i know that there is more love here, than i ever found in my kingdom hall.
i've seen how you all can rally and support one another.
and that is a mark of christ.
fruitcake and elumn8 -
elumn8, you just have to realize that you came on pretty strong in your first posts --- it's only human nature for people to put their defenses up.....
everyone here seems to be given a fair chance. so come on, show us who you really are at heart.
im sure everyone only wishes the very best for both of you.
best wishes, nowisee
my husband went into the hospital tuesday night with heart arrythmia.
he was given a shock treatment which lowered the heart rate considerably.
he had catherization done today which showed no arterial blockage.
blondie, we are ALL hoping for the best along with you. please let irreverent know we are all pulling for him.
best wishes, nowisee
first post on here and just a basic inquiry before i get in to the meat of my problem.
question is "is this a good forum to discuss problems i have dating a jehovah's witness?
" i am not a witness and wonder what i have gotten myself into.
it seems like no one in this story has a head that is screwed on straight - at least not the jws whose heads are just screwed by the wts and IT changes ITS mind all the time. it is all shifting sands based on guilt, fear, inner conflicts, ambivalence, denial.
wovy, i can see that you really care for this girl, but she will never be what you want her to be until she can find who she is and find a way to be true to herself, not to mention her children, her family, her religion and -- YOU.
often what seems most appealing is what is most challenging. you really must take some time to analyze the dynamics of your relationship. are you trying to WIN? is it about power? who will come out on top? think about this, i don't say it lightly.
are you making your decisions based on your sex life? then you make your commitment a permanent thing based on something that is temporary.
you met her while she was still married, essentially she went to you on the rebound, usually unwise because the previous relationship really is not over.
well i could go on and on about this. but what i recommend is that you take a break from each other. you need to get some distance so that you can see clearly. it is a good thing that you are going to florida. agree not to have any contact (that means no phonecalls) for at least three months during which time you will both commit to finding out what you really want.
if her heart and mind are truly still with jws you are just simply wasting your time.
do this for yourself. PLEASE??!
everyone knows the smugness that jw's have.
"everyone is going to die except us because we only have the truth.
" do you think that ex-witnesses continue this same smugness once they get out and realize what really is the truth?
no, i don't feel inherently superior (nor inferior for that matter) to anyone. i think we all are on a level playing field. we are all totally dependent on the Creator for everything we are and everything we have, whether or not we choose to acknowledge it.
well, most of you know i have been on the job hunt again
yesterday, i went to meet up with dfwnonjw to get a video about word and excel.
on my way to meet with him, i noticed a "now hiring" sign in a window.
guess i won't be trying the meatloaf any time soon!
i wish there was film in my camera for one last photo of our cat, tiffany.
we got her almost 18 years ago, when our youngest was in kindergarten.
now he's married.
dear mulan,
i am so so sorry for the loss of your cat. i know exactly how you feel. i know you will be weepy for some time. it is ok. they are so special. we are so blessed to have them in our lives and we have to remember the joy they have given us. when they leave it really is a heartfelt loss
very best wishes, nowisee
they posted a topic on the world's most beautiful woman.
what about men?.
who is the hottest guy in the world?
well i still like richard gere, and i think edward burns is adorable.
what do you thibnk of the christian message as compared to jw message, both are ruled by fear aren't they?
if you don't love jehovah you will die at armageddon, if you don't love christ you won't go to heaven you'll go to hell.
lovely.
yes, i totally agree with dj.
when i was jw i lived in fear of wrath and armageddon and that i could never do enough.
as a new-born christian i have been released from fear. i realized that as a sinner i am totally deserving of death and i accept that. even if i am judged as evil and condemned that is totally right as my God is merciful and just and his decisions are unquestionable. however, i have learned that my Lord does not want any to be destroyed but wants all to come to him. i have discovered His love and mercy and His desire for all to know Him. and so i am totally content in that. i trust Him. He will do whatever is loving, just, and wise. we are all in His hands. far better to be there than anywhere else.
best wishes, nowisee
what do you thibnk of the christian message as compared to jw message, both are ruled by fear aren't they?
if you don't love jehovah you will die at armageddon, if you don't love christ you won't go to heaven you'll go to hell.
lovely.
yes, i totally agree with dj.
when i was jw i lived in fear of wrath and armageddon and that i could never do enough.
as a new-born christian i have been released from fear. i realized that as a sinner i am totally deserving of death and i accept that. even if i am judged as evil and condemned that is totally right as my God is merciful and just and his decisions are unquestionable. however, i have learned that my Lord does not want any to be destroyed but wants all to come to him. i have discovered His love and mercy and His desire for all to know Him. and so i am totally content in that. i trust Him. He will do whatever is loving, just, and wise. we are all in His hands. far better to be there than anywhere else.
best wishes, nowisee
when i come on jwd, i usually comment on a number of threads, check out some research on previous posts on subjects that are on my mind and create a few of my own depending on if i have anything to say.
i promised myself i would go to bed at 2:30am, it seems like half an hour or less has gone by and it's now 4am, gowd!!!
does this happen to you?.
well it does take time to read it.....take it all in......catch up......say what you want to say......pm friends.....before you know it dishes still in sink, laundry still unwashed, paperwork undone, hubby in bed before you....
how can we please fit a few more hours into the day just for this??
