Posts by losingit

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Pope tells Catholic women to serve.

by designs in

francis calls his church a woman and says women in his church have slipped into servitude roles instead of service.

'motherhood is being reduced to a social role'.

also- entering roles controlled by men causes women to lose their femininity.

losingit

Where did you read this? Article, please :-)

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I will give my husband the divorce he wants

by losingit in

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not because i agree with him.

because i do not want the divorce.

but because i love him and i want to respect him.

losingit

Not because I agree with him. Because I do not want the divorce. But because I love him and I want to respect him. He is my husband . This will be my final act as a submissive JW wife.

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Disfellowshipping

by Legacy in

i wanted to know if anyone on here was df'd or know of any who were...why i ask is because many of the friends i have spoken to, say it's not done, just like that.

it's a process.

i have spoken to a re-instated sister and she said by the time they see you, you are pretty much out.

Hubby gave me my cross and chain

by KariOtt in

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we got home earlier today from celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary.

we had a blast.

walked aroung gatlinberg.

Whenyou're in an abusive marriage, it is so hard to get out. Personally, I still don't want out, even though I am aware of the cycle. I thnk we should go to counseling. But he wants a divorce. Doesn't even want to address anything thats happened. Meanwhile, he flirts with me, heeven trued to sext me. Then the next day it's" I want absolutely nothing todo with you!" I get reeled in hoping that he's changed. Then I get stomped on. But I still keep hoping. Sick, isn't it?

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Family is drawing the line in the sand

by dissonance_resolved in

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so my family has obviously been noticing over the past several months that i've been missing meetings and fs.

i've had excuses sometimes, but not others, so my parents are definitely getting that this is more than a long bout of illnesses or fatigue.

i just received an email invitation to join them in service this weekend.

losingit

Oh DR :'( :'( :'(

Iunderstand how you feel. My ex husband and I were in a similar situation about 4-5 years ago, except neither of us knew TTATT. He stopped going to meetings. I got mad because he was missing so many. I was taking the little ones by myself. I was depressed that I was going to the meetings alone.

But then he started going again. I thought it would makeeverything better, but it didn't. I got treated so badly by the friends in the congregation during that time that he was inactive that it was too late. The situation reversed. And we never recovered from the spiritual and emotional abuse inflicted on our marriage by the WTS. I wish I had known TTATT back then. Things between my husband and I would have been very very different. I honestly believe we would still be together today.

Hang onto your marriage. Get him on your side. Love him. Do not get mad.

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Stand For Pure Worship, what convinces you that the governing body is being used by Jehovah? Thanks.

by The Quiet One in

i struggled with this question before i got baptised.

what helped you to overcome any doubts?.

losingit

Wow Christadelphians sound a lot like JWs. is it possible they are less corrupt? Do they practice shunning? Do they preach?

Honestly, it sounds like SFPW is here to get some easy hours in service.He's wasting his breath on this forum.

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Getting Stuck on the Idea of Closure

by OnTheWayOut in

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i may be suffering twice for having left the jehovah's witnesses and watching my jw wife and other family members stay in.

once for the changed situation (or loss) and another time for expecting to make progress in getting over it.. the 1969 book on death and dying by elisabeth kubler-ross introduced us to the kubler-ross model , commonly referred to as the " five stages of grief.

" they are very helpful, but the original idea of the book and the hypothesis was that when a person is faced with the reality of impending death , he or she will experience a series of emotional stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.. it isn't always the case, but those stages are often felt by terminally ill patients.

losingit

I don't know how anyone can expect closure when the injustice still exists? Perhaps not in your life, if for example everyone gets out, but when the injustice exists in the lives of others. Isn't it that sense of empathy and compassion which compels us to help others that are suffering in some manner? Blood runs through my veins, so I feel. I cannot be a cold, merciless, immovable stone. I forgive. Forgiveness is my best attempt at closure. And I'm not quite there yet. I think that's because JWs are so crude and arrogant. it makes it hard to turn the other cheek when they continue to inflict pain. Unfortunately, the scars and the bruises from the spiritual, psychological, and emotional abuse do not heal quickly.

OTWO I understand how you feel. And I always appreciate your posts.

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Oops I did it again. Another mistake

by KariOtt in

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so it seems i made another mistake.

i expressed negative feelings to my hubby.

i'm not allowed to express anything but positive emotions.

losingit

What if you're a JW male that's not going for privileges . What are the excuses then? A real sheep is torn apart by JWs . No wonder I felt like I never fit in.

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