Wording it this way:
IF you really love me...
... sounds like a teenage boy trying to convince his girlfriend of three weeks to, well whatever. How about:
"I have noticed that you are talking about love a lot more often now, and I really appreciate it, but I'm concerned that on some level it's only because you're afraid. That's ok, because I am too. I'm afraid that you will never agree to talk about this and examine this with me...."
Edit:
Okay, I've just read the thread and discovered that I'm a couple of days behind. Sorry bro. Keep it together...