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  Are you socially retarded? - For the newbies

  by Billygoat in

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  don't let this title startle you.

  i'm not starting a flame war.

  this is something that i've thought a lot about since i have two dogs.

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  yrs2long

  Hmmm,

  I'm thinking of getting a cam but meanwhile, I would be VERY interested in seeing your pic. Won't you kindly point me to the thread that contains said pic? ;)
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  Are you socially retarded? - For the newbies

  by Billygoat in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  don't let this title startle you.

  i'm not starting a flame war.

  this is something that i've thought a lot about since i have two dogs.

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  yrs2long

  Social interaction is not something that has been easy for me even as a child. I don't know how much being jw contributed to it or if it was due to being one of the youngest in a large family or any number of other factors including physical abuse and emotional abuse from my mother. Anyway, I was painfully shy and my parents were of the 'children should be seen and not heard' variety. Up until very recently, I viewed social interaction as hard work, feeling that I was 'on' or entertaining people and I would view myself from behind my eyes or as I thought I appeared to people. This was quite tedious and so I naturally avoided people as much as possible. I dreaded field service and my presentations were always carefully scripted. At congregation and family gatherings I was often the one in the corner with a book.

  It even affected my employment where, working in civil service jobs, I would score the highest on exams yet place somewhere in the middle on list rankings because my subsequent interview score would yank my overall score down. Spontaneous conversation was a laborious chore. I couldn't even engage in free hearted joshing as I often edited my responses carefully before actually replying.

  Dating was a total nightmare and even though I am not at all hard on the eyes, I have only had two serious relationships, one of which ended in marriage.

  Well, about four years ago I met a psychologist at work and somehow we began dating, mainly due to his persistence. Thankfully, he has been working with me to become a more social person and I have made great progress due to his assistance. He told me that I lived inside my head and that I didn't engage with people.

  For instance, when I knew I would make an attempt for an administrative technology position which would require creating a project and making a long presentation, he worked with me on developing my social skills. It's funny to think about it now, but he told me that my biggest challenge would not be showcasing my technical skills but establishing a rapport with the interview panel. He said I would need to learn how to engage with people and gave me an assignment that began with just speaking with people. And so I did, initiating spontaneous conversations with tellers, grocery checkers, neighbors and so on for months before my presentation. And wouldn't you know it, I nailed the interview and got the job!!! Actually, I placed in the top 3 out of 300 initial applicants with the difference between the top 3 being a fraction of a point. Seniority points were figured in and I had the least. Anyway, since that time, and with his help, I have become quite the social butterfly, at least at work and in my family.

  However, being social on this site is difficult and ost of my responses on are either quick 'me too' responses or responses to subjects that I am passionate about.

  yrs2long
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  Anybody from Los Angeles,CA

  by carlitos71 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  looking to get in contact with any xjw's in la, especially in the southeast-downey,hp,bell

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  Drive to Los Angeles for work every day.
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  Watchtower dissolves congregations?

  by TheStar in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have heard this from jws many times.

  they say that when the whole congregation is corrupt it is clearly noticable that jehovah's spirit is not with them.

  eventually if the whole congregation is corrupt the gb dissolves the whole congregation.. jws say this as if it were from personal experience.

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  yrs2long

  I've been in two congregations which were dissolved by the CO. The first time, they told us we could go to any congregation we wanted and the second time our 'new' congregation was split between two other congregations.

  I believe the second split was due to low attendance and the first to divisions and dissension among the elder body.
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  Prince married Toronto JW woman?

  by comment in

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  2. friends

  this may be old news, and it's not something that holds incredible interest for me, but i thought someone on the board might know this manuella testolini.

  i found this through a search engine at worldnews.com.. http://www.canada.com/vancouver/theprovince/story.asp?id={79ea5618-b49f-4515-b22b-3ecfe8adf2e7}.

  prince show a mystery.

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  yrs2long

  Hmmm,

  She's 24 and here's the 'big' guy and his bride

  well, heres the link to their pic, anyway

  http://www.princefams.com/galleries/princepics/pics.htm and for more of them together:

  http://www.princefams.com/galleries/princepics/princepics.htm

  Are they at an assembly? And iIs she really a witness, what with the way she is dressed?
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  Prince married Toronto JW woman?

  by comment in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this may be old news, and it's not something that holds incredible interest for me, but i thought someone on the board might know this manuella testolini.

  i found this through a search engine at worldnews.com.. http://www.canada.com/vancouver/theprovince/story.asp?id={79ea5618-b49f-4515-b22b-3ecfe8adf2e7}.

  prince show a mystery.

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  I was just listening to Prince's 'International Lover" this morning and wondering where he was channeling all of that suppressed sexual energy. As you may know, the 1st law of thermodynamics states that energy is neither created nor destroyed but remains constant. So I knew it would be a matter of a small amount of time before that sexual energy would be directed elsewhere.

  I surely hope that the jws he studied with gave him a true picture of what a typical jw sex life is like oe else he is in for quite a letdown.
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  What happened to GB member Leo Greenlees??

  by IslandWoman in

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  2. friends

  i would like to ask jws who are visiting here to go check their watchtower indexes for leo greenlees.

  he was a member of the governing body, he also is the only governing body member whose disappearance from the gb is not documented in watchtower literature!

  the announcement of the death, resignation or dismissal of every gb member can be found in watchtower publications except that of leo greenlees!!!

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  Violet Anai,

  Keep on living and pretty soon the Governing body will become to you even less than 'regular' men.
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  FLOWER...Hostess Extraordinaire!!!

  by BoozeRunner in

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  2. friends

  what a great cookout!!!

  flower and her roommate jen were simply wonderful hostesses.

  i had a great time on saturday as did all the guests.

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  yrs2long

  aw shucks, I want to meet some apostates!! Jealous that I couldn't be there at your party Flower, maybe next time.

  take care,
  yrs2long
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  To My Mother

  by MrMoe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at about 6:30 this evening my mother passed away.. .

  the best mother and the best wife anybody could ever be blessed with.

  she was not only my mother, she was my friend.

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  Amanda,

  I'm glad you were blessed to have had such a wonderful and nurturing person in your life. I hope your warm memories of your mom are able to sustain you through your heartache. How I wish I could have 10 minutes of the relationship you describe with the woman who birthed me.

  I am so sorry for your loss.

  yrs2long
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  **Can trust ever be earned once it is lost?**

  by butalbee in

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  in a relationship, their is 3 basic components: .

  1. trust.

  2. loyalty.

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  yrs2long

  Hello.

  Awhile back I caught a Dr. Phil show where someone asked the same question. I think he said that it is not really whether you feel you can trust the person, but whether you can trust yourself to take that chance. Will you be able to handle it if the person violates your trust again? If you are reasonably assure that you will survive and go on, then go ahead and take the chance. If, on the other hand, you will experience a breakdown from which you will never recover or which will disable you severely, don't proceed. Hope this helps.

  Take care,
  yrs2long