My marriage is falling apart! (page 5)

Quirky1

Man Sacolton, I do not really have any words per se but hang in there if you love your wife. My wife wouln't accept counseling either, the NWT provides all that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Feeling distant? We are distant most of the time too but we do still have some good moments together then it feels like old times.

I'm in hopes of her awakening but I don't see her "letting" it happen. Especially with relatives still in da borg. I think this is the strongest bond to the borg by far. I don't think if it whether you actually believe or not it's "letting go". I feel that if her parents would walk away so would she. Now if your wife is a born in and "all" her family is in this will almost be impossible unless she wants to be independent from the borg and her family.

What's her side of the family think about your choice to DA and you personally? What kind of connection do you have? This may be influential on getting her to let go.

snowbird

Hang in there, Bro.

Peace to you.

LOL at Ninja!

Sylvia

AudeSapere

sacolton wrote: She wasn't happy with the t-shirt that I made (and sold) that ridcules the organization (OBEY! Ushering in a totalitarian regime) and that really set her off.

Probably would be good to apologize for this. She clearly still identifies closely with the organization and took this as a mockery of herself. She is insulted and may not have the words or resolve to discuss more about it.

Especially since she is respectfully allowing you the opportunity to celebrate as you desire, seems a poor decision to overtly attack her affiliation(s).

Glad you made some headway through the mess and hope you two can resolve the hurt.

-Aude.

sacolton

Thanks for the wonderful comments and suggestions. Things are much better now and we are going out to a romantic dinner tonight. I won't bring up religion any more (it has done enough damage already) and just focus on our relationship as a married couple. I guess the only scary part is if something should happen to her and she needed a blood transfusion ... do I just let her die or should I prevent it?

The whole blood issue just doesn't make sense. If a JW got a blood transfusion ... they get disfellowshipped. Big deal! Let them show remorse and get reproved and continue living. Would the organization not reprove someone who got a blood transfusion? Is salvation completely lost with no hope?

LockedChaos

Sacolton

Only advice

Play it for
the long term

This may all
pass

Slowly
Slowly

Awakened at Gilead

Happy for you! Congrats!

BTW, if she is unconscious and YOU decide to give her a transfusion, the onus is on you, not her, so the congregation can't take any action (similar to a rape victim).. however, she may view herself as having been raped, so she may never forgive you... it's a catch-22 mindfuck... sorry to say...either way, obviously, I would err on the side of saving my loved one and ignoring what a bloddthirsty organization says...

A@G

yknot

Heck, she helps decorate and picks out stuff to use.

ahhh the things you can get away with having an UBM!

She did say that the organization is ran by imperfect men, but she believes its the truth.

When things have settled down, perhaps ask her what part of the organization is truth. Many JWs when pressed only really cling to the 3, the idea of a new system to be resurrected into and 144,000 being literal (because not all like to lead but rather to follow).

I guess the only scary part is if something should happen to her and she needed a blood transfusion ... do I just let her die or should I prevent it? The whole blood issue just doesn't make sense.

You act in her best interests. Clearly that would mean telling the hospital professional her blood type!

The whole blood issues is just taking a very long drawn out swan dive.......for legal reasons.

The minute they made it a MOC instead of revoking the deal with Bulgaria.......the death stroke was made and the march into hell began.

jaguarbass

When I left the tower my wife stayed in for 10 years.

I had to get angry with her and the friends and I had to tell them no I dont want to go camping. NO I dont want to go to your picnics. NO I dont want to go skating.

I had to say read my lips.

I dont want anything to do with any Jehovahs Witnesses.

I am suprised they are exluding you.

Things must have changed since 83.

But I still get invited to witness family get togethres by my wifes family.

This past weekend my wifes sisters and husbands wanted me to go to a blues festival with them.

I get tired of telling my wife, I dont like JW's.

MegaDude

In the final analysis I think it boils down to is your spouse worth fighting for

and do you love them more than you detest or hate the Watchtower. I've known at least one ex-JW who kept going to the

meetings with his wife long after his belief in the Society had evaporated. After years she finally came out of the Organization.

Cheetos

Well, here I will tell you what to do, just take her out danceing or listion to a nice band and wear some nice duds that show off your ass man, and make sure you have three red roses in the trunk of your car so that you can sneek out later while she is setting there at the table sipping some wine that bubbles and bring them to her, now you have got to plan this dude it's a must" to go and buy some Elsha colone and put it all over your neck. Now for your lovely wife go and buy her a Clada ring and give it to her along with the roses. Oh" one more thing order up some deep fried crisp Tatter Tots because you are going to need the energy latter dude.

Hootie hoo

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