Welcome Pozate -
My biggest problem was the shunning as well. I began fading over 20+ years ago. I am 3rd generation JW - all my family is still in.
Welcome to the board.
Mystery
i am a long time lurker who is finally ready to talk.i am not dfd or da but just walked out on a meeting back in 1981?
?what caused it???.
it was the flip flop in the disfellowshipping rules regarding family.
Welcome Pozate -
My biggest problem was the shunning as well. I began fading over 20+ years ago. I am 3rd generation JW - all my family is still in.
Welcome to the board.
Mystery
please welcome a young new user to the board.
this is a young person and i just spied a message from from him/her on another thread.
i'm going to cut and paste the thread they wrote below.
Welcome ChimChim -
Live, love & learn.
i couldn't believe that i was reading this in the news....http://www.news.com.au/common/story_page/0,4057,7446555%255e13762,00.html ok, dear it might fix my headache.
by george gordon.
october 3, 2003. .
Happy Thoughts I absolutely agree with you. I can not stand this "woman"; when I hear her on the radio i immediately change the station.
Sometimes I roll over and go to sleep; sometimes hubby rolls over and goes to sleep. Does it mean we don't love each other? NO! It means one of us just isn't in the mood. But the days we are both "in the mood" ....
Dr. Laura Who????
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ayn rand is mine.
just wondering so i can find a new book or books to read *smiles*.
Stephen King & Disney
we moved out of my parents house last week.
this was so difficult since im df'd and they were only talking to me since we were living with them.
of course i was prepared for what was coming, the yelling, talking, and especially the guilt trip.
Unconditional - a word not in JW's vocabulary.
Always keep that word foremost in your mind.
Unconditional what a wonderful way to be!
Good times and bad..... you have each other.
(((all three of you)))
the word has spread to my family that i questioned my sister and the elders came to my home..several of my aunts had called already and my one uncle from georgtown ca....they being so very concerned on my spirtitual wellbeing have forgotten that i have questions on why the organization does what it does.
i finally confessed to my uncle sam that last year another m.s approached me and told me his crimes against a new sister's child while he watched them one night when she was at a get together with other brothers and sisters.
i cringed at what my uncle has said but to argue with him would have been a brick wall.
The JW ways haunt us all. The first time I bought a Christmas tree ornament I had so much guilt that I threw it away. You can?t just discard everything you have been taught for 36 years overnight. You have to take small steps and take them one at a time. I have been ?fading? for over 20 years and I still can?t give anyone a straight answer about God.
(((mole))) don?t try to do it all at once. In a previous post you mentioned that you had teenagers. Are they JW?s? Do you have custody or their mother? Are they late teens or early teens? If they are early teens you still have time to become very involved in their life; late teens will be a little harder but you can still do it. Find something you enjoy and the times that you are feeling desolate and alone make yourself do it. You only have a few years left with your kids ? make them count. You can always come and ?post?.
I poured my heart out when I first found this site. I felt I was going crazy. I don?t post a lot, but when I am feeling like I am falling apart again, I come back here and read and read and read. I am also a 3 rd generation JW. I haven?t been DA?ed or DF?ed yet. Read Crisis of Conscience and the other publications put out by Ex-JW?s, you are not alone. I have met a couple of people because of MeetUp.com here. I am not from here, so I don?t know any JW?s or Ex-JW?s ? but I meet a lady thru an email address on Meetup and we are getting together, with a few other Ex?s she knows next month. I am really looking forward to it.
jehovah's witnesses are taught that they will live "forever" on paradise earth.. let's say the year is 278,486 (assuming armageddon occurred in 2003).
the millenium has passed, everyone has been resurrected, and earth has become the true paradise the jws predicted.. only one problem: you've done everything there is to do.
you've gone every place on earth there is to go.
Without many JW's having an education how would this "world" continue to exist? Electricity? Running water? I was taught - it will be like in the days of Adam and Eve....... no "basic's" that we "have to have" now. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy camping outdoors - but i am happy to get home to my hot running water, bathroom and kicking back watching a movie on TV.
Are there enough ?intelligent? (I am not being condescending) survivors that have the knowledge for the things we take for granted like electricity? My generation was not encouraged to have a higher education at all. All of my JW nieces and nephews are now being home-schooled and many others in their area.
What will the world be like 276,483 years from now..... with the education of JW?s only?
i have been thinking a lot since i posted my experience about leaving the troof.
if you haven't read it already, it's here:.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/59152/1.ashx.
I would try to send a copy of the letter to any JW that I cared about, so that they can read the reasons.
You said that you had moved; if you are close enough to drive, you could have flyers on everyone's car for all to see when they leave the meeting. All the brothers and sisters that make a quick exit would get to see one anyway. Let the elders, clean up and explain that. But I guess a more professional way would be to put it in the newspaper.
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but could foresee the future and saw that your body was thrown into the woods to rot, would it bother you?
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but could foresee the future and saw that your body was thrown into the woods to rot, would it bother you?
That is what i have ask to be done. My husband is dead set against it.
Guess we have to wait and see who dies first.