Hi Goofy here, I am not comfortable enought yet to tell anyone not to study or go to meetings etc. I just think for yourself and pray a lot. Pray a lot, I said that twice because that is the most important. But WELCOME to the board!
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24Hey, first time posting!!
by Harry-Crapper inhello everyone, this is my first time posting.
i'm not a jw but my wife was (is) whatever, and i wanted to get the skinny from you guys.
we dont really have issues between the two of us but quite honestly i havent seen anything to make me feel like this is really the "truth.
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How many of you have had panic/anxiety attacks at the KH or...
by berylblue in...cried through a meeting and, if so, what were the reasons?.
i cried through a lot of meetings at my second congregation while i was still in good standing.
i couldn't stop myself; i'd just cry quietly.
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goofy
I never had panic attacks until I reached early 30's. I knew a lot of Bro's and Sis's who did. I started having them at first at the hall, then in the middle of the night I would wake up and my heart beat so fast I almost called an ambulance many times. I couldn't breathe and felt like running anywhere away. It was horrible. I haven't had a problem with them for a while now since I stopped going to meetings. I had one minor attack in a business meeting but that was it. I think the fact that the Halls do not have windows definitely contribute to panic attacks. A person feels closed in.
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Give Examples Of How The Witnesses Are Controlling
by minimus inplease give a number of examples to prove that jw's are a controlling group.
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My relationship with my Mom! I cannot have a normal conversation with her and tell her what is happenning in my life because she considers it wrong, be it friends, boyfriends, career pursuits, etc. etc. and feels she must either "adjust my thinking" or overtalk me to make sure she does not have to hear that I am pursuing something other than religion. I yearn for the normal relationship my friends have with the Mothers. The Witnesses control my relationship with my Mom.
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Looking Back, What's The Stupidest Thing You Believed In As A Witness?
by minimus infor me, it's the "faithful and discreet slave class".
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That if you married in the Truth your mate would never cheat on you. And if you married in the world they would definitely end up cheating on you.
That it was a sin to accept a good job that happenned to interfere with a Tuesday/Thursday/or Sunday meeting.
That if I ever left the truth or slept with someone I was not married to terrible things would happen to me and maybe even some horrible death because I was around "those worldly" people.
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confused
by free will ini'm a newbie who has recently admitted to myself that 'the truth' isn't the truth.
i'm struggling with my new found freedom.
i don't know what truths i should believe anymore.
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goofy
One publication that is great and is unbiased for he most part is a little book called "Our Daily Bread", It is similar in concept to the Daily Text published by the Watchtower, but is not in fact anything like the Daily Text in message. Everyday there is a little encouraging paragraph to read along with a Daily few paragraphs to read from the Bible. It is not published by a particular religion and is really uplifting and makes you think of God positively. I look forward to reading it and it has given me a small step in the direction of getting back to Bible reading. If you like, email me and I will find the address and send it to you on how to subscribe to it, it's free and they don't bug you afterwards.
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Do You Regard This Place As A Rehab Centre?
by Englishman into clarify:.
on this site, and others, i regularly come across people who say they are "moving on", or "getting a life for themselves", or simply stating that they have "outgrown this place".. now, i'm not talking about people who have simply got bored with posting, or are cheesed off with someone else and decide not to post anymore.
i'm talking about ex's who have come here purely as some sort of therapy exercise and believe that, once recovery is achieved, that "moving on" is a necessary conclusion to their re-adjustment back to normality.. in other words, like sandra bullock believed in "28 days", they assume that leaving is a sign that they are no longer operating dysfunctionally.
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goofy
I think this site is definitely helpful. People in the Truth do not know how we feel inside because they think we are doomed and evil. People, as hard at they may try, in the world have no idea how we feel, because they have never been in our shoes and cannot possibly understand. We understand each other and each other's feelings. That is important. I liked what Matty said about walking into a pub or coffee house and announcing that you are leaving. That would be rude and I think the same goes here, most of the time if someone does feel the need to move on, it is better not to tell everyone that they are not needed any longer. I think we have all felt enought rejection in our lives and do not need to feel it here. I think this could be a nice place to make understanding friends.
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I NEED you all's opinion!!! Please read................................
by Jesika ini just got off the phone with cruzanheart.
she told me about someone i knew that passed away.
i don't remember her very well, but i remember she was very nice and very humble.
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It is so sad that you have to hurt that way. I think you should go to visit the grave site, if that helps you. I am sure she missed you as well before she passed. It was wrong that she was robbed of you love in her later years. My heart is with you.
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Remembering the Truth
by ScoobySnax ini have no argument left in me, and no desire to fight really.
when i was inactive i used to look at ex-jws with placard boards outside assemblies or conventions, i knew these people existed even if they were a bit "wacky".
i always used to wonder why these people did this, and to be honest i didn't like them, they looked creepy stood there with their flip charts outside a stadium.
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I have some fond memories but I also have memories of standing alone before and after every meetings as a young person just wishing someone would talk to me (more than a passing hello, how are you) so I would look so stupid standing alone. Have you guys ever heard this one "Are you in the Truth" or "Is the Truth in You"
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Heritage left by life of Watchtower teaching
by goofy inhello everyone, i was just wondering if any of you have thought of this.
it makes me angry sometimes.
i am a grown child with an aging parent.
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goofy
The not so funny thing is I as I was beginning to drift away and Elder (who I actually do like) advised me that it was probably my job causing my spiritual problems. He thought maybe I should reconsider, take something a little simpler and Jehovah would provide. At the same time I was stressing due to knowing my parents needed several things. I do believe Jehovah provides, Now, I just understand, he provided a brain, two hands, and some common sense, which I am now finally using. So needless to say I did not take somthing simpler and stuck with my job. But I cannot believe how they tell us not to worry and then never worry about us short of handing us a Watchtower to read when we have a problem.
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Heritage left by life of Watchtower teaching
by goofy inhello everyone, i was just wondering if any of you have thought of this.
it makes me angry sometimes.
i am a grown child with an aging parent.
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goofy
Hello everyone, I was just wondering if any of you have thought of this. It makes me angry sometimes. I am a grown child with an aging parent. All of the years that I can remember growing up, my parents and others never saved for retirement due to the fact that the system would be long gone before they retired. If someone did talk about saving for retirement they were really looked on as spiritually weak and without faith. It was a given that children would not go to college to get that education that wasn't needed due to the fact that this system would be gone, why waste the time, we were taught. Now as a grown child I have heard (which I do agree with this) from the platform many times that it is the children's Godly responsibility first of all to take care of the aging parents. The congregation only takes partial responsiblity if there are not children who take the responisiblity. How nice of this organization, tell my parents; don't save, tell me; don't get that education, now tell me take responsibility when they have pretty much tied my hands in this aspect. Of course I will make sure one way or the other, but shouldn't they step up and help out this generation that they messed up with all their financial advice throught the years? In some ways I have been blessed My life seems to have worked out and I have had what I have needed but It kills me to see family without financial things they really should have and stressed and depressed about their situations and I don't have an abundance to provide. I worry about the future as they continue to age Just venting here.