I've been reading alot of posts about spouses trying to get through to their mates still in Dubville - with mixed results. It seems to go like this: After some internal questioning the Exiting mate shares what they learn with the StillaDub mate. At first the StillaDub mate may be receptive and even share some of their own doubts and unresolved questions. But once the Stilladub mate realizes the situation may cause seious changes they become closed, exasperated and wished the whole thing went away. Then it becomes hard to talk to them about anything JW related.
I've read a couple of books that I think would really help couples struggling in this way. They don't even touch upon JW's. They both have to do with a fundementalist sect of Mormonism (FLDS). It seems to me to be a non threatening way to show how an insular controlling religion manipulates and controls it's followers stealing their lives away. They use the same playbook as the Society - information control, disfellowshipping, constant fear of Armageddon, warped reasoning etc. I think it would help keep the StillaDub mate engaged without them becoming overly defensive.
Anyway the books are "Escape" by Carolyn Jessop and "Under the Banner of Heaven" by John Krakauer. Me and my fiance have read these together and often found ourselves how anyone can be so obviosly duped.
Any other ideas?