by Save My Soul 151 Replies latest jw friends
I have known of men to cheat in the hall, but they usually get caught. I have heard great stories about JW men that cheat. Most witnesses are not that bright and make mistakes. Window washers are not that smart and sneaky.
The individual that I mentioned in my initial post has relationships with women. This person WAS respectable in my eyes prior to this event. He literally has a SYSTEM.
Great responses everyone.
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Do you know of men / women that cheat on their spouse regularly? Worldly or witness. Provide details of the circumstances (strip clubs, business trips, girlfriend in other cities, ect..........).
I did not mean just going to a strip club. I know of MANY that go with a condom on and get a happy ending. This seems to happen a lot in massage parlors as well. Business Trips, hotel suites and airports are interesting places. Again, I thought a certain class of person engaged regularly in this type of behavior, but I can see that I was naive, very naive.
Hi sms.
I am window washer with an LL.b (Hons).
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oh my... all that "i can't believe you think like that" stuff...
in my opinion i never "cheated" on my wife (even if your books tell you otherwise, mine don't). but even if - big deal. morals are negotiable. i wouldn't judge anyone who enjoyed a hot night with another lady/gent. you never know what's up behind the scenes.
all that "omg, you'll go to hell, and if you got children you'll go to hell twice" is complete bull. lighten up, what's wrong for you is not necessarily wrong for everyone else. that's just the kind of lifestyle our society was pressed into for centuries. that spouses own each other.
as to the wedding vows: we've had all the jehovah stuff in our vows. now that i am an atheist, does that break my marriage? well, you see, in my eyes marriage is not about vows and fancy stuff. it's not about a beautiful wedding either. it's about partners and yes, also friendship - even if another kind. btw, i didn't have anything about cheating in our vows, neither in our contract.
as to friends: i've got different friends for different things. i would talk to one about my financial situation, i wouldn't to another one. i would talk about sex with some, with some i wouldn't. i'd talk about religion with some, with some i wouldn't, including my wife. still i love them with all my heart. all of them.
Look at nature and you get some answers. I hear that all women are respectable until they stand next to an alpha male and then they turn to jelly for him. So the alpha male most always cheats because many of those women are constantly working him over in a ball game with other women to see who can score most runs - some defer for religious reasons but feel like jelly nonetheless. Hubby is the non-cheat who is the worker ant and had better watch his half of his equity if he even thinks about not giving due respect to the woman who goes to the trouble of relieving him when she is up to it plus feels he deserves it! That sorta sums men up. Some in between the two extremes of course! Been waiting on a woman all my life to prove me wrong!
Of course not.
I've never cheated on my wife of 24 years, nor have I had any interest in doing so. And I have had opportunities.
I believe a good, solid relationship is a bit like holding on to each while the winds howl around you both. To quote the late, great Jessica Tandy: "LIfe has a way of just beating the shit of you." To cheat is to break trust, the very foundation of that relationship. It's much more difficult to hold on if you don't trust the other. And that does nothing but make this life that much more difficult.
Interestingly, I know of several women who have told me they have cheated, but I do not have any personal knowledge of any men who have.
Chris
Big Tex
I hear that all women are respectable until they stand next to an alpha male and then they turn to jelly for him. So the alpha male most always cheats because many of those women are constantly working him over in a ball game with other women to see who can score most runs - some defer for religious reasons but feel like jelly nonetheless. Hubby is the non-cheat who is the worker ant and had better watch his half of his equity if he even thinks about not giving due respect to the woman who goes to the trouble of relieving him when she is up to it plus feels he deserves it! That sorta sums men up. Some in between the two extremes of course! Been waiting on a woman all my life to prove me wrong!
*Raise her hand* I've proved you wrong and I'm sure there are plenty other women on this board and in the real world who can too. Denzel Washington could be on one knee telling me he left his wife and wanted me only and I still would not leave my hubby of close to 15 years...so there! Alpha male my bootylicious a$$!
Josie
Never cheated.
Jeff
Superfine Apostate:
In my opinion I never "cheated" on my wife.
Hmm, I wonder if she would view it the same? Does she know about the other women you have, going by what you said earlier, kissed/touched? If she does and she has no problem with it, then you aren't a hypocrite, and perhaps you just have an open arrangement you are both content with.
If she doesn't know and you wouldn't want her to, then you are one major hypocrite and you know she would not approve and would be deeply hurt, yet you love her "with all your heart". Uh huh, whatever............
