SMURFETTE, this is a really difficult time for you as it is. I completely agree with ASLEIF. You go there, hold your head up high, stick with your worldly family members. If anyone starts getting preachy with you just cut them off and say "This isn't the time or place to be preaching to me, I would much rather if you left me alone". Show them you're not intimidated by them. You have every right to be there. Religion shouldn't even be an issue. I'm sorry for your loss, I know exactly how it feels to lose a beloved grandparent. We'll be thinking of you, so think of us if you begin to get uncomfortable. Remember, you know something they don't, they're living a lie.
SisterLiz
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JW funeral! Help!
by smurfette inmy grandma died yesterday.
i love her very much and miss her terribly.
she joined the jw's late in life after years of my mom coaxing her to join.
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The JW Martyr Complex?
by lisaBObeesa inlike my mother before me, im a martyr.
i am almost unable to make a choice based on what is best for me.
and of course this has over time made me a depressed, bitter person who, much to my horror, explodes with rage from time to time.
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SisterLiz
I remember that no matter how much I did, how hard I tried it was never enough. My mom was seriously ill and had severe asthma. The funny part was that it was the Kingdom Hall making her sick. It was newly built and the fresh paint and the new carpet fibres gave her severe allergies so she had to miss many meetings. My father had to work the evening and night shifts at the time in order to support the family and that, in their eyes was unacceptable because he had to miss the meetings. We all felt guilty, we all felt like total crap and for what? When we all finally did leave it took a while to shake loose all that guilt and fear that "God is watching you, he knows what's in your heart" bullshit. Little by little I've been able to let all those years of indoctrination sift out of my brain......now all that's left is relief that I'm out and finally free, and residual bitterness and hatred towards the society and it's followers.
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Spells, Wiccans, and Witchcraft
by SpunkyChick ini just returned home from a nightmarish trip to chicago.
i came in peace, and was shit on by my aunts and a cousin.
what they did was unforgivable.
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SisterLiz
Yup, I'm an ex-JW who has become quite interested in Paganism....really anything occult, but mostly paganism. I also have read "the big blue book" among others. One thing I love about this is that you can practice it alone. Go with your feelings, be true to yourself.
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Abuse was the only reason I left. Posted on the net in 1996.
by cat1759 injehovah's witness elders .
abused my 4 year old
when my son matt was three years old, he was molested by his 26 year old aunt (my sister in law).
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SisterLiz
The anger I feel right now is incredible. I can almost feel my face turning dark red. It's incredible how full of themselves these elders are. I can't believe the way they handled your situation. What ended up happening to your ex-sister-in-law?
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What does it really mean to "have love among yourselves"?
by micheal inif you ask any active witness most will say they are the only true religion because they have love among themselves.
but not going to war and killing another jw or going anywhere in the world and getting a free meal is fine but it does not constitute a true love among themselves.. forgotten is all the backstabbing, all the varying statuses within themselves and the never ending criticism that they have within themsleves.
never mind if a person becomes publicly reprooved, not disfellowship, but reproved they are still basically shunned and looked down upon.
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SisterLiz
It means nothing to them, it's total crap. It's what they preach but obviously don't practice. They show "love" when it suits their purpose, it's a pitch, a phony and deceiving selling point. What they really mean is kiss our ass and blindly follow us and we'll "love" you. Question us or stir up shit and beware of the consequences. We wont play with you anymore.
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Do You Think That As A Poster You Can Make A Difference In Someone's Life?
by minimus inwhen you post here, do you feel that you that you can make a positive difference in someone's life?
or is this place just a spot to hang with your friends?
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SisterLiz
I finally found people I can relate to. I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!! Thanks
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Do you miss being part of something big?
by sleepy in.
at one time i was one of "gods chosen people", part of a special group of people who had exclusive access to hidden truths about the earth and its people.. now of cource i realise i'm just like everyone else and all the puzzles are still there.. kind of miss that feeling sometimes..
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SisterLiz
Piph, you're hilarious! Good thinking. As for missing being part of something big.....NO WAY. In fact, after the meetings I'd feel drained and really stressed out. I felt like I never belonged. I felt lost. I wasn't part of the world, yet I wasn't really part of the organization....at least that's I felt inside. Now, I'm part of the world and having a blast making up for alll that lost time. "WWWOOOOOOO" As Ric Flair would say.
Yes I'm a wrestling fan.
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I received this in a Email today..A must read
by Parliament inhow to stay safe in the world today:.
1. avoid riding in automobiles because they are responsible for 20% of all .
fatal accidents.. 2. do not stay home because 17% of all accidents occur in the home.. 3. avoid walking on streets or sidewalks because 14% of all accidents occur .
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SisterLiz
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA....ho hum. Sorry. I almost just died of laughter.
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How many of you went to the elders when you / someone did something wrong ?
by run dont walk ini've read a lot of threads of late, where people stated when they did something wrong they would go the elders the next day and confess.. i find this truly bizzare !!!.
okay, maybe i didn't have a conscience as a jw, i did alot of things wrong, but, that would be the f--kin' day i would go to the elders and confess anything.
i would never tell those old goots anything, because then they would have something to hang over you for a long time.
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SisterLiz
I never went to the elders to confess anything, not that there was anything to confess. But an elder did come to me once asking for me to spy for him. I went to school with a guy from my congregation, and I guess this elder had something against his family or something and asked me to keep a close eye on him. I was about 16 years old at the time. I told him that I nver see him at school and couldn't help him......that bastard.
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How many want out?
by ignored_one inhow many jws are there currently in the wt who want out but are held back by things they feel they can't control?
i hear posters say that if they're still jws then they must believe it.
what about the people whose whole family are jws and don't have any outside friends to turn to or for whatever reason are relying on their jw family for financial help and know that if they expressed doubts they would be cut off no questions asked.
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SisterLiz
I completely and totally agree, it's near impossible. That's their trump card I think. You're cut off from the world in a sense. The only people in your life are JW's, if you leave you're all alone, literally. You have to be a really strong person to be able to handle that. I've seen so many cases of people who leave, then come crawling back. They say it's because they faltered and now realize that this is the truth bla bla bla...but the truth is that they're alone and can't cope with that. Being free of an all consuming lie is worth the loneliness.