Welcome fading eld
I can sympathize completely with you. Three years ago my sixteen year old daughter was brought into a judicial meeting with five elders-no inquiry first-and they proceeded to spiritually beat her with the utmost cruelty and humiliation.
She didn't do anything horrible-just stupid teen stuff, but they acted as though she was disgusting to them and then accused her of fornication for over two hours, making her read every condemning scripture in the Bible and continually asking "Is there anything more you want to tell us?" After midnight, when she just would not admit to fornication (there was no accusation, no witnesses, and no admission) they told her they were not going to believe her. Much more demeaning went on, then they df'd her, the chairman adding "And if you are still df'd at Armageddon, you can take some comfort in knowing that Jehovah can read hearts."
Her dad (an elder at the time with twenty years experience) was with her, and he had tried to tell them that he believed her. They ignored him completely. Now, of course, he is guilt-ridden because he did not lunge accross the table and beat the $^#T out of them for the way they treated her, and I am because I was not there to try and stop the abuse.
My husband and I were not about to abandon our child. Especially not after the ungodly way these self-righteous B@$&(%#S treated her. Then of course they removed my husband using lies (but that is another story). Fortunately, my husband and I are very much together on how we feel about what they did.
Why take the young and vulnerable and throw them away? And then call it love?
As to your wife:
Also, I would not let my wife get away with violating the confidence of our marriage. Explain to her that this will inhibit free exchange of thoughts and communication between you.
I agree with this totally.
