then come to the hall and NOT ONE BRO COMPLIMENTS THEM and then mon thru fri she has to deal with smooth larry telling her at work how FINE SHE IS, then we wonder why our sisters get involved and we ask WHAT HAPPENED TO HER.
hell YA !!! Brother!!! Preach it!!!!
I cant tell you how true that statement is. When I was single and going to the Hall, I didnt have much of a social life. Every dress, shoe, makeup, etc...was done for the meetings. I would spend alot of time getting ready. Have the eyeshadow to match the nails, the shoes to match the dress, new nylons, hair curled... looking mighty fine and go to the meeting to get no props. Alot of the older (and frumpy) women would look down on me and judge me, saying I was looking for the wrong type of 'attention'. In reality, I went to the meetings for spiritual reasons..but I was sick of being overlooked by 'brothers'.
I even recalled one brother, around my age. He came up to me, red face...said, 'I dont want you to take this the wrong way, but you look off the hook tonight.' He was very worried that I would mention to someone that he said it. I was so shocked that he somehow felt that complimenting me was wrong.
There were even times I researched articles and prepared answers very articulately...sometimes writing them on a piece of paper and taping it inside my Watchtower. You cant imagine how it felt to have no-one comment to me about my answers, yet run to brother so-and-so and tell him they love how he handles the microphones. I was always told how I would need a man to be my spiritual 'head'....as if my life wouldnt go well if there were no man present. I can vividly remember when a certain brother liked me...he was nowhere near my taste, flaming red hair, freckles, thick glasses.....and all the sisters urging me to date him because he was an MS and might get me 'into Bethel'.
Yup, I've lived in someone else's shadow for too long....it has only been since I left the 'Org' that I have been able to fully recognize my womanliness without apology or guilt.
