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  I talked to my daughter today

  by ESTEE in

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  as many of you may be aware, i am disfellowshipped and live in the same city as my daughter...we work a block away from each other in downtown vancouver.

  occasionally, i drop flowers off at the reception desk for her, with my home card, my business card, etc.

  well, today was the day when i decided to take it a step further.

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  breal

  Estee,

  Your daughter is very fortunate that you were willing to risk her rejection in public no less to try to show your love for her and reach out to her. I am sure she knows how much you love her if nothing else this was a good reminder. However this probably was not an easy interaction for her either because she most likely loves you as well but is trying her best in her own way to live up to the standards set by the JW's. It's a "mom thing" to worry about kids even from a far but perhaps she was simply having an off day so try not to worry too much that she is not doing well. (easier said than done for a mom) When family that are JW's ask you to respect there boundaries about not contacting them it is a very hard thing to do (I know this) - but by not doing it they feel you are not allowing them to live life the way they need to in order to survive in the organization. Besides it could end up causing a lot of problems for her if another JW saw her with you. However I do think the idea of leaving flowers for her at work every so often is a lovely one...this way if she ever needs/wants to reach out to you she will know you have not closed the door. Wishing for you to one day have the type of relationship with your daughter that you desire and deserve.

  BReal
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  Fathers Day

  by Xena in

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  ok ya'll i am fixing to head out to buy bubbles' dad a fathers day gift....and i haven't a clue what to get him.

  she dropped it in my lap and went off to the lake with a friend..soo any suggestions??????????

  what are you getting the dad's in your life?.

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  breal

  We got my Father in Law a cedar hanging basket filled with flowers (he loves to garden), last year it was new tools for his BBQ - but pretty much anything from the hardware store or Lee Valley.

  Yep today I was looking at the cards and so many of them I would have loved to have sent to my step dad...but with him being a JW still not very appropriate unless I modify the card somehow so he knows it's not a "Fathers Day card".

  Oh and Fathers Day is Sunday June 15th.
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  Please read what someone posted on Suicide, and tell me what you think

  by LyinEyes in

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  proplog2.. wrote this on another thread, and i would like to hear from others who may not have had a suicide in their own families to reply as well.

  do you think that the jw religion has at least some blame or bloodguilt over some of the jw suicides?

  i personally know they do, not all cases i am sure, but i know a large amount of them are cult related jw.......... remember we are not talking about just another religion, but a mind controlled cult known as jw's.

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  breal

  Shortly before changing my lifestyle which eventually led to me being DF’d I tried to commit suicide. I remember the shrink at the hospital asking me if I felt bad for trying to kill myself, but I said “Nope I feel bad for not succeeding”… My whole mentality at that time was greatly affected by never feeling good enough as a witness or in our hall…plus family stuff.

  Now the family stuff is still there (however exacerbated by being DF’d) but the witness thing is gone and all I can say now is life is great and thankfully I failed in my attempt….so yes I believe the JW organization influences people into a negative frame of mind and can contribute to someone trying to commit suicide.
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  Fashion Fluff....Questions for the Ladies....

  by teenyuck in

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  since it is friday and i am in a fluffy mood..... fingernails....long/short; painted, bare?

  french manicure or nothing?

  i had my nails *done* a few months ago and there was a man there getting a full set of acrylic nails.

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  breal

  fingernails short to medium as I cut em all the time. bare - but I paint my toenails a burgandy/mocha color.

  hate pantyhose - wear them only if absolutely necessary with heels for some outfits...
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  Just wondering...

  by zeena1998 in

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  mornin' all!.

  k...i've got a nosy question here.

  for those of you out there who were never jw's, what brings you here?

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  breal

  The organization was not a healthy place for me. Simple as that. I found wonderful, supportive, positive, loving people who accepted me for me. I realized that I did not need to be a witness to be a good person.
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  Are there any real reasons to go on living?

  by Robdar in

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  i would be interested in hearing a few.

  for the life of me (pun intended) i can't think of any good ones.. robyn

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  breal

  Cuz you don't want to give anybody that's gettin ya down the satisfaction of knowing/thinking they succeeded!

  And when things seem really bad it usually means they can only get better.

  Hang in there!
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  How Screwed Up Are You Because You Were A Jehovah's Witness???

  by minimus in

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  after reading so many experiences about how being a jw affected a person's life, i wonder how your life has turned out because you were at one time a witness.

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  breal

  I am more affected by disfunctional family issues. I think being raised a witness at the most basic level gave me some decent values and morals or a basis for forming my own beliefs and lifestyle. Although I am sure that can be said of any religion or belief system as there are many things I have written here that make me wonder about the WTS.
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  shattered, lost, or squashed dreams

  by SpiceItUp in

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  not really sure what brought this on but lately i have been thinking about what i have done with my life and what i want to do with it.. as a jw we weren't really supposed to have dreams of the future unless it involved a paradise earth and immortality.

  i can remember dreams of granduer in the entertainment field amongst other things.. i think it might be the fact that in a few years i will be at that *gasp* dreaded age (yeah its only 30 but its still a big deal for me) and feeling like i haven't accomplished anything with my life.

  am i depressed?

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  breal

  I hear ya. There is something to be said for children who are allowed to have friends (not just the ones in the church/hall), & who can play sports, join drama club or be involved in extra carricular activities that don't involve preaching/studying/meetings. Many witness families I know limit there childrens development socially and crush there dreams inadvertantly by not allowing them to live a normal childhood filled with all sorts of childhood fun! Or later in life by discouraging further education they limit the childs potential in the workforce.

  I used to want to fly a fighter jet or be a ballerina (so opposite)... but mostly I wanted to be a mom. Hopefully one day I will realize that dream. In any case I have a few friends (Non JW) who are also almost 30 and still trying to figure out what they want to be when they grow up...a few of them have just ventured back into school to realize there dreams.

  I say whatever you dream to be or do - pursue it! To me success is knowing that you did everything you could to accomplish something and learning from it. Anything that happened before you in control of your own life is out of your hands.
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  What Aggravates You The Most About The Jehovah's Witness Religion?

  by minimus in

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  well??

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  breal

  How it contributes to divisions amongst family members due to DF'ing, DA'ing & Shunning Rules.
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  Are people happier married or single?

  by JH in

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  it think it was paul who said in the bible that people are happier single than married.

  do you share paul's point of view?

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  breal

  Depends on the person. I am the love being & am happier married type. However I have friends who are VERY happily single - they have very active social lives/careers and a large circle of friends and family that complete there life. I think both situations have there + and -'s. However I wouldn't want to go back to single for anything!