Why do you support having sex out of marriage? (page 5)

The wanderer

Dear Free2BeMe:

I think this becomes a personal matter for each
individual to consider. However, I am with you
on your thoughts.

I am old school, meaning that I liked the old
Witness way of waiting until marriage. However,
if I really loved a person and knew she was
the right one I would make the exception.

Respectfully,

The Wanderer

P.S. Good topic of discussion!

theinfamousone

i think we all have to make our own choices.. i mean i am now in a commited relationship, but in the past, sex with well, strangers, was fun... albeit not half as emotionally fulfilling as it is now... sex is an act, it can be beautiful and loving, but it can also be something that is necessary! i mean, we all do what we need

the infamous one

JWdaughter

One can be screwed up both literally and metaphorically, married or single and be in stupid and bad relationships with or without a wedding ring. Divorcing is very $$ and devastating, and has a stigma that is probably more difficult than 'immorality' is these days.

Sex outside of marriage has resulted in some marriages that never should have been due to pregnancy. That is tragic for all concerned if a true loving relationship does not quickly develop. I don't support having sex in OR out of marriage with a person who is not absolutely trusted, valued and cared for. Might as well do aerobics and masterbate for all the emotional value that loveless, friendless, fearful sex has. (fearful being a person you would NEVER want children with, or fearful that they will betray or hurt you.

JWdaughter

Thinking of leaving now: 34?? Now that you are out, you can develop some normal relationships and friendships. You won't need to tell us all the gory details:) Oops, not to scare you. Its not gory.

Shelly(Of the 'use it or lose it' school of thought)

greendawn

It's a matter of personal temperament then whether one finds a long term or short term relationship appealing. To me short term relationships are pointless, better have a permanent relationship and grow up children in a happy stable environment.

found-my-way

Not all sexual unions produce children...

the ones who are smart about it, will do everything to make sure that conception doesn't happen unless the couple want children.

I wish you all a safe and happy sexlife!

Thinking of Leaving

I know I should probably be ashamed of being a virgin at that age, but while being a JW I was proud of it. Now I don't even know where to begin. I must say I want to have sex, I really do, but the cult has imbedded in my mind that it's wrong and I will only regret it. Only a temporary enjoyment of sin right? I also don't want to have sex with anyone unless I'm absolutely sure the person loves me, that he's not just in it for the sex. I know it sounds stupid....good God I'm almost 35

Hortensia

thinking of leaving - why should you feel ashamed? There's no disgrace in having sex or in not having sex. It is a personal choice. If you change your mind, you might want to try it out. But no one says you have to, so stop feeling ashamed for something that is no one's business but your own. Anyone who wants to can get laid, so if you want it, it's out there. If you want to be more selective, that's OK too. If you're just not interested, you don't have anything to prove to me, at least.

here's where I will offend many many people I imagine. If you want to try out sex, get the hang of it, not wait for a true love who may or may not arrive, ask a close friend of the appropriate gender, a trustworthy one, to show you the ropes, so to speak, with no commitment on either side.

mouthy

Thinking of leaving....I must say I admire you immensly!!!! I hope you find a man worthy of you. I think to keep your self for ONE man -who loves you & you love is terrific. I can tell you the man that finds you I am sure will treasure the fact he is the 1st.... I hope you are out meeting others -so you will meet HIM///
Please dont let others think your weird ....YOUR SPECIAL////
Yes I am an old granny.But I have enough men in my group that share they really want a virgin....Could NEVER find one
Thank GOD your out....(((((HUG))))
I HAD to get married & my husband never let mew forget it....Keep it safe until you find him sweetie

greendawn

Yes there is no shame in being a virgin at whatever age and many people want to have sex with feeling involved and not just for the sake of it. It's a case of sex follows feeling and not the other way round.

Why do you support having sex out of marriage?

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