Your current hall will conduct the reinstatement hearing, they will probably call or write the old hall for details though.
Has something changed since Dec 2006 when I was still an elder? Last I heard, the congo that DF'd is the one that has the final say on reinstatement. They will share some information from the case with the new congo elders, the new congo will appoint 2 elders to monitor the situation (usually the PO and either SO or secretary, but not always), meet with the DF'd person, and stay in communication with the original JC. If the congos are geographically close (or even in the same circuit), the DF'd individual will most likely be required to meet with the original committee. If there is considerable distance, then the new congo elders will stay in correspondence and give weight to the "progress" reported by the new congo. Much has to do with the status of the individual prior to DF, the makeup and attitude of the JC and the BOE, the nature of the "offense", etc.
6 months is bare minimum. When I was in MTS, and at elder's schools, it was emphasized repeatedly that JCs were reinstating DF people entirely too quickly. As one instructor at MTS told us students very directly: "It makes a mockery of the discipline if someone can commit a serious sin, wait 2 months, or even 6 months, then feign repentence with tears. They should in most cases wait at least a year to emphasize the seriousness of the situation to the individual." End quote..almost word for word. Sick. Not about helping a person, about following unscriptural rules.
And COs are often consulted about cases, especially if the 6 month or 12 month mark is around that time; they will put off a decision until the CO visits. Certainly elders will often consult with other more experienced elders outside of the JC, even though they are not supposed to do that. The CO, DO, and the Society are supposed to be the exception. No one outside of the JC is supposed to know details. (as a side note, when a JC needs to be formed, the elder that is made aware of a situation will contact the PO, the PO will convene all the elders if possible, and a "rough" outline of the charges are to be made known to the entire body. Then the (at least) 3 elders will be appointed by the body to serve on the JC. However...from experience, I can tell you that during the initial elder discussion before the JC is formed, entire details are laid out in violation of confidentiality).
Now...more directly to our new member n-kiki...first of all WELCOME. Second of all, as Homer said..you do realize this web site is considered by the Society as an "Apostate" board and that not only mere presence here, but also your membership, that if you are busted, you will have a very difficult time getting reinstated. Third, I HOPE THE MODS WILL MOVE THIS THREAD TO THE PRIVATE SECTION OF THE BOARD. You see, not to alarm you, but you posted on the PUBLIC part of the board. Meaning even lurking elders can see your posting about this situation. I know because a PO in my old congo used to lurk on the public sections of apostate boards...he often brought printouts to our meetings in an effort to DF a brother. The PO was successful.
Finally, to comment on this:
for my family, friends, the elders that disfellowshipped me and most of all JEHOVAH. I cant imagin spending the rest of my life not being able to see my family and have someone else telling my parents that they can not see there furture grandchildern since my husband and i are both in this situation.
Many here fully understand this need. Some are even in similar situations with their family. Just understand that Jehovah is not a part of the equation. Just like the Nation of Israel of old, if the WTBTS was ever "God's Organization" they are not now. And just as the bible says the nation was DF'd for 40 years in the wilderness, so too the WTBTS needs a spanking. That is operating under the presumption any of that account is true.
If there is indeed Jehovah, do you really think a "god of love" or his son Jesus would treat one of his troubled sheep as the judicial committees treat disfellowshipped individuals? I seriously doubt it. So if you are trying to get reinstated to keep family ties, then go in with the understanding that you give up more than you gain. It is a tough decision...only one you can make.
I am an inactive JW myself according to the Society. I am known on this board as a "fader"...one who leaves and no longer considers themselves a JW....and I am no longer on their active rolls.... but if the elders knew I was here they would DF me in a heartbeat as a traitor. I only fade because my JW mom is still active...otherwise I wouldnt care.
If you need to chat more, send a PM... I will help if I can... I wish you well on your journey..sorry this is so long.. others here know of my long posts at times...
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