Isn't it better to have a more focused direction with one partner rather than continually fragment one's life with numerous partners? But somehow this is not the fashionable thing to do or the politically correct to suggest. Despite the bitterness and aggravation that each ended relationship causes.
Greendawn! You are assuming that each ended relationship ends in bitterness and aggravation - well it doesnt! While I was away both my exes - the one that ended 10 years ago and the one that ended 3 months ago both called to check I was having a good time and whether they could do anything for me in my absence. We talk most days and are good good friends. From my experience I feel like the more relationships I have the more wonderful friends I make.
Life does not become fragmented by numerous partners unless you are trying to microamanage relationships with them all. How does my life get fragmented when I choose to invite a casual partner to join me in my otherwise solo activties that night? I'm not having a relationship with my dildo and neither am I having one with the one night stand. Neither are they with me.
I dont say this because it is fashionable. Have you thought that the majority of us dont get lucky enough to find a partner thats good enough to last a life time. I 've had one good enough for 3 years and one good enough for 9 years and several good enough for one night. When I find someone I like I settle down with them and when we need to grow separately and take different paths we become friends. Who knows, may be I will meet someone who fulfills everything for all time - but I wont know that until I take my last breath and have been with them all that time so I am making no predictions and taking what life offers generously and giving it back to. Generously. I would feel selfish if I kept me all to myself! ;-)
Mouthy = I love everything you wrote!