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purplesofa

Welcome to the Board

I am assuming you are older than what your age says.

I hope I never marry again, conditionally. That I am able to have someone love me at the very core of who I am, stands by me and supports me. Even when I go through personal, private struggles in life.

More than any hurt or harm that comes from the organization, this one visit to the elders may top it all. I hope that your wife carefully weighed out the consequences of going to the elders.

I remember early on in the truth, a good sister friend of mine said to me, you dont ever want the elders in your life. Avoid it.

Maybe you can repair this bit of damage that your wife has accomplished. But, the trust is being broken.

It takes a breakdown of trust, respect and lastly love to destroy a marriage.

purps

blueviceroy

To thine own self be true brother . The right thing will happen when we open eyes. After being exposed to the light we cant retreat to darkness and love it again ,

Fly free free bird

Gregor

Probably too late to catch you before the meeting but it would be perfect to get them into 1 Peter chap.3. By vs 15 you have the context that Peter was not talking about "friendlies" when he admonished "be ready to give an answer..." rather these questions were going to come from those hostile to the faith.

Maddie

fadingELD, I am sorry you are in this situation, it is sad that your wife went to the elders. It is quite possible that she was so upset by seeing you with C C book that she panicked and went to the elders without thinking properly. I hope that was the case anyway.

As an ex elder you know how the system works and have to do what is right for you. To be a df'd JW is an awful situation to be in and having family shun you is incredibly painful for many of us, so please don't act hastily.

Maddie

IsaacJS2

I just popped in and saw these posts. I wanted to wish you well and all that other stuff that everybody else has already said. :-) Personally, whether or not I wanted to stay a Witness, I would probably have to straighten out my wife. She has violated your trust in a huge way and it's simply not right to be spied on in your own home.

I have a Witness wife, though she's not what they would consider very active. She knows my stance on things, and I have basically advised her to decide for herself whether she wants me to be DFed or not by tattling like a kindergardener. I gave up on being intimidated several years ago, and the only reason I didn't request DA was because it would make it harder for her to hand with her friends and family.

I'm sure the WTS would consider me an apostate. I'm an atheist, and I have written articles online that are critical of the Society. She would have probably told on me out of fear when we were first married, but not now.

Anyway, if you need any advice or support, this is surely the right place.

IsaacJ

LeslieV

First welcome we are all so glad you are here with us. You need to listen to your own heart...and do what is the best for you. You also need to realize that you do not have to play by their rules. They are just manmade rules anyways. You control the situation, you need not tell them anything that you don't want to. It is your life, not theirs to dictate to you how you should live it. We are here for you.

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Leslie

zack

Here's my advice: Tell them to F@@@ Off. No man is the Master over your faith. I'd ditch the wife.

poppers

Keep coming back here, you'll find lots of ideas and support.

Honesty

I wish you the best.

My spouse couldn't handle a rebellious apostate who loves Jesus and is a member of a Christian church so I am single today.

Looking back, it is probably for the best. I have my sanity intact and don't have to put up with her emotional, verbal, mental and physical abuse anymore... all just because I wanted to worship the Son of God.

BFD

Welcome and I am sorry that your family is becoming just another victim of the loveless WT$.

Sorry.

BFD

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