Ooompa:
I am so happy to read your heart sleeve. I have followed your one line posts and have often wondered about the story behind you and your Avitar. Young Frankenstein being one of my favorite comedies of all time. Got to hand it to Mel Brooks!
Anyway I know where you have been as our life experiences seem to be very similar. I am fortunate to have left with at least my wife in tow, or it seems more accurate to say she was pulling me along. She was ready to give up on the JW's years before me but stuck with it for my sake.
I feel the double agent life or hiding true feelings is long term detrimental to us and a great strain to real relationships (not the fantasy ones JW's feel they have in their conditional brotherhood)
I am glad my wife was patient with me and wonder if there isn't a lesson to be learned there. Had she just left would I have drawn a line in the sand and tried forever to prove the JW way to her with far different results, is hard to say.
But it is for each of us to decide what our boundaries will be in the exit process. I remember reading the story of one JW from Washington State who put his experience on the Internet. He found it far more advantageous to work out a plan to open his families eyes to the errors of the Watchtower slowly until they were ready to step away from it together. Doing that was far better than running at the bulwark of the JW machine by tackling the Elders and CO's or frontal attacks on key issues with our families. I eventually did what you did while in actuality my wife did the above. I alienated everyone, so it is with sadness that I recognize her way is to be preferred.
Cheers from "Aby Normal" Frank75