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  Is Love Never Having To Say Sorry......?

  by Englishman in

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  my po dad used to tell me that forgiveness is only available to the penitent.

  as humans, we are under no obligation to forgive anyone, anything, unless the perpetrator expresses repentence.. is that right, we don't have to forgive unless we see remorse displayed by the wrongdoer?.

  if i forgive someone for a transgresion against me, and that person has no remorse, does that make me a spiritual cuckold?

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  Hello Eman

  Have I done something to upset you? Is that what this is all about? If so, I sincerely apologize!!!!

  I think you're on the right track. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves...not to benefit the other person. It contributes to our OWN mental health and peace of mind. Sometimes you will NEVER get the other person to even admit to their transgression, much less apologize for it. Of course, I think those people suffer a far worse fate in their lives than worrying about what I may think of them!

  As for the dubs and their "works befitting repentance" may I say......
  
  Anyone can play their little games, and put on their little act of being sorry, just to prevent being df'd. That's not a sincere show of contrition anyway. But we've all seen that before, haven't we?

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  for married people only

  by teejay in

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  there's a running debate i have going with my wife.

  i have the opinion that it is very possible for married people to have friends of the opposite sex without the idea of a sexual encounter entering into the picture.

  she disagrees, saying that once you're married, the marriage mate should be enough to offer you all you need in the way of companionship, conversation,etc.. let's say you're running an errand at the mall and happen to see someone of the opposite sex that you have known for years (your mate knows/doesn't know them... doesn't matter) and you decide to grab a cup of coffee and have a two-hour chat.

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  Hi Teejay,

  I agree with most of the other responses here. I have no problem with my hubby having friends of the opposite sex. He occasionally does have coffee or lunch with them, no problem. Just because you're married is an excellent reason TO have outside interests and friends. By keeping our own individuality and broadening our own experiences through personal growth, we maintain the "sparkling personalities" that probably attracted our mate to us in the first place.

  I think honesty and discussing any jealousy you feel, even if you're ashamed of it, is the key to making it work. If your mate has a real problem with one particular person, you should be considerate of their feelings, EVEN if it's really their own issues, and nothing you've done that causes them concern. I'm not saying you couldn't be friends with that person, but an honest discussion with your mate about why they feel uncomfortable, and discussing scenarios they may feel comfortable with, might be a good idea. Just a suggestion!

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  Christmas&Thanksgiving-Are you celebrating?

  by Vitameatavegamin in

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  hi friends;.

  just wondering about this subject of holidays again.

  i really miss christmas but don't have enough nerve to celebrate it.

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  Hello Vita!

  You'd better believe I will be celebrating the holidays. It is a wonderful time to spend with the family. We are creating traditions of our own...that have nothing to do with religion. So jump in sweetie, the water's FINE.

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  Door Magazine

  by JanH in

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  for extremely irreverent religious humour, i recommend http://www.thedoormagazine.com/.

  how they got the above pic of the absent yadirf, i do not know.. - jan. --.

  "doctor how can you diagnose someone with obsessive compulsive disorder and then act like i had some choice about barging in here right now?

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  Jan,

  I love irreverent humor Thanks!

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  The lesson my child taught me today

  by Esmeralda in

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  i know that my child is well off.

  we're not rich, by any means.

  we're still in the post college, young years of marriage, just "starting out".

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  Oh Essie

  I LOVE these little gems in life...that we learn from our children. You DO have a beautiful style of writing, and you are blessed in life with many good things, I think.

  Give your daughter this for me

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  May I have some comments, please?

  by Kent in

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  i did get an interesting mail from "mommy" - and i think this might be interesting to dig into.. please, let me have some comments!.

  http://watchtower.observer.org/apps/pbcs.dll/artikkel?nocache=1&dato=20011015&kategori=news&lopenr=110150008&ref=ar.

  yakki da.

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  Seven,

  Nice to hear you haven't lost your wit and charm, even tho' battling the nicotine deeminz. I just quit smoking myself. I've only been doing it two years, and Friday was my birthday, so I thought I would quit for my birthday. It's been a little hard for me, but I haven't wanted to hurt butterflies or kittens. Hubby says I was a little cranky today...but I only hurt him a little bit.

  Seriously Dave, congratulations on quitting after so long. And you're right...once things get so bad, why not pile a little more shit on? After awhile, you start to get impressed by how high the shit pile has gotten, and you can't believe that it can hold EVEN ONE MORE piece of shit...and then an ex wife or something will call, and you say "Holy Shit Batman! That is some stupendously serious SHIT" So I think I can relate to you, a little bit.

  BTW Kent....we've had a lot of fun with your post, even tho' not even one of us knows what the hell it's about!!!

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  May I have some comments, please?

  by Kent in

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  i did get an interesting mail from "mommy" - and i think this might be interesting to dig into.. please, let me have some comments!.

  http://watchtower.observer.org/apps/pbcs.dll/artikkel?nocache=1&dato=20011015&kategori=news&lopenr=110150008&ref=ar.

  yakki da.

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  Hey Seven

  Long time no see! Welcome back to funland!! How ya been? We have all been behaving very nicely since you've been away...absolute peace and tranquility has reigned. I swear! You know you can trust anything I say Dave.

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  May I have some comments, please?

  by Kent in

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  i did get an interesting mail from "mommy" - and i think this might be interesting to dig into.. please, let me have some comments!.

  http://watchtower.observer.org/apps/pbcs.dll/artikkel?nocache=1&dato=20011015&kategori=news&lopenr=110150008&ref=ar.

  yakki da.

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  Me Jane....Where's Tarzan?

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  LOOKING FOR THE TRUTH - I AM NEW HERE

  by erik in

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  hi, my name is erik.

  this is my first posting.

  i was a witness from the age of 2-18. i was baptized in 1990 as a jehovah's witness.

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  think41self

  Hi ERik,

  I just wanted to say Welcome to the board!

  Others have already answered your questions, more eloquently than I. You are already on a good path by wanting to make decisions for yourself and think for yourself.

  I feel badly that you are going through the emotional turmoil that you are. Many of us experienced the same. Most of my family are still witnesses, though I have been out for several years and will never return. Please do not make important decisions based on fear. That is not the right reason. Try to take a deep breath, calm down, and think rationally. Good luck to you in your search for answers!

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."
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  Getting busier all the time

  by Simon in

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  in case anyone is interested in how much this site get's used, here are the 'highlights' from last week:.

  over 2 million hits (this is a request for 'anything' including graphics).

  over 985,000 page views (this includes the 'chat' feature which bumps it up though).

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  Simon,

  Everyone comes here because we can say what we want, a freedom that was denied us for many years. Sometimes it gets nasty, but no one makes us read anything, right?

  You and Angharad are the best. You don't need any fast cars or loose women, and don't be tempted by the Red horse lady and her mounting block Angharad wouldn't like it!

  think41self

  "Not believing is not the same as not knowing."