently. We still haven't come up with a solution. But I'm thinking of asking my childhood friend to raise my kids, should anything happen to both of us. Oddly enough this friend of mine was raised a witness, her mom was a pioneer. When we were in high school her mom stopped going to meetings and da'd herself. At the time I thought how horrible that was, but now of course...... My friend and her husband have been married for 18 years and have two sons who they do an excellant job of raising. I know that it will really piss our families off if we tell them what our plans are, so I'm probably not going to tell them, just let them deal with it if it were to happen. I know that's a copout, but I just don't think I could deal with the backlash.
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
my vote's for lb!!!
lol .
"god is a comedian playing to an audience too afraid to laugh.
Is it just me or do you see a little bit of John Travolta in LB's pic. Oooooh Baby!
Shimmer
Maybe being oneself is alway an acquired taste.-----PATRICIA HAMPL
