Posts by Odrade

I love this site. I get to say what's really on my mind religiously and doctrinally. Really good resource for questions. My big thing right now is finding out every last lie we were told, so it's fascinating to me to see new subjects brought up daily that never even occurred to me.

Also it has been a real help to make contacts behind the "scenes" as it were. It makes me less isolated after giving up all my so-called friends at the Kingdom hall. And it helps to know that I'm not the only one with psycho fanatic parents who are trying to drag me back in with emotional blackmail. (More on that later, when I'm ready.)

Odrade

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Emergence from the WTS - suggestions

by Phantom Stranger in

i speak as a "raised-in-the-jws" adult, out for almost 20 years.

i am writing this post in the earnes hope that someone emerging from the jw's can benefit from some small part of my experience (not because i think i know the only right way to leave...).

one of our big inhibitions against leaving is the fear of losing all of one's support network.

Odrade

Good suggestions Phantom. Some I'm already trying (start yoga in 2 weeks), some are new ideas. The point about seeing a counsellor, not a cult one, just a regular one to help learn how to function normally--well taken.

Odrade

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have any of you been in/are in an abusive relationship

by orbison11 in

jw
friends

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and if so, how did you get out, or how are you planning to get out.. thanks.

wendy

Odrade

I just noticed there are two men posting on this thread about being in a domestic abuse situation. I know a couple myself, both only really getting out when the wife cheated and left. Both of you guys--((((())))))

Odrade

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Breaking up is Hard to Do......

by tyydyy in

i have been dating this woman for two months.

i somehow agreed to being monogamus with her....the details aren't important..but here i am stuck in a relationship that daily grows more unbearable.

i have been trying to get the nerve to end it for the last 6 weeks...lol well it's true.

Odrade

Eew. You know what? Lady Lee is right. She has a right to know so she can get tested. Full disclosure, but don't use that as the reason.

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have any of you been in/are in an abusive relationship

by orbison11 in

jw
friends

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and if so, how did you get out, or how are you planning to get out.. thanks.

wendy

Odrade

Yep. emotionally abusive. Fortunately circumstances just worked out that it ended. Badly, but ended. Fortunately, because I had such knowledge of how and why he got like that I probably would have stayed with him forever until I was completely broken as a person. I loved him. Finally he just broke up with me one too many times. I couldn't take it anymore. I would have ended up in the loony bin. So I just stayed broken up.

If you are in a bad situation, get out now. Even if it is financially or emotionally hard. Even if you love him with all your heart. You can't fix him. Don't wait until you are broken. You will heal that much sooner and easier if you do it now.

((((wendy))))

Odrade

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Denial lurking

by oredigger in

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good evening all,.

i'm ashamed to say i have lurked here for a couple of years without having the courage to jump in.. the insight i have found in these posts has done much to heal the broken hearted.. there is no one that can truly understand this particular experience this without living it.. i was raised in the lower mainland of bc., i will share my own experience as courage will alow.. sincere thanks to all of you for helping me to heal and understand that i am not all by myself.

Odrade

Welcome oredigger!

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Just VENTING...

by Confucious in

hey friends,.

i had a chance encounter with one of the elders in the congregation i was in today.. guys, still today, i feel like a broken man.

somedays i just want to sit and home a cry all day for all the pain this organization has given me.. i came out from the "world" and came into the "truth.

Odrade

((((Confucious))))))))

I can't tell you the hurt that is in my heart. I can't tell you the PAIN that I feel inside.

Yes you can. We will understand like no one else will.

Odrade