I faded away (I thought only old soldiers did that) but like TR said moving away helped. I moved a long, long way away, had a little involvement and then moved again. No one has ever come looking for me in over 4 years. However, I made it clear to some family members that I no longer believed in the WTS, the FDS/GB or much of the Bible for that matter. I have a strained relationship with my parents and two siblings have little to do with me. The rest of my family (siblings) quit or (aunts, uncles) never were JW's.
As I moved I severed some friendships but they weren't that strong to begin with. In all honesty, my oldest friend who I have known since I was a teenager has never been a JW. I'm 41 on Sunday and my friend is 53. He's visiting the US on business next month and will be spending a weekend with me.
I suppose now, I couldn't careless whether I was DF'd or DA'd, shunning has no effect when you have no contact with JW's. And if it did happen I wouldn't tell my family.
Thirdson
'To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing'