Posts by aunthill

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Repressed, Triggered and Recovered Memories

by Big Tex in

first of all, let me say that many, if not most, of my memories of abuse and early childhood were recovered.

some people feel that this diminishes my experience, or in some way denies what happened.

i suffered from major depression and was quite suicidal for 2 years before something happened to trigger my memories.

aunthill

Big Tex

I read the first couple of lines of your post and almost stopped because it makes me sick to my stomach, but I didn't. It is amazing to me that you could come through all that and not have lost your mind. Cheers for Nina for being so perceptive and supportive.

This is such a difficult subject but one that HAS to be brought into the light of day. There are too many people trying to "normalize" this kind of behavior. Just look at NAMBLA (North American Man/Boy Love Association) and the FMSF that Lady Lee was talking about.

In every case I personally know of (including myself - and no where near as bad as what you went through), and that is not many, sexual abuse of a child by an adult is just that ABUSE, and the child is scarred for LIFE. There are way too many of us out here that can testify to that.

(((((hugs))))) to you and Nina

Aunthill

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Are you older than dirt?

by Lady Lee in

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somebody sent me this email.

i thought the older ones would enjoy the memories, and the younger might enjoy hearing about the strange and simple times of their elders.

graylen.

aunthill

Lady Lee,

I am older than you, therefore older than dirt, but I don't remember soldering irons heated on a gas burner or the car heater mounted inside of the firewall (probably just not interested), however I have to admit I remember all 25 of the quiz (plus Blue Chip stamps - do you remember those, or were they only a western item?) I do remember sprinkler bottles AND kerosene stove and heater - my mother was so-o-o-o-o happy when the apartment building converted to gas!

Aunthill

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Witnessism's........

by integ in

i know some have posted similar topics like this, but i thought it might be kind of fun (for the new ones that are coming here in droves) and others, to give some examples of catch phrases etc, that are unique to the jw world.

here's a few to start:.... "muster up boldness", "sound down into our hearts","satan's crafty acts", "paradisaic", "young ones"," discernment".....these are just a few of the more irritating.

add yours if you'd like.. integ.

aunthill

The "Friends".....*gag* .....in plain English means "all those who desert you when you really need help"

Aunthill (of the I-haven't-figured-out-how-to-insert-the-smiley/frowny/barfing-faces-yet class)

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Your Username

by RAYZORBLADE in

there are many reasons why we choose a username.

on this forum, aside from some of the more obvious names associated with our avatars, what does your nickname/username mean or refer to?.

some are first names.

aunthill

nilfun - after reading other posts re: song, it makes me glad I'm at work and have the sound turned off!

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Your Username

by RAYZORBLADE in

there are many reasons why we choose a username.

on this forum, aside from some of the more obvious names associated with our avatars, what does your nickname/username mean or refer to?.

some are first names.

aunthill

One day, after I had been lurking for some time, a post came up that I wanted to reply to. I had sprayed some ants in my house that day, and began thinking of how JW's reminded me of ants continually scurrying about feeding the queen (Bethel), and it came to me -

Aunthill! of the REALLY-glad-to-be-out class

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WT FAQ about shunning changes again!

by izobcenec in

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http://www.jw-media.org/beliefs/beliefsfaq.htm

before july 2002. .

they are always welcome to return to the faith if they reject the improper course of conduct for which they were disfellowshipped.. today:do you shun former members?.

aunthill

Welcome, Traci!

I live in a fairly large city (1.2 million) and we moved to the other side of town shortly after I DA'd myself. Before we moved I had run into 2 or 3 sisters who didn't know that I had DA'd, and, because I didn't want to get them into trouble for talking to me, I told them what I had done. Soon after that we moved, and I haven't even had a JW knock on my door in 9 years. Just keep your chin up and remember you are the daughter of the King (Jesus).

Aunthill

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Feeling Pretty Bad

by rebel in

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i hate mondays!.

i also feel bad because i have been receiving subtle hints from my hubby that he may be leaving me.

we have been married for 24 years, have 4 beautiful, intelligent children (one is no longer with us), we have been though troubles, worries, the death of our darling claire, money problems - you name it - we've been there.. now - because i have different religious views to him, he doesn't think he can associate himself with me any longer.

aunthill

Rebel, What can I say that others already haven't. This origanization is so, so evil - I can't think of all the adjectives I'd like to use! Remind your husband of 1 Cor. 7: 10 - 17. Even though it is Paul's opinion, that scripture is what kept me with my husband through all the years I was a JW, and the Society used to use it all the time for people with unbelieving spouses, so all the more since the two of you have a history in the organization and there are no scriptural grounds for divorce. (He might figure if he divorces you, you would run off and jump into bed with the first available man, then he would be scripturally free to find another brain-dead JW "sister" to marry. Everybody in the bOrg seems to think that whenever anyone leaves, they can't wait to get into sin.)

I am really sorry for what you are going through, it must be very scary and difficult, but I have to look at his side, too. He is might be feeling betrayed because he figured you would be at his side like a good little JW wife, so this has probably come as a real shock to him. And, he might be trying this scenario to scare you back to the "loving" arms of the brothers and sisters at the Kingdom Hall.

Good Luck.

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thrown for a loop by Elder

by integ in

'just when i'm about to get out, they keep pulling me back in"- godfather 3.. this quote does'nt truly apply to me, but just when i am convinced there are absolutely no redeemable qualities about the borg this really nice elder comes up to me and very calmly tells me how much i am loved and missed at the meetings, to not feel any pressure, and that jehovah will always be there for me, and that he (the elder) would too.

he had a very calm, serene, quality about him.

came off as truly "spiritual".

aunthill

Years ago, in the 1970's when the Elder arrangement had been just been instituted, my PO was a very caring and sympathetic man. He served as PO for one year. Well, after his year was up, he completely fell apart - stopped going to meetings, etc., poor guy.

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Mormons Last Night

by NeonMadman in

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i mentioned last week in another thread that some mormons were to be coming by.

the way all this came about was that, in late april, my wife and i went to las vegas for a few days.

she was assigned by her company to attend a conference there, and, since i had never been more than a few miles west of the mississippi river, decided to tag along to see the sights.

aunthill

Neon - I grew up in the Las Vegas Valley, Henderson to be exact, and have lived here all my life. I hope you enjoyed your visit to our city. Whether you enjoyed it or not, it is an experience. Las Vegas is different from any other city in more ways than the obvious. Since I have lived here so long, I have gleaned a few facts along the way. My husband has a good friend who (thankfully he has not tried to convert us) is a Mormon, and my husband has asked him some blunt questions. David has always responded honestly, as far as I can tell. They do have some unusual beliefs - to my mind even more weird than the JW's.

Mormons also believe that Jesus and Satan are brothers (sound a little like the JW's - both angels?). I wish I could find the site, but I went onto a Mormon website, and they had an animated video of their version of what happened in heaven Jesus and Satan, as the children of God.

Mormons also believe that people have a prehuman existence, I am not sure, but something about little baby souls floating around heaven just waiting to be born so that they can complete the cycle and return to heaven. In the old days (when I was a child) a Mormon woman had to have at least 5 children, then she was guaranteed a place in heaven. Apparently that does not hold true today. (Sound like the WT? Changing doctrine to suit the situation, times or convenience.)

Also, if a Mormon couple is "sealed" in the temple, they will be married in heaven forever. However, the husband has to "invite" the wife to come to heaven with him. I'm not sure what happens to her if he doesn't invite her., probably she doesn't get to the highest tier of heaven.

Another thing: Bible history is continually being confirmed by archeology. There is no, repeat NO, archeological evidence to support the Book of Mormon.

Enjoy your discussions. I look forward to seeing your posts on the subsequent visits.

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Do Elders only verbally abuse women?

by aunthill in

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i have read many horror stories here, of elders demanding "sister sickly with 10 children, i know you have been in a coma for 6 months, but surely you have time to report.

and, by the way, why haven't you been to a meeting?".

comments please.

aunthill

I have read many horror stories here, of elders demanding "Sister Sickly with 10 children, I know you have been in a coma for 6 months, but surely you have time to report. And, by the way, why haven't you been to a meeting?"

Comments please.