Xanthippe's nephew, please listen to your aunt who is speaking with a free mind and no hidden agenda, who appears to be governed by love and not rules. Many of us here know how hard it is mentally once you have peered beneath the veneer and are happy to help any who need support in thinking freely for themselves.
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A fourth generation JW on the way
by Xanthippe into my nephew,.
your other aunt phoned my non-jw cousin, so i know your wife is expecting a baby in the new year.
congratulations!
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What Made You Finally Wake Up?
by Tenacious inhello to all.
i've been on this site for a couple of weeks now posting here and there but have not had the opportunity to read about many of the regular members and what led up to their leaving the wt.. i understand that some of you (i'm part of this club) may not be able to disclose many details and i can appreciate that.. i'd love to hear what was it that finally made you renounce what is and hopefully soon to be "was" the wt.. i truly look forward to having good discussions.. thank you to all for your kind participation.. .
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happy@last
The signs for me were always there, but cognitive dissonance and the control of the cult stopped me from breaking free, until I was truly at breaking point.
At around the year 2000 my abuser was reinstated without my knowledge, I heard about it from my sister who called very upset at him stalking her at her assembly! I wrote to the elders asking how they came to this decision, what repentance did they see, to date I have never had a response to the letter. It was this same year I was appointed an elder myself and I have always wanted to help people. I saw this as an opportunity to do that. What I then saw was so much hypocrisy, I truly had believed the elders were trying to minister to everyone, what I witnessed was not the case, and directions from Bethel were so unloving that I couldn't cope.
In 2003 I became suicidal, mostly due to the abuse I suffered as a child. I went to a psychologist every week for 6 months which helped greatly, but something still wasn't right. Around 2010 I was talking to a CO and told him I had seen a psychologist and a number of other health professionals. He said "Could you not have just got help from Watchtower articles?" That was the comment that made me realise it was so wrong.
I have a good friend who has never been a JW, we had endless debates about JW beliefs and what she was saying was always logical, far more so than what WT was saying. She helped me realise I could have a life without the influence of WT.
The cognitive dissonance hurt so bad, I knew what I had to do but knew it would be tough. I had a mental breakdown, this was my excuse to fade overnight. Then 3 years later the elders started hassling me, so I DA'd. I am so much better for it, and happier. I do not have any mental turmoil and see life is for living, not for waiting on everyone else to die at the hands of a so called loving god.
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What do you have to be thankful for?
by NewYork44M ingiven the recent holiday, i can't help but reflect that this has been a very good year and my life is pretty damn good.
there was a lot of hard work, but i get a sense that i am finally reaping the benefits of years of effort.. what do you have to be thankful for and has 2014 been a good year?.
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This has been a bad year in many ways, my dad's girlfriend died suddenly, my best friends mum died of cancer, and a member of my staff died from cancer also. My JW family have begun shunning me, I am dead to them.
However I have been lucky enough to find and receive real love from friends, I have 2 healthy children who are slowly coming out of JWisms despite them living most of the time with their JW mum and I have a place to truly call home. I started a new side to my business which I am enjoying and am putting together plans to help as many people as I can who have been shackled to a cult.
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They didn't get away with this one
by berrygerry inat least they didn't get away with this one.. he was convicted, despite wts extreme efforts to quash a search warrant.. (a pity that the us has crazy "religious privilege" rules - canada is far more sensible)/.
http://www.canlii.org/en/bc/bcsc/doc/2007/2007bcsc1455/2007bcsc1455.html?searchurlhash=aaaaaqahamvob3zhaaaaaaab.
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They must have hoped it would set a precedent that their confidential letters cannot be opened to the authorities. It's odd that the meeting that night had been cancelled. I wonder what excuse was given to the rank and file?
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2 Faced JWs and Thanksgiving
by minimus inmany jws enjoy turkey on thanksgiving day and are often discreet about their indulgences.
why be two faced?
why try to excuse it?.
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happy@last
My kids are coming to me for Christmas - yay. They tell me their mum is going to be giving them 'winter' presents when they return!
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Two pet peeves of mine
by Sour Grapes inthere are two things that just drive me crazy.
one is that the art work in the watchtower is treated like they are actual still photo's taken thousands of years ago.
your will hear comments about look at the smiles on their faces or the sadnees or happiness in their eyes, or notice the reaction of the crowd, etc.
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And why have bowls of fruit as if bought from the local store? Can't you just pick your own and eat when you are hungry?
Guess what?!? I have taken to wearing headbands now, lol, and I love them! Bwhahahaha!!
So long as they are not red, they are the worst kind
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It's a Happy Anniversary.
by quellycatface inexactly a year ago today, i made my first post on jw net.. this then prompted me to disassociate from the jw cult and get my life back.. it's been a rollercoaster year but i can honestly say, after 12 months, i am in a much better place than i was a year ago.. it was the best thing i ever did.
no regrets.
life is hard but good too!!.
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- life is so much better when you can think for yourself, congratulations, have fun
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I need a good cry but I can't. Please help?
by ohnightdivine inbesides being overworked and overstressed almost everyday in the past few months,.
i've had to deal with a 'broken heart', insecurities with my physical appearance (gained a lot of weight),.
and being lonely because i started distancing myself from the 'congregation', i just want to cry, sob, and bawl out here in my bedroom.
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happy@last
I couldn't cry either, for years. My psychologist said it was fine and that one day I would. Years later I was able to, now any soppy film or sad story will set me off. Don't worry if you can't, it might just be a safety mechanism, why not try a sad film?
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Who's lying to whom---JWB
by Brainfloss inthis is a great collection of watchtower quotes that contradict themselves.. probably been posted before but worth a look!.
http://smmcroberts.net/blog/a-jehovahs-witness-dilemma-part-three#fnote1.
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happy@last
Some good research and well compiled
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I Dedicate this Post In Support Of Candace Conti in her effort to gain Justice For All Sexually Abused Children by the WTB&TS
by smiddy incorrect me if i am wrong , wasnt this first brought before the courts on the 20/09/2012 ?
if not earlier ?.
candace conti has held out from taking a settlement from the wtb&ts which would require a gag order .
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happy@last
I hope they're doing okay and that the judgement in itself has given them some comfort. To put your life on hold until something happens will be costing them emotionally, I wish them every happiness and hope they are enjoying life meantime.