startingover,
good question. Here is my take on that and this is why you have to be balanced in your view of the bible and realize WHY things were written and at what time.
In Matthew 28:19, 20 Jesus said to his diciples "Go make diciples of people of all the nations" and then baptize them as Christians. Now, it is the long held belief by most Christian churches (and I just KNOW I am going to get flake for this) to believe that what Jesus was saying here is that it is our personal duty as his followers (Christians) to convert the world.
I believe this is a false view:
Prior to this statement, the only people who were being preached to about the gospel were the Jews. Christ said himself that he came for the lost sheep of Israel ONLY. This verse was written to tell his followers that now is the time that it is ALLOWED to go make diciples or spread the gospel message to "people of the nations" or non Israelites, the gentiles. That is all he was saying. You can now speak to them about Christianity also. Not that he was saying I am commanding you to preach and convert all the gentiles. Just simply, go give them the message too. You cannot convert anyone. The gospel preaching is "for a witness" not for converting people. If they are inclined to believe than only they will go further and be baptized. No force or threats was ever used.
If you look back in history of the church, there was no door to door preaching. When Paul mentioned teaching house to house, if you read it in the context, he was already talking about believers being taught in their houses. The gospel was preached usually in an open place and those inclined to hear more, invited the Christians to their home to hear more. No one EVER was forced to listen to the Christian message. If they told the Diciples they did not want to hear it, Jesus told the diciples to "keep on walking" to someone else.
That is why I say the Christian message is for Christians only. I don't believe the world will be converted to Christianity. And I believe the God of the Christian bible is only dealing with believers in the Christian message right now anyway. I personally feel in the bible he has a plan for everyone and NO ONE is going to be annihilated for not becoming a Christian during this time which the Bible calls "the gospel age". Only the Christian church will be believers and that is a great number, but still it is not everyone. It is simply not the path for everyone.
Religions use fear of hellfire, and second death to try to convert people who dont really want to be Christians anyway. So what is the point. When you believe in a God that has a plan for everyone, believers and nonbelievers, your life is so much better and stress free. My children have already said they do not want to be Christians and since I am not under the fear of an org. and understand God's plan, I have no problem with that. I would never think to scare them into becoming Christians with hellfire or second death. These are simply man made doctrines.
And frankly, I am thrilled not to have to shoulder the burden of trying to convert the whole world!