Yes. Having men friends gives you a totally different perspective on things. It seems like to me....and this is just my opinion...that the women I know who have actual men friends in their lives are less crazy as a whole. My guy friends are more likely to tell me if they think I'm in the wrong or overreacting about something whereas women will usually agree with me. Not that I don't enjoy being agreed with.
Women and Men....Can they be 'just good friends'........
by fifi40 100 Replies latest jw friends
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LeslieV
I would have to say that my best friends are male. But to be perfectly frank, I think in the beginning their was some kind of chemistry....but it only has ever been friendship. Maybe that is why it works...there is an intimacy but we don't screw it up with sex, we can enjoy each others intellect, opinions, ideas, and take no offense at what is said one to the other. Makes wonderful friendships.
Leslie
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ninja
you might not have so many men friends once you take off your hobnail boots and immac (sorry...veet) your facial hair....
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FlyingHighNow
- If there is no ulterior motive....
- If there is no amazing chemistry...
- If there is mutual respect...
- If there is an ocean between you...
It can be done, but it can also be very risky. I have a good friend from JWD who I correspond with. We send each other music and offer fellow feeling and encouragement. He is a genuine gentleman and has deep respect for me. That feeling is mutual. I couldn't have the cherished friendship I do with him if either of us did not respect each other, his marriage and my relationship with Andy. I have made some other men friends here that I don't speak to regularly, but I still hold very dear. One of them has an amazing wife who is very generous and caring. She has her friends and he has his, of the opposite gender. They have a marriage relationship that would be the envy of most couples.
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stillajwexelder
- If there is no ulterior motive....
- If there is no amazing chemistry...
- If there is mutual respect...
- If there is an ocean between you...
That is a lot of "ifs" FHN
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nvrgnbk
Let's be adults about this-
HELL NO!
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fifi40
Now I am thinking about this more (and because for Britsh readers the apprentice has just finished)................I was friends with this married couple and got on with them both, but actually preferred the husband................loved his sense of humour and intelligence, but there was no way in a million years that there was anything sexual in it ......................he used to call me his little sis...............we have even joked about if we were the last two surviving humans on earth we couldnt 'do it' for the sake of the human race (well not unless there was a turkey baster involved)....................they have been together from their early teens and are in there own ways devoted to each other...........
Reading some (the minority) of the replies I wonder if it is harder for guys to be 'just friends' with the girlies, than it is for the girlies to be 'just friends' with the guys............could it be really true that (some) 'men think with their ***** whereas girls are just more open to friendship for friendship sake.
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jaguarbass
From my perspective, I guess I'm defining me. I would say no. I am a horn dog. There are all kinds of dogs.
And I would be suspicious of any man trying to be friends with my woman.
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Sassy
well I've been in circumstances where staying friends was easy and leaving it at just friends..
and other circumstances where a lot of time together (in person) led to more..
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nvrgnbk
We're just trying to keep it real fifi.
