Women and Men....Can they be 'just good friends'........ (page 7)

Crumpet

I haven't read all the replies here, but I would say no - its never "just" - even when nothing happens.

Men are never friends with women they don't feel some attraction towards unless they are gay.

Women often want to be just friends with men and dont have to fancy them.

I like being just friends - but almost without exception at some point during the friendship there will be some intimation of something more - usually this involves a tongue down my throat whilst I struggle for air.

(fifi - your avatar is beautiful. Can we be "just" friends do you think? )

Sad emo

I think they can. Most of my longest lasting acquaintances/friendships have been with guys, but then, I'm not exactly a hottie so I guess there's nothing that would 'tempt' them further lol! Because I respect them as friends, I also wouldn't intentionally do anything to give them any false impressions.

I think it's a question of having clear (sometimes unspoken) boundaries and respect. In a genuine friendship, there's enough understanding built up between two folks of whatever sex to 'read' what the boundaries are - although that might still not prevent them from ever being crossed.

Mary

Men are never friends with women they don't feel some attraction towards unless they are gay.

Sorry hon, I don't agree. I had a really good guy friend years ago and he never even hinted that he was attracted to me. He was good looking but I simply wasn't attracted to him physically. I went to his wedding--didn't feel jealous or anything and we remained good friends until I moved.

Junction-Guy

If the woman was "purdy" enough and single, then there's no way I could just be friends, but yeah I have had several female friends in the past and it was just platonic. My best friend in the world right now is a 60 year old, married woman.

But seriously though, can a handsome guy and beautiful girl remain just friends? and if so, why would they even want to be?

nvrgnbk

Thanks BB for the hug!

Aren't these other folks a bunch of pervs?

BTW, wanna meet later for some beers?

Crumpet

Men are never friends with women they don't feel some attraction towards unless they are gay.
Sorry hon, I don't agree. I had a really good guy friend years ago and he never even hinted that he was attracted to me. He was good looking but I simply wasn't attracted to him physically. I went to his wedding--didn't feel jealous or anything and we remained good friends until I moved.

I bet he secretly fancied you and didnt think he was good enough! So there! And who wouldn't - you're delish!

Xena

Men are never friends with women they don't feel some attraction towards unless they are gay.

I think there is a difference between finding your friends attractive and being attracted TO them. All my men friends are attractive men and I can appreciate that like I appreciate any beautiful thing I see, that doesn't mean I want or need to own it. I've had some of my male friends, even the gay ones, comment on my "attributes" but that didn't mean they intended to do anything about it.

Personally I feel it's about people setting boundries and having the mutual respect to stay within them that makes these friendships work.

TheCoolerKing

coolerking wrote:
Mr. Hyde said: Yeah but they must have been gay so that doesn't count. What about men that did fancy you? lol Can we still be friends ? lol
You mean you were never really interested in learning about The Great Teacher? I'm crushed.
Hey Mary, I haven't read the Great Teacher book in years! Can we read it together soon? As friends of course!! TCK

Mary don't forget to take along a spiritual male elder on your Study with mr "cooler", preferably one with a flatulant problem. If the truths in Mr coolers heart he'll put up with the stink

Would you care to join us Brother Hyde?

Ok guys, I'm awake now! lol

Not a problem Brother Hyde! My motives of reading with Mary are purely (un) spiritual!!! But Mary, we better check Brother Hyde's credentials. Are we sure that he qualifies as a spiritual male elder???

TheCoolerKing

Mary - I'd be careful with TCK - I think "bible study" is just a ploy!.
BB

Not true BB! My intentions with Mary are totally honorable!!! LOL

TCK

Sirona

Personally I feel it's about people setting boundries and having the mutual respect to stay within them that makes these friendships work.

Indeed. I couldn't agree more.

Crumpet, I feel sure that every man who has befriended you hasn't necessarily wanted to get into your knickers....but of course some will have wanted to

Sirona

Women and Men....Can they be 'just good friends'........

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