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  Young JW's, What would it take for you to come back?

  by Spudinator in

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  this question is for the "younger" jw's, and ex-jw's that post here, say in their teens to mid-twenties.

  please consider the main question, and try to answer the a, b, and c segments if applicable.. what would it take for you to come back into the jw fold?.

  a. organizational changes?.

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  A. Organizational changes?
  B. Personal changes?
  C. Family Changes?

  A. Any organizational changes would be too little and too late for the pain they have already caused so many. They can't change the past. I find these "new lights" or "new understandings" to be a cowardly way of stating that they screwed up or were wrong. Even if they did change the things that little old me thinks are "wrong" - the damage is done as far as I am concerned.

  B. Hard to think of giving up the life I love, my real true friends and adopted family to consider going back to a bunch of hypocritical, self righteous, unloving and messed up people/organization....oh and like everyone is just gonna forget these years that I have been DF'd....like they still won't treat me like crap or label me or "mark" me....

  C. Can't answer this one cuz family was not the reason I left.

  So I will go with D.

  What is your answer?

  Cheers,

  BReal
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  Things Learned Along the Way

  by blondie in

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  2. friends

  i have collected sayings, homilies, whatever along the way that crystallize something bigger i learned.

  i will post a few every day.

  if you have one, please share it.. if you lie down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas.. to belittle is to be little.. somewhere, i got the idea if i just took care of others, i would be taken care of.. blondie

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  "I'd rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are; because a could-be is a maybe who - is reaching for a star. I'd rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far; for a might have-been has never been, but a has was once an are."

  - Milton Berle
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  What Do You Do Besides JWD?

  by pettygrudger in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  with so many new ones, and not so new ones, its kinda hard to get to know people.

  i'm just wondering, what do you like to do besides post on the jwd discussion board?.

  me, during the spring - fall months like my yard & gardening.

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  Spend lots of time on renovating our home. Trail riding, reading, camping, golfing. Hockey season is upon us again & I love hockey!

  The rest of the time is spent socializing with friends or working.
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  new canadian posters

  by orbison11 in

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  since we have all these new canadian posters, just wondering which part of canada you are from.

  orbi

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  British Columbia
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  For Panic Attack/Anxiety sufferers........

  by ScoobySnax in

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  2. friends

  does anyone here suffer with panic attacks or anxiety?

  i guess i have since 1999 after coming out of a particularly abusive relationship that stripped my confidence.

  funny thing back then was that my first "attack" was whilst i was on holiday relaxed when it struck.

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  I have major anxiety around driving due to many major accidents (always as a passenger). I force myself to do it on occassion but just the thought of driving or being a passenger (especially when the weather is bad) sets me off and I imagine the worst possible scenario. To try to overcome this I force myself to drive when I can in areas I am familiar with (short trips) and make sure that I give myself lots of time so there is no added stress. The rest of the time I am a huge fan of transit...something comforting about being in one of the biggest vehicles on the road.

  The panic attacks I feel around people are more associated with being in tune with other peoples emotions to much and feeling overwhelmed by them. Using a few breathing techniques or allowing myself to simply leave the setting that is triggering my anxiety seems to help. Like you said other people don't seem to notice this in me, but inside & to me it is scary.

  All I can say is try to figure out if you have certain triggers, and take baby steps in trying to deal with it!
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  Winsor Pilates

  by Dimples in

  1. social
  2. physical

  has anyone tried the exercise program winsor pilates?

  i was thinking about buying it.

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  Good as a part of any workout routine. Love the Windsor Pilates "Buns & Thighs" workout. Sure felt that one!
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  Do you still love your relatives/friends who shun you?

  by HadEnuf in

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  2. friends

  as i was participating in my daily duties of domestic slavery i got to ruminating about my mom, sister and brother who are shunning me (even though i am neither df'd of da'd).

  i got to thinking to myself that i don't really miss them all that much.

  in fact; i almost feel that i have lost the abundance of love that i once felt for them...well, except for my brother who i have never gotten along with anyway.

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  I still love them and they will always have a place in my heart and mind. However as I have realized that my life runs pretty smoothly unless/until one of them appears or makes contact I have to try to distance myself. Mind you with our family some of it is "shunning" due to the organization and the rest is just general disfunction.

  I used to believe that certain family members shunned me as they claimed it was part of what they believed and I needed to respect there beliefs. Then another family member was DF'd and this person who was the biggest promoter of the "respect my beliefs" line is still in contact with other non DF'd/DA'd members - so I think that most JW's or ex's can use the shunning arrangement and all it entails as a tool to hurt others or in whatever way best suits there mindset at any given time.

  I think it is better to focus ones love and energy on healthy relationships instead of ones that are so unstable, unhealthy and unreliable.
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  FOOD in DUE SEASON - The JWD Holiday Cookbook

  by Lady Lee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well i have been thinking about this and was wondering if anyone was interested in contributing some holiday recipes for a special edition of food in due season - the jwd holiday cookbook.

  some of us have been out for a while and have begun to establish special holiday traditions.

  for some this whole idea of celebrating holidays is rather new.

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  Sent you some PM's lady lee.
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  Are You Fading, In, Out or Not Sure?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  i'm interested to know which category we are in.

  i am fading fast and no longer reporting time or going to meetings.

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  Completely Out!

  I've been thinking.... on the 25th anniversary of my disfellowshipping, I may go back to the body of elders, tell them I'm still "unrepentant", and have myself redisfellowshipped.

  LOL SFJim!
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  when people in general/friends talk about

  by orangefatcat in

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  when people in general or perhaps your friends start talking about their religion, does this get you riled or do you some how want to still defend the jw's way of thinking or do you leave the room all together, not knowing what to say.

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  If it is friends ~ listen and learn. People in general (strangers) talking about religion ~ walk away. I have no desire to be part of any religion but find it interesting to know about other peoples beliefs.