It all depends on the elders I think. One thing I've discovered is that, despite what they say there is no one standard for everyone.
My husband left the truth about a year before I did (he gently worked on me and finally I saw the light). He bought lottery tickets, even smoked a couple of times while out having a beer and the elders didn't say boo. They listened to my tears that I was going to lose him at Armaggeddon and left it at that. No one was in a hurry to disfellowship him. Even now, though we don't do anything unscriptural per say at this time, it's quite obvious that we are both apostates, yet the JWs haven't come near the house in years.
Edited for bad spelling (again).
Edited by - zenpunk on 30 July 2002 8:47:20