Have the elders made any shepherding calls on you or talked about your field service report?
zophar
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disfellowshipped wife, husband still a jw
by thereishope ini'm new here and haven't introduced myself yet, but have been lurking for the past couple of weeks and learned so much!
quick first question: if i get disfellowshipped for researching info on websites other than jw.org (the official website), how can i expect to be treated by my husband still in the truth?
ie what will he be told by the elders about how to treat me?
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I'm still on my JWN holidays but had to pop back to share this experience.
by nicolaou ini'm a postman with the royal mail and was assigned to train a new starter yesterday.
my line manager introduces me to 'dave', within seconds my jw radar was on maximum!
in his mid to late 30's, politely spoken and with that haircut - i just knew it.. the post he'd applied for was saturdays only, he said he did a lot of volunteer work.
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zophar
Really appreciate your ability to empathize. Good of you to recognize how naive a JW can be in a "worldly" setting.
It may be eye opening for him to find that you can find a real friend who is not a JW.
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How Many Elders And Ministerial Servants Are There In Your Congregation?
by Village Idiot ini'm curious to see how much manpower a little congregation - a hundred?
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zophar
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28 years
by PLAYGROUND inearlier i posted about my loveless marriage.
i was baptized at a very young age, and during that time period i was having sex.yes i made a dedication knowing i was still practicing fornication.
i had raging hormones since my youth.
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zophar
It is NOT Jehovah's Witnesses who forgive sin, it is God.
Instead of talking to elders about this, talk to Jehovah about it. He is the only one who really has authority over you. If there is a God and he is really a God of Love then he understands your situation and the torture you are going through.
You sound like a person who still believes in God so why don't you entrust yourself to his mercy and leave the rest alone. Your religion only has authority over you if you let it.
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The Kingdom Hall
by TheLiberator ini know i have mentioned this on other posts.
as a born-in, i was obsessed with the watchtower.
it was god's organization.
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zophar
Pete...
What a balanced reply. Well thought out and reasoned.
There are so many things we could get involved with that are far worse than a religious cult. What about the Manson Cult? What about the bloodguilt of the Nazi's etc. It doesn't mean that the religion didn't do us harm but we can stop that harm in time.
Our motives while we were JW's were pure for most of us and we had a real desire to help others and to worship God. There are probably about the same number of Christians among JW's as many other religions.
How right you are about the black and white thinking. We need to stop it!
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The real reason so many witnesses end up here....
by stuckinarut2 inwhy do so many witnesses end up coming to forums like this?.
no doubt it is because of the fact that the society disallows any form of sincere questioning of teachings or doctrines or history etc.... if there was open discussion allowed - free of repercussions and punishment, then no one would feel stifled.
if genuine concerns could be raised, then no one would feel smothered or unable to share thoughts... then in turn many would not leave.... but due to the high control, authoritarian culture the society has created, many feel trapped, and end up searching outside of official channels...and leaving the society.....
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zophar
Good post.
I was thinking how restrictive the Catholic Church doctrine is. No birth control, no divorce etc. and yet it doesn't appear to affect people at all. Why? The Church doesn't try to enforce every rule and make people conform or get DF or excommunicated. So you can go to Church, worship, fellowship even if you don't agree with everything.
The same principle does not apply to JW. It seems their mission is not only to set guidelines or rules they think are right, but they have to enforce those upon those who disagree. That stifles freedom of thought and action and drives people away.
JW's who seem to do best would be the ones who "go to Church" at the Kingdom Hall. Then they go home and lead the life the feel called or compelled to lead.
They don't give JW's control of their every movement. Unfortunately, because it is a high control group demanding ENFORCEMENT, these people often find themselves at odds with the elders simply for living their own lives and making their own decisions.
Wonder why JW's even have a conscience if it is so unnecessary??
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zophar
Why isn't Bernie winning the minority vote if he is just for free stuff?
What an interesting mix of people the reporter decided to interview. I wonder, is there ANYONE who deserves assistance?
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Why Me?
by Grey Goose init the question that i have found myself constantly asking myself the past few months.
out of all the jws i interact with, why did it have to be me that woke up from this mess?.
i am relieved that i have woken up to the bullshit, but a side of me misses that fuzzy feeling of being a 100% believer.
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zophar
I'm sure that children who learn there is no Santa Claus or tooth fairy go through some trauma too. They seem to be able to adjust quickly to reality though.
Unfortunately, many of us were so sure we had all the answers for 30, 40, 50 years or more before reality shattered our perception. I guess I can only say, I'm glad I'm not in my 60's still waiting for Santa Claus.
Who knows what will shape my thinking in the future, but I doubt very seriously it will involve a cult or any absolute black and white thinking process. For that I am grateful.
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Actions speak louder than words
by Sabin ingday to you all.
i have had a thought i would like to share with you.
i cannot remember who it was, but i believe it has been mentioned (maybe paul grundy) that if you wish to null & void your baptism because you were so young when it took place that the wtbts will not allow it if you have been participating in the believes & practises of the religion when you were older & able to make a decision of your own free will.
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zophar
Ah, if life were really just that black and white, right or wrong!
Example, I disapprove of excessive violence against young black men by Police authorities in the US when it happens. A good example of this for me is the Eric Garner case where a black man died for a very minor offense. However, I don't agree with Al Sharpton who I believe exaggerates at best and actually lies about white on black crime. So I go to Washington DC to march in support of Black Lives Matter, does that mean I'm approving of everything they stand for? If I were to vote for a presidential candidate, do I have to agree with every one of his policy positions? Finally, does every Catholic attending Mass agree with every doctrine of the Catholic Church?
I just don't think that life is that black and white, there are shades of gray and each person has to make his or her own decision about these things.
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Gay ex-Bethelite
by Chip Williamson injust now finding this web site and have enjoyed reading the comments.
i've never written down my story and it could be a jerry springer episode but here goes.
i was raised as a jehovah's witness from as early as i can remember.
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zophar
I knew a Sister who married a gay man. She did not know he was gay at the time of their marriage but found out on her wedding night. She could never accept it and eventually this lovely person committed suicide. No doubt there were many emotional issues but she confided in her friend what she knew about her husband and how it was affecting her. She seemed to try her best to be a good wife, and of course, divorce seemed out of the question for her. I guess she endured as long as she could.
Her husband never remarried. I've never been able to view him the same way since.