Posts by Redneckgurl

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i get Df'D today

by NoAnswers in

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hey guys this is my first post just wanted to say i get df`d today .. its a bummer ......the 16 th i had my judicial commite.

if anyone can give me some good vibe il apreciate it.... i been shunned my all my fam.... thank god i have my wife to support me (df`d also ) .

hope to hear from you

Welcome to this very supportive group. Sorry you are having to deal with this sort of pain right now, but you WILL be alright. My husband and I were both announced on Christmas Day '03 that we disassociated ourselves, and you can imagine what a stir that caused! Both of our parents are JW's and so are our siblings, with exception of one of my husbands brothers. We have 3 kids who don't see their grandparents much at all.

Be thankful you have your wife there, hopefully you are supporting eachother, and things will get easier as you learn to live in the real world.

Krissy

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i get Df'D today

by NoAnswers in

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hey guys this is my first post just wanted to say i get df`d today .. its a bummer ......the 16 th i had my judicial commite.

if anyone can give me some good vibe il apreciate it.... i been shunned my all my fam.... thank god i have my wife to support me (df`d also ) .

hope to hear from you

Redneckgurl

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Anyone from SE Texas???

by Elsewhere in

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every year or so i like to see if there are any new users from the area where i grew up.. the congregations i attended were: port arthur central congregation and nederland congregation..

Redneckgurl

As far as the seat cleaning at the Astrodome, that was so gross! I remember people dressing in their absolute worst clothes and wearing gloves up to their elbows. I went 1 time, I always had an excuse before that, pregnant, couldn't get a sitter, etc.....finally when I was able to go, I got there late and didn't have to do much. I also found out I was allergic to those latex gloves. I could never understand the "approved cleaner" thing because it seemed like nothing but water. My mom kept trying to sell these special brushes to people that could help clean the seats easier. That was so embarrassing!

After the dome was taken over by new management, there was no special deal anymore for cleaning, so the cleaning ceased. I believe they ended up in Bryan last year. The assembly being much smaller, and more of them. It probably had something to do with the cost. So instead, more people had to save up money for hotels on that "approved" hotel list so they could travel farther. Glad we didn't go last year, what a hardship that would have put on my family!

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My parents rejected my invitation - because of the tree

by GermanXJW in

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yesterday was a special day for my family and me: we bought our first x-mas tree.

the kids are very enthusiastic about it.

and i was happy providing them with something i did not have as a kid.

Redneckgurl

Hi! I always wanted to go to Germany! Took 3 years of German in High School..........another story............

((((((HUGS))))))) U needed that. I know how it feels, my mom came around a bit to see the kids before the tree, and after, she avoided us like the plague, like she would be infested with a demon if she stepped on the property or something. Hmmm, we are doing just fine! LOL

They just can't see the double standard, the hypocrisy, just remember that. At one time, you couldn't either. It does get easier though. I didn't think it would, but like you, my spouse is also there with me, and we support eachother. We finally have some friends we can hang out with on Xmas day, that night. It will be pretty cool.

Merry Christmas! Hug your wife and your kids, they LOVE you!

Krissy

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Anyone from SE Texas???

by Elsewhere in

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friends

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every year or so i like to see if there are any new users from the area where i grew up.. the congregations i attended were: port arthur central congregation and nederland congregation..

Redneckgurl

Hellooooo!

I grew up in Katy, TX, still live here and attended the Katy Congregation that was the epitomy of LOVE! lol Yes, we were supposedly known to be one of the most loving congregations in the Houston area. Funny thing is, no one else agreed with that within the congregation! LOL Did you attend the DA at the Astrodome?

Krissy

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All I hear about Jehovah's Witnesses..........

by Redneckgurl in

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hey everybody!

hope those who are celebrating the holidays are having a good one, and for those who aren't, hope you are enjoying your freedom!.

i have to tell you about these things i have heard recently.

Redneckgurl

Hey everybody! Hope those who are celebrating the holidays are having a good one, and for those who aren't, hope you are enjoying your freedom!

I have to tell you about these things I have heard recently. Too funny!

First I need to say that since being "out" I have not heard one positive statement about Jehovah's Witnesses like they claim they hear all the time. It just ain't happenin.......

Talking to a firefighter, he told me that he was on a house fire and the homeowner was pissed when they started dragging out all the porn into the front yard (during overhaul, after the fire) because he was one of Jehovah's Witnesses...........hilarious!

There was a housefire here in town the other day, the poor lady is mentally ill and decided to burn her house down because God told her it was time for her pets to die. Someone said "who is her God? she must be one of those Jehovah's Witnesses"

I have heard so many comments, negative, about them. Geez, where are all those praises that we have heard of during our time with them? Haven't heard a single ONE.

Have a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and a Happy New Year! or, just have a wonderful winter/summer, where ever you are!

--Krissy (btw, my husband is a firefighter, so thats why I have heard this stuff, lol)

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GOT A LITTLE STORY TO TELL YA.

by outoftheorg in

my wife and i live in a rather small town.

around 5500 residents and about another 2 to 3 thousand on the outskirts.. we have a very good hospital here, considering the size of the county and residents.. my wife is a nurse and now is the office mgr.

of the home health dept.. it seems that there is no end to the several things the hospital is involved in that call for volunteers.

Redneckgurl

I live in a small town, too. The love and kindness you speak of is something that was always a stumbling block to me being a really "good JW" I couldn't see what the JW's were doing that was so great to help people, even people who were in the congregation, like the worldly people I knew. I saw more judging and criticizing than anything. I have so much more love for people now, and appreciation for the good things in life. I also love volunteering and helping people, something I didn't feel I could do before, helping the "world". I still feel guilty about that, not being a better person.

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Do you and your significant other share religious beliefs?

by MelbaToast in

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sometimes, i think my husband is much more church oriented than i am.

i still get upset when i attend church, but lately he has been putting the push on me for us to go back to his church where he grew up in.

he would like to start taking our daughter so she has a somewhat structured religious belief.

Redneckgurl

We both left JW's at the same time, although some of our reasons are a bit different. He is really bitter about the things he was kept from growing up, like college for one. As far as the beliefs go, he doesn't agree with a lot of them now, but has a hard time letting some things go, like who goes to heaven, is there a hell, and stuff like that. He would like to start going to a church now and then I think, but one that is very liberal, like a non-denominational church.

I have pretty much decided that JW's are NOT in God's favor and do NOT have the truth. I have had a much easier time letting go and just trying to believe that God loves us all and we need to show him our appreciation the best we can. I agree with him about the sort of church I would like for us to attend. I am not as bitter towards religion as he is, I just wish my family would leave too.

--Krissy

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Making Up For Lost Time....Need Advice

by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! in

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doc and i have decided that when i finish my master's degree in psychology we're going to move somewhere for me to pursue my phd.

it's an amazing opportunity, somethng that as a dub i never even dreamed of.

i have so many questions though: how do i find out which schools are considered to be at the top for psych programs?

Redneckgurl

Wow! That is great!

You don't want hot-humid air hah? lol I know that the University of Texas Medical Branch has a great Psych program. Also Baylor. They always have a lot of research going on here too. (we've taken advantage of these services in our own family) I would think that any of the larger cities would have more opportunity for you both.

I am 33, and when I was in high school, I was a smart kid, but who cared? I wasn't going to college anyway, so I took Cosmetology during my Junior and Senior year. I never even let myself dream of what I could have been. Now, I would love to be in the medical field too. I am very intereseted in Psychiatry, too. I am thinking about joined the Fire Dept. with my husband and taking the Paramedic courses that they sometimes offer there. I want to BE something. Sometimes I feel like it's too late though, even when people say it isn't. Very discouraging.

My husband is 29 and is VERY resentful that he wasn't encouraged to go to college. He is very talented and brilliant, doing pretty well for an "uneducated" person, but now that we have a family, he can't even think about taking time to go to school right now. I feel really bad for him.

Go for your dreams!

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Letter from my mother........

by Redneckgurl in

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well, it's starting.

my parents came by the house this past weekend and their memories were refreshed by the christmas lights we had up around the house that i was no longer a jw along with my husband and children.

today she left this note in my car, along with a poncho that she knitted for me ..........tell me what you think, i want to write her back, but i would love to have some suggestions to use!

Redneckgurl

Thanks so much for the input. You all are right, I should just accept it as a gesture of her love and niceness. It just gets frustrating. I know how she is thinking, that making me feel bad is going to make me want to "come back" but that's one of the reasons why I left.

I hate seeing her walk around with such a gloomy look on her face, like she could bust out crying at any moment. (we see eachother at work) She has been like that for years, and of course, this time of the year is really hard for her because I know she misses it, even my husband thinks so. She would always sing the "Non-Christmas" Winter songs with us kids, the ones that devout witnesses still wouldn't sing. Jingle Bells, Winter Wonderland, and Let It Snow. Then she would still get excited about the Thanksgiving Day parade. She puts up Snowflakes and is so excited to get presents from her students at work. When we were kids and my dad was DF'd for smoking, she immediately broke into the Christmas Spirit again at this time of the year, but told us it was not really Jesus' B-day, and refused to have anything referring to that on our tree. We had a giant bow, no star, and definately no nativity or angels. She passes Candy Canes out to her students, too. My dad would be hard to convince, but I don't think she would. She is just "stuck" right now, and lets her emotions rule her.

Oh well, thanks for listening, I am going to write her a note, with a nicer connotation than I planned. See, I knew that you all could help me out!

--Krissy