Fade Unsuccessful

by FadingELD 55 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Highlander
    Highlander

    It appears that you are putting your sons first. I commend you for that. You and your sons are victims of the j-dubs, so I think it's best that you put their interests first so that they(and you) can grow and move forward and away from this sick cult. In regards to your wife, well, she made this bed and now she can sleep in it.

    My wife also 'threw me under the bus' and I have given her a second chance, but she's aware that if she does it again I will file for divorce the following day. You will need to make some serious heartfelt decisions regarding your wife and the future of your marriage.

    You and your sons are numero uno, the wife now comes second. Consider it fair play since your wife gives priority to the WT and secondary status to her husband and children.

    I'm sure she's said those famous words that I've now heard from both my wife and my mother. "I love jehovah more than I love you".

    I wish you well in this long journey ahead of you.

  • Quentin
    Quentin

    Can't add to what has been said...will tell you JWD is the best place you can come to at this time...so Welcome, hope you stick around...

    Best to you, your sons...hope your wife comes to sees what a chuckle head she is...

  • changeling
    changeling

    I'm so sorry.

    Welcome to the board, we'll get you through this rough patch.

    changeling

  • SnakesInTheTower
    SnakesInTheTower

    welcome google...

    glad you are here...tell your story one of these days....

    Snakes ()

  • Hortensia
    Hortensia

    kids who do the dumb things kids do need their parents to stand with them, help them out, teach them how to clean up the messes they make in their lives, make good choices. You can't do that if you just toss the kid out the door and refuse to speak to him any more. Help your kids, whatever it takes. but I agree with others that you need to point out to your wife that telling the elders about your choice of reading is really a kind of betrayal and if she wants open communication, love and trust, that's not the way to get it.

  • JK666
    JK666

    google - Welcome to JWD!

    FadingELD - Let us know how it went when you can!

    JK

  • freyd
    freyd

    Welcome FadingEld. I have a Scripture that you might present to your interrogators.

    Matt 6:15 "But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."

    All jc's run on the premise that the borg must be kept clean. As somebody on another thread noted, "that's cultspeak for the organization means more than you." These jc's are not only unscriptural in nature, but they actually deny the ransom. And what would you expect from a group of men on high who have more control over your marriage than you do, and claim as their authority a form of apostolic succession, whereby the sins of the clergy can be whitewashed in order to keep things status quo. In the thread on the Open Letter to the GB, that thought is something I'd never considered, but for me is the last nail in the coffin so far as understanding what wtland is all about. It is an image of the beast that demands absolute adoration/worship not to mention your time and money. Keep us posted.

  • Billzfan23
    Billzfan23

    Hey fading eld... I wish ya the best - I stepped down as an elder/school overseer 11 months or so ago and I went the quick and dirty exit route.. you can read some of my old posts for details, but I got what I needed from this board and hopefully helped some other folks too man... I will be thinking of you dude - it's not easy..

  • Highlander
    Highlander

    I want to expand slightly upon what Billsfan said:

    I will be thinking of you dude - it's not easy..

    He's right that it's not easy, but your freedom is most definitely worth it.

  • flipper
    flipper

    Fading Eld- I was married 19 years to a woman who threw me under the bus too. Valued the organization over our marriage. Then , even 9 years after the divorce, she still tried destroying my relationship with my daughters . You are definitely to be commended for keeping your priorities straight and looking out for your son's interests. Keep close to them, you sound like a great father. But I would not trust that wife of yours married to Jehovah. I'd trust her as far as I can spit, to be quite frank with you. I've seen too many men messed over by their "alledgedly " faithful "christian " wives. Including myself. Be very careful what you say to her, or she will use what you say to manuever things against you. remember, discretion is the better part of valor. Much peace to you my friend, we care and are with you here to help. If you ever want to talk, just pm me, I'll listen

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