Hi JT,
I thought your post an excellent breakdown of HOW the borg is able to control even the most intimate details of someones life...without getting themselves in trouble by stating definitely :You Cannot Have Children", but the effect is the same.
I am sorry you both had to endure that. I agree with what others have said...it's not too late if you both want to still have kids, it will just require checking with a doctor first for Mrs JT. But at this stage of life, you should also seriously consider how much it will change your life! Now don't say "DUH" and roll your eyes at me...I KNOW you've thought of that. Having kids is kind of like having sex for the first time. You can imagine what it will be like...you can talk to all your friends who've "done" it and get their opinions...you can read about it, watch it, etc... But it doesn't really prepare you for the reality of it. Some are extremely disappointed, some pleasantly surprised...you get the idea. Same with kids. I wouldn't take a million dollars for the ones I have, but I wouldn't GIVE a nickel for another one!
Good luck to you and the Mrs, whatever you decide.
think41self
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